Her thoughts went back to nine years ago, when the conflict broke out between him and Ye Hao, and she could still clearly remember everything that happened at that time, and remember her emotions and helplessness without a choice. However, what Professor Lan said was not wrong, some of her behaviors were really inconsiderate, and she should not have realized that he would be so sensitive at the time, and there was no good communication between them, which led to more and more contradictions and misunderstandings later.

"Dr. Lan, I know what you mean." He Xiyan took a deep breath, she actually only knew that she had a problem, in those two marriages.

Professor Lan nodded.

"It's really wrong for him to do it to you or even to your children, which also shows that this ex-husband of yours has a short temper and he can't handle his emotions. When he encounters emotional problems, it is even more obvious, he is extremely insecure, so he uses cold violence to get the attention of the other party, and at the same time vent his dissatisfaction, and when cold violence still can't suppress the anger in his heart, he will turn from cold violence to direct violence. That's why he hits people. The moment he started to hit someone, his emotions were out of control. ”

Professor Lan uses her professional knowledge to analyze.

He Xiyan frowned at this time and looked at Professor Lan.

"Doctor Lan, do you think his temper will change?" He Xiyan is very aware of Ye Hao's bad personality and temper, and when he is with him, what he is most afraid of is that he will be angry, because he always likes cold war and does not like communication.

Professor Lan couldn't help but sigh as she shook her head.

He Xiyan was stunned.

"Can't change it?" She asked again.

Professor Lan, "The nature of the country is easy to change. I can only say that it is difficult to change, especially since he should no longer be young, and his personality and temper have long been determined. Of course, it is not absolute. If he realizes these mistakes and is subconsciously willing to change them, maybe he can get some improvement. However, no matter when and for what reason, as a woman, when we encounter this kind of domestic violence from a man, we must respond with the greatest resistance, especially the first time. First, we must let the other party completely wake up from this first "accident" and "recklessness", accept severe punishment, and carry out deep introspection, so that they can really hurt for a few days, have a long memory, and it is best to be able to "talk about the tiger's color change", and not dare to fall down hard after raising their hands next time. The law of survival that can never be changed in the animal kingdom is the law of survival that can never be changed, and it is also applicable to marriage and family. The timid are afraid of the bold, the bold are afraid of dying, and the man has the advantage of strength to commit violence, so the woman must also have the ability to fight back. ”

"Take your experience, you didn't resist when you encountered this kind of domestic violence twice, but you were just sad and sad on your own, which didn't make your husband feel that his behavior could lead to any serious consequences, so he didn't feel afraid. If you rush out at the time, or even ignore him for a few days, and make him feel like he will lose you afterwards, then he may be scared and will have some scruples the next time. ”

He Xiyan listened to Professor Lan's words, her hands were clenched, her eyes blinked from time to time, what was she thinking, some questions she had never thought about.