We often say, "The flame is high when everyone gathers firewood." We borrow it in this subsection to illustrate that when dealing with interpersonal relationships, we must be good at using everyone's strength and be full of cooperation.

It should be remembered that "water can carry a boat, or it can capsize a boat." ”

Your subordinates can be a source of strength for you to achieve results or a direct motivation to overthrow you.

Everyone has heard the story of the "Good Cold Bird".

Once upon a time, a little bird stripped its feathers. It was the middle of winter, and it was shivering from the cold. So all the birds came to his aid, and every little bird plucked a feather from his body and gave it to him. It's good now, everyone dresses it up in colorful and beautiful colors.

However, the bird was not grateful to Dade, but became more and more proud. They even began to look down on other birds, thinking that they were prettier and better looking, so they should be bullied.

Everyone was outraged at its ingratitude. So they all took counsel and asked for the feathers they had given him back.

In this way, the bird was left with nothing, and had to shiver in the cold winter wind, and finally was frozen to death in the wilderness.

It should be said that this fable is a household name in China, but there are still some leading cadres who make some stupid mistakes like that "good cold bird". Let's take a look at the spirit of cooperation of the Canadian geese.

Canada Goose knows the value of collaboration. Perhaps, you often notice that they fly in a "V" formation, and one side of the "V" is always longer than the other - this is because there are more geese. These geese periodically change their leader, the lead goose, because the leader goose opens the way in front of it and can help the geese on its left and right to create a local vacuum.

Scientists have found in wind tunnel experiments that flocks of geese fly in a "V" shape, which can fly 20% more distance than a single goose. The same is true for human beings, who can often fly higher and farther as long as they can cooperate with their peers.

Hartrill Wilson is a well-known orator. He once said that when he was a kid in East Texas, he once walked on an abandoned railroad track with two other children, one of them of average stature and the other of fat, and the children competed with each other to see who could go the farthest on the tracks. Hartrill took a few steps with the thinner boy before falling, while the fatter one walked far.

Eventually, driven by curiosity, Hartrill wondered why. The fat boy said that Hartrill and the skinny boy were walking on the railroad tracks only looking at their feet, so they quickly fell.

Then he explained that because he was too fat to see his feet, he could only choose a target in the distance on the rails and walk towards it. When you get close to your goal, you choose another target and keep moving towards a new one.

Here, we'd like to make another point, that if Hartrill and his friend were walking hand in hand on two tracks, they would keep going on without falling. This shows the value of cooperation. As George Matthew Adan said:

"The one who helps others climb up will climb the highest."

If you can help someone else get what they want, you can get what you want. And the relationship is directly proportional, the more you help, the more you get.

In real life, the "blossom on the tree" strategy is that when the competitive situation is not in your favor, you will borrow other forces that can be used to make competitors think that you are powerful and have a wide network; He's in the confusion, and you take advantage of the opportunity to win the competition. The strategy of blossoming in the tree is not only to build momentum for yourself, but more importantly, to use the opportunities created by others to expand your own influence, which is the magic of this strategy.