The relationship with the superior is a very important part of the interpersonal relationship. Your superior is someone who is closely related to your future, so you must take care to maintain his authority and make him feel good about you. Respect the authority of the superior, do not hurt the self-esteem of the superior, work hard, treat each other with sincerity, if you can do these points, your weight in the eyes of the superior will be greatly increased. Managing the relationship with your superiors is laying the foundation for your future and taking the first step towards success!

1. Save face for the leader

【Social Rubik's Cube】

Masters in the social arena generally do not say the words to be said directly, but implicitly express their meaning.

—Emerson

Chinese are the most face-loving, and as far as Chinese tradition is concerned, in public, you must not lose face, otherwise you will deliberately issue a challenge. Therefore, in public, we must pay attention to giving face to others, this is true for ordinary people, and even more so for leaders.

In the eyes of the leader, if his subordinate makes himself unable to step down and loses face in public, then the subordinate must be hostile or prejudiced against him, and may even be organized and premeditated to make a public attack, as a psychologist said: "People like people who like him, and people don't like people who don't like him." In this way, the result of not saving face in public is that the leader will either retaliate with a-for-tat and regain face by exercising authority, or he will hold a grudge and slowly retaliate by settling accounts after the fall.

This kind of result is naturally what his subordinates do not want to see when they put forward criticisms and opinions, and it also goes against his original intention. He probably forgot that both the leader and himself are Chinese, living in the same society full of human affection and paying great attention to interpersonal harmony.

Leaders pay great attention to their image in public, especially in the presence of other leaders or many subordinates, not only because of the subconscious of a culture, but also because of the need for leaders to maintain their authority from the perspective of exercising power. This need is made even more acute, even indispensable, by public scrutiny.

If the opinion of a subordinate embarrasses the leader, even if he is motivated by good intentions, even if he is indeed "right about things and not about people", the result is bound to be the same: the prestige of the leader is damaged, and the self-esteem is hurt.

Damage to prestige would result in a loss of effectiveness in the exercise of power. It affects the decision-making power and influence of leaders in all aspects of future decision-making, implementation, and supervision. Because one has to ask, is he right? Will it have the desired effect? …… In this way, the subordinates have more doubts in the implementation, which will inevitably reduce the effectiveness of the leadership power. Because the more obedience, the better the effect of power will be. The exercise of power must be premised on effective obedience; Without obedience, power will be in vain.

Hurting one's self-esteem is the most hurtful thing because it touches the most sensitive areas of one's life and undermines the creed of "what makes one human". Losing face in public shows that the leader is losing effective control over his subordinates, and people can't help but doubt his personal ability and even personality. Therefore, whoever is in this situation, the first reaction is definitely anger, rather than a rational analysis of the rationality of the content of the opinion. Well, the series of actions after that must have been very emotional. Even if he covers it up with dignity and dignity, the emotional anger is still there, and this shadow will drown you in a good impression and make you suffer from trouble and regret later.

Therefore, when a leader is hurt by his subordinates in public and loses face, even if it is inconvenient on the spot, he will be jealous and even retaliate in the future. Because if he doesn't, there may be others who will rebuke him in court, making him unable to step down. The reason for "killing a hundred people" and "killing chickens to show monkeys" is precisely the reason!

Zhong Bai is a very promising young man, outstanding ability, serious work, highly regarded by the leadership, only one year into the company to become the director of the business department, Zhong Bai will be promoted step by step, the future is limitless. However, at this time, Zhong Bai made a fatal mistake: the manager accompanied the boss who came from Shenzhen to inspect the business department, and the general manager was very satisfied with the performance of the business department in the past six months, encouraged everyone to make persistent efforts, and said that everyone should mention any opinions. Zhong Bai was not polite, and opened his mouth to say: "General manager, you can't just say it and don't do it!" A few months ago, I said that I would give us a commission, but I haven't fulfilled it yet! The general manager was stunned for a moment, and then said, "Okay, okay, I'll study it again when I go back!" Then he hurriedly left the business department. Later, when I heard that the general manager went out, he said hatefully: "Who is that person?" Why do you not know how to advance and retreat so much! Needless to say, Zhong Bai naturally has no "bright" future in this company.

Zhong Bai made a mistake in not making random comments regardless of the occasion, and he also put forward an opinion that made the boss unable to come to the stage, and the consequence of annoying the boss was that his good future was in vain, and a month later, Zhong Bai was forced to resign. Zhong Bai's experience is quite representative, and the experience and lessons in it should be considered twice and taken as a warning by those who are subordinates.

Therefore, when subordinates give advice to leaders in public, they must pay attention to saving face for the leaders.

Saving face, first of all, shows that you are kind to the leader, out of concern and love for the leader, and to help the leader do a good job. In this way, he is willing to analyze your opinion rationally.

Saving face also shows that you respect the leader, that you still obey his authority, and that your opinion does not mean that you are accusing him, on the contrary, you are thinking about his work.

Saving face is actually equivalent to leaving enough room for oneself, and subordinates can use this margin to conduct more in-depth exchanges and discussions with leaders in private. At the same time, this margin also shows that the subordinates only exercise a certain right to make suggestions, while the leaders still retain the authority to make the final decision. Leaving room will also enable subordinates to move forward and retreat freely, and if the opinions put forward are not precise or appropriate, there is room to save face for themselves.

Of course, we say that when putting forward opinions in public, we should pay attention to the face of the leader, not to encourage subordinates to "see the wind and steer the rudder" and be "good people." We are very much in favor of putting forward more constructive and valuable opinions to the leaders, and at the same time, we also express our deep respect for those who are outspoken and dare to offend the dragon's face.

If we only pay attention to the original intention of putting forward opinions and the reasonableness of opinions, without considering their actual effects, such exhortations can only bring disaster to subordinates. We wholeheartedly exhort every subordinate to save face for the leader in public.

2. How to win the weight of leaders

【Social Rubik's Cube】

The lion king announced the appointment of the fox as prime minister, and the animals were very unconvinced, believing that the fox was useless except for shaving and slapping horses. The lion king stood up: "Who said that foxes only snort and shoot horses? Last time I was sick and needed medicine, who risked stealing it? It's a fox. In the past few years, the fox has been in charge of financial work, and has never made a mistake in his conscientious work, and he is still loyal to me, and when I make mistakes, the fox never looks coldly, but takes the initiative to share my worries and help me take responsibility...... If any of you can do it to the level of a fox, I'll make it prime minister!" When the little animals heard this, they all walked away dejectedly.

For office workers, the most important thing is to get the weight of the leader, and you will get a lot of opportunities when you get the weight of the leader, which is the dream of every office worker. However, it is not easy to get the leadership weight, and you have to put in the effort to do it.

(1) Have the courage to take on heavy responsibilities

As a leader, he is concerned with how to achieve political results. It is true that the achievement of political achievements is inseparable from the cooperation of subordinates. The work of a unit involves all aspects, and it is impossible to do a good job by relying on a leader alone. At this time, the leader will assign some work to his subordinates. Under normal circumstances, everyone wants to make less effort and more benefits. However, for the leader, some of the hardships and burdens in the unit must be shared by someone for him, and when others shirk it, if you stand up for the leader to pick up the burden, the leader will definitely look at you with admiration. Because most leaders don't like subordinates who bargain with him at work, he only appreciates those subordinates who can think about him and share the heavy responsibilities for him.

(2) Do your job well

The quality of the work is a criterion for the leader to judge the subordinates, and in a unit, the work of each position is directly related to the overall interests of the unit. If there is a position that does not do a good job, it will inevitably affect the overall interests.

Doing their own work well is the premise for subordinates to be valued by leaders. For a person who can't even do his job well, what leader would like it?

In general, leaders appreciate smart, clever, intelligent, and creative subordinates, who can often complete tasks well.

Therefore, if you want to be respected by the leader, you must do your job well.

(3) Learn to give credit to leaders

When Chinese talk about their achievements, they often start with a cliché: The achievements are the result of the help of leaders and comrades. It's a tedious way to say it, but it's very useful: to appear humble and cautious, and to reduce the jealousy of others.

Everyone likes good things, and the more delicious things are, the more reluctant they are to give them to others, which is human nature. If you have great ambitions, don't worry about how much you get your grades, but give credit to the people around you, especially your superiors. In this way, if you do something, you feel joyful, and the face of your superiors is also bright, and in the future, you will inevitably have more opportunities to make contributions. Otherwise, if you only make calculations in front of you and rush for quick success, you will offend the people around you and will definitely suffer losses in the future.

However, it should be noted that the matter of making merit cannot be publicized outside or among colleagues, otherwise it is better not to let the gong be done. For the matter of giving merit, it is not suitable for propaganda to make the merit himself, and self-promotion always has the taste of inviting merit and rewarding and disrespecting the boss, so you must not use it. Publicizing the things you give up can only be publicized by the people who have been conceded. Although this is a bit of a waste of your talent, your colleagues and superiors will always try to repay this debt and reward you at the first opportunity. Therefore, to do good deeds is to the end, and don't let people think that you are hypocritical.

(4) Learn to talk

As a subordinate, even if you are talented, don't deliberately show yourself in front of the leader, otherwise, the leader will think that you are an arrogant maniac, arrogant, domineering, and make him feel that you are difficult to get along with psychologically, and lack a tacit understanding between each other.

Leaders also need to understand their achievements and their status in the minds of their subordinates from the evaluation of their subordinates, and when they are praised, their self-esteem will be satisfied and they will have a good impression of the praiser. Therefore, when you talk, you can express your praise for the strengths and strengths of the leader without any scruples.

Try to find natural and lively topics when talking, so that he can fully express his opinion, and you can make some additions and ask some questions as appropriate. In this way, he will know that you have knowledge and insight, and will naturally recognize your abilities and worth.

Don't talk to your boss in more technical terms that you don't understand. In this way, he will feel that you are deliberately embarrassing him; They may also feel that your talents will pose a threat to his position and become wary, thus deliberately suppressing you.

(5) Be loyal to the leadership

One of the most important things for superiors to subordinates is whether the subordinates are loyal to themselves, loyalty is more important to leaders, for example, the drivers of some units are the leaders' "own people", if they are not their own people, some conversations in the car, some private matters are passed out, which will have an impact. Therefore, if you want to become the leader's own person, you must often use actions or words to show that you trust and respect him, and if the leader makes a mistake in his work, he must not gloat or look at him coldly, which will make him extremely chilled. If you can take responsibility, you can take responsibility, and if you can't take responsibility, you can help him analyze the reasons and excuse him. In addition, we should also help him sum up his lessons and give him more comfort.

In the workplace, the likes and dislikes of the leader sometimes determine a person's fate, so spend more time and effort to win the respect of the leader, and you will definitely not suffer.

3. Correctly handle the relationship with the leader

【Social Rubik's Cube】

Successful flattery must adapt to a special environment and a special character, so that it is possible to enter the heart that is ready to accept flattery enthusiastically.

- Johnson

As an employee, you have to come into contact with your leaders almost every day, and if you can handle your relationship with your leaders correctly, then you will have a better time.

So what's the best way to do it?

(1) Always ask for instructions and report often

Do you often ask your boss about work? Or your own problems, have you discussed them with him?

If not, from today onwards, you should change and ask as many questions as you can. There is no shame in an immature subordinate asking a mature boss for advice, and it is a matter of course. Don't think, "If I ask this, will the other person laugh at me?" Am I ashamed? "If you think that way, it's too much to worry about.

Help the leader carry the black pot,

Pay more attention to the preferences of the leader, and the boss who can be a person can be valued by the heart, and he hopes that his subordinates will ask. When a subordinate asks, it means that he or she has something unclear about his or her work, and the boss can answer the question, which can reduce the mistakes, and the boss can rest assured.

If you pretend to know everything and don't want to ask about everything, your boss will think, "It's nerve-wracking, does this person really understand?" "And thus feel worried. When your boss hasn't called you to his eyes, you should automatically ask, "I don't know much about this place." Or: "Is this understandable, I wonder what the manager's opinion is?" ”

Your boss will be happy and say, "Well, just do it!" Or: "That's pretty much it!" "Complement what you don't think of and correct what isn't.

(2) Report new information as quickly as possible

If you hear any new news outside, you should report it to your boss as soon as possible when you return to the company. Especially if you have business dealings with customers or intelligence information from relevant industries, your boss must not be able to ask for it.

Generally speaking, the higher the status, the greater the thirst for information. Information about important customers is even more fearful. Because even some seemingly trivial things may be hidden in the boss, such as the customer's employees or relatives are about to get married, or the customer's transaction status and financial dynamics, etc.

If the boss can get detailed information from his subordinates, he can grasp the opportunity to take action, so that at least he will not lose to competitors in the same industry.

A subordinate who can always obtain valuable information is as important as the right and left hand of his boss. Therefore, once a subordinate gets new information, no matter how big or small the situation is, he must report it to the top as soon as possible, and the boss is of course particularly impressed by this kind of subordinate.

Quickly conveying information is a kind of "dedication" behavior of subordinates to their superiors. The dedication of the subordinates is very good for the boss, and it will at least make the boss indulge in the superiority of being the boss.

(3) Don't forget to compliment your boss in front of others

Giving praise directly in front of your boss is also a way to "flatter" your boss, but it can easily attract the scorn of your colleagues. Moreover, this kind of positive singing of merit and virtue has little effect, and even has the danger of being counterproductive.

Rather than that, it is better to give him a moderate compliment in other parts of the company when his boss is not present. Someday, these compliments will reach the ears of their superiors. In the same way, if you say something that is slanderous, sooner or later it will be leaked. A shrewd and capable boss will definitely place one or two henchmen even in a department that he can't manage.

Whether one's subordinates are popular in other departments is also something that the boss cares about. His subordinates are very popular, and his boss will feel that he is very glorious. If you know that the subordinate spares no effort to praise him in other departments, needless to say, the boss's favorability of that subordinate has skyrocketed.

However, it is important to note that if a subordinate gets too close to someone from another department, especially a boss from another department, the immediate supervisor may be unhappy and suspicious.

(4) Sit next to your boss

It is not uncommon to see many subordinates vying to sit far away from their boss in unscheduled meetings or in some more casual occasions. Sometimes the boss took the initiative to beckon his subordinates to move closer to him, but the subordinates were afraid to obey him.

Maybe some subordinates are afraid of sitting next to their boss and being told to pat the leader's ass behind their backs, and it seems that the leader's side has become a forbidden area. In fact, if you are calm and dare to sit next to your boss, it is a manifestation of self-confidence and self-improvement. You think, sitting next to your boss means answering your boss's conversations at all times. The boss will feel your quality and demeanor from your mannerisms and conversations, and will also see your level of understanding from your analysis of things, and even feel your personality charm from your neither humble nor arrogant, polite and courteous. A person who is confident in his own quality and professional ability is not afraid to sit with the leader. On the contrary, having the opportunity to communicate and communicate face-to-face with leaders will prompt leaders to discern their talents and understand themselves better. At the same time, you can also have a deeper understanding of leaders and learn many new things in the conversation and discussion with leaders. Just like some secretaries are often around the leader, they teach the leader's level of understanding and work experience, and they are exposed to it by words and deeds, so as to "win ten years of reading" and benefit a lot.

All in all, you should always follow the leader, if you are always afraid of people's opinions, and you are willing to be a "back row councilor", then you will never be able to attract the attention of the leader, so you have to learn to be a person.

4. Admit your shortcomings to your boss

【Social Rubik's Cube】

There is a wise saying: "To be truly smart is not to pretend to understand." ”

- Monson

"I don't know", "I was wrong", these two sentences are the most daring and unwilling words for subordinates, they are afraid that they will be underestimated or scolded by the leader after saying it, in fact, otherwise, saying it will only make the leader feel that you are more sincere and trustworthy.

In this world, there are very few geniuses, let alone all-rounders, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Confucius said: "To know is to know, not to know is not to know, and to know is to know." "There's no shame in not knowing or not knowing something. Speaking out will make people feel more honest than incompetent.

When the leader discusses or explains something to you, and you just haven't thought about it or haven't thought about it maturely, you must not pretend to understand or accept it indiscriminately, because your statement will not stand up to scrutiny, it will make the leader feel that you are talking nonsense, and even doubt what you have said and know very clearly. The indiscriminate response is even more troublesome. What do you do if you don't understand the intent or are not familiar with it or even know it?

At this time, saying "I don't know" or "I don't know yet" will show that you are rigorous, down-to-earth, humble and cautious. This "don't know" sentence will allow you to learn more information or draw a comparison with your ideas so that you can choose a more effective method.

Liu Bowen, a generation of famous ministers, once made a mistake of not knowing and speaking falsely. One year, there was a great drought. Taizu Zhu Yuanzhang asked Liu Bowen, who had once divined a hexagram for him, what to do, Liu Bowen was not sure about this matter, but he still hurriedly played a book: "The soldiers who died, their wives were all in other camps, there were tens of thousands of people in total, and they were depressed. The craftsman died, the bones were exposed, and the Wu generals and subordinates were all military households, and they were dry and peaceful. After reading the recital, Taizu immediately set out to get rid of these drawbacks. But after a few days, the drought still prevailed, and there was still no rain. Taizu was very angry, believing that Liu Bowen had deceived him, and even doubted his ability to divinate phenomena, although he had repeatedly worked in the past.

Liu Bowen was reckless for a while, and he was afraid to say "I don't know", so he attracted Zhu Yuanzhang's other treatment, which can be said to be a black for his image in Zhu Yuanzhang.

"I was wrong", it takes more courage to say this sentence.

"If you want not to make mistakes, unless you do nothing." But in life, there are always so many things to do, and there is always the possibility of making mistakes so many times. No matter what kind of fool they are, they defend themselves, and a lot of people do. But how can paper envelop the fire and cover it for a while, can it cover it for a lifetime? Knowing your mistakes and admitting your mistakes is your best choice.

It's clear that you're wrong, and you have to cover it up, which will make the leader feel that you are unwilling to admit your mistakes and can't face up to reality. And, in order to cover up your mistake, you may also make another mistake for the purpose of covering up, and you will fall deeper and deeper. Only by admitting mistakes and correcting them in time can we throw away the mistakes of the past and start anew, so that we can succeed step by step.

Isn't it also a good thing to admit that you have done something wrong, and to admit it can effectively eliminate the defensive mood of guilt and make you lose your mental baggage?

If something goes wrong at work, knowing that you will be criticized no matter what, it is better to admit your mistakes before the leader criticizes, because in this way, you will definitely gain the sympathy and tolerance of the leader, and the mistakes you make will be minimized. Besides, wouldn't it feel better to admit your mistakes than to endure criticism?

Waller, an art designer who was designing a promotional material for President Johnson, received a call from the president saying that there was something wrong with the design. Waller hurried to the scene, and after looking at the promotional materials, he discovered an error. So Waller said, "Mr. President, you are right, I am wrong, I have no reason to defend myself, I should have done better, I am sorry." ”

The president began to defend him inexplicably: "You are right, but you did make a mistake, and it was just ......" Waller interrupted him, saying, "Any mistake can cause great damage, and any mistake can be unpleasant." The president tried to interject, but Waller continued: "You gave me this opportunity, and you should be satisfied, so I'll do it all over again." ”

"Nope! No! "The president immediately objected." It's just a matter of detail, and it doesn't cause any damage, you just have to make some changes. ”

After that, the president gave Waller a new task.

In this way, acknowledging the mistakes you made will help you get out of trouble. Waller's eagerness to admit his mistakes made the president angry, and his sincerity in correcting his mistakes made the president unbearable to embarrass him.

Most people will defend their mistakes, and your courage to admit them will be commendable, and it will especially attract the attention and trust of the leader.

When Zhuge Liang led the army to confront the Wei army in Qishan, Ma Tan was proud of the enemy and insisted on going his own way, and finally the street pavilion was lost. After Zhuge Liang slashed Ma Jian with tears, he asked for a three-level demotion.

At that time, all the generals felt that Zhuge Liang didn't have to blame himself so much, victory and defeat were a common thing in soldiers, people were not sages, who could do nothing, even Liu Chan felt that Zhuge Liang didn't have to be like this. In fact, Zhuge Liang himself also has many reasons to exculpate, Ma Tan's command has already violated Zhuge Liang's deployment, and he did not listen to the dissuasion of the general Wang Pingzhi, so he was defeated in this battle. However, Zhuge Liang blamed himself for the improper use of people and resolutely asked for a three-level demotion, which moved Liu Chan and added more trust. So, after a short time, he found an opportunity to resume Zhuge Liang's position.

As the old saying goes: "Knowing mistakes can be corrected, and good is great." But to "be able to change", you must first "admit your mistakes", so we think that daring to say "I was wrong" is also "good", because recognizing one's own mistakes and admitting one's mistakes means admitting what one's shortcomings are, and will correct and make up for them, so as to follow the right track to success.

Everyone is not an all-rounder, and when you can't do it or make a mistake, you must be brave enough to admit that the leader will be willing to help you, and holding on will only make the problem worse, and in the end, your image in the leader's mind will be greatly reduced.

5. Don't act better than your boss

【Social Rubik's Cube】

In life interactions, we are more often likable due to our shortcomings rather than our strengths.

- La Rochefoucauldt

Generally speaking, a shrewd leader will like a slightly stupid subordinate because every leader wants to maintain his own achievements and does not want his subordinates to surpass and replace him.

In life, we often see that in personnel transfers, if a leader is assigned a powerful subordinate, he will be worried, worried that the other party will rob him of his position, so he will make things difficult for his subordinates in many things, but if he is assigned to mediocre, he will be very happy to guide and help each other, because he knows that mediocre subordinates do not pose any threat to him.

Therefore, smart subordinates will always try their best to hide their own strength, and use fake stupidity to contrast the leader's cleverness, in an effort to gain the favor and appreciation of the leader. When the leader expounds a certain point of view, he will pretend to be suddenly enlightened and take the lead in applauding; When he has a good and feasible way to do something, he does not directly state his opinions, but informs the leader in time in private or by hints, and at the same time, throws out even "stupid" opinions that are contrary to it. Over time, despite his poor image among the masses and a bit of a "retarded mind", the leaders appreciated it and had a soft spot for it.

More often than not, the boss needs and promotes subordinates who are loyal and reliable, but may not be so good, because he believes that it is better for his career. There is an old Chinese fable called "the opposite of the south", which means that the destination is in the south, but the direction of the car is directed to the north, and the faster you run, the farther away from the goal. In the same way, if the boss uses an unloyal subordinate, and the subordinate is working against him or "being in Cao Ying's heart in Han", then the more fully the subordinate's ability is exerted, the greater the damage may be to the boss's interests.

No one wants to lure a wolf into the house. No one wants to shoot themselves in the foot.

Shen worked in the propaganda department of a paper mill, and one day, the section chief suddenly asked him to sort out the advanced deeds of a model worker. According to people familiar with the matter, this is actually an exam, and it will be related to whether Shen can continue to stay in the agency. Originally, he didn't feel embarrassed by such materials, but with invisible pressure, he had to work hard. It took an all-nighter, and after writing it, it was repeatedly scrutinized, and it was copied neatly. As soon as I got to work the next day, I sent it to the section chief's desk.

Of course, the section chief is happy, fast, and the writing is vigorous and pleasing to the eye, and there is nothing to find fault with in terms of content and structure. However, the more the section chief saw the end, the tighter his smile grew. In the end, he returned the manuscript and asked Shen to revise it seriously, his face was full of seriousness, and it was really difficult for people to figure out what went wrong. Shen turned around and was just about to take a step, when the section chief said as if he suddenly remembered something: "Yes, yes, the word 'whole factory' should be added in front of that 'worker', and it will be changed, just change it." ”

It's that simple! The section chief regained his previous happy appearance, and praised vigorously: "It's fast, it's good." "I passed the exam naturally, and I am still excellent!

Obviously, from this incident, we may get this enlightenment: when dealing with the tasks assigned by the boss, we must try to buy time to complete them quickly, and do not get too entangled in the details and skills of the work. Because if you handle things too satisfactorily for people to find fault with, it doesn't show that the leader is better than you. Otherwise, the boss will feel the danger of "overpowering the master".

Therefore, a person who is good at dealing with the world often deliberately leaves a little flaw in an obvious place, so that people can see at a glance that he is "even so simple that he is mistaken." In this way, even if you are outstanding and beautiful in the forest, others will not stay away from you, and once he finds out that "you are also wrong", he will shorten the distance between him and you.

In fact, if you place yourself a little lower, you will be able to elevate others a lot. When they are lifted up, who has a hostility that cannot be put down? Just like the section chief, when he finally found a mistake, didn't he immediately turn cloudy and sunny again? You know, it is only when he is earnest to others that his self-esteem and prestige can be properly displayed, and his vanity can be satisfied.

When your boss assigns you something, you do it impeccably, and you seem to be more clever than your boss. Your boss may feel that your position is in jeopardy, and your colleagues may perceive you as expressive and capable. Do you feel relaxed in such an atmosphere?

If you do it another way, if you divide the work assigned by your boss and finish it, your boss will be surprised by your exuberant energy first, and it will be efficient. And because you are fast, although you have completed the task but not necessarily perfectly, then your boss will give you some pointers to show that he is better than you. This is like keeping the central position of the ** platform for the leader, just waiting for him to make the "highest instructions". Remember, at no time, under any circumstances, don't act better than your boss and don't let yourself become a ticking time bomb in the eyes of your boss. Leaving some mistakes for your boss to pick when doing things will be beneficial to you.

6. Put the "red flower" on the chest of your boss

【Social Rubik's Cube】

When we think of the impermanence of good and evil, we should not get carried away because of a moment of luck.

- Aesop

Everyone likes to be a meritorious person, but meritorious service is a very dangerous thing, and high merit may annoy the boss and even have fatal consequences. So if there is a certain kind of work that is successfully completed, you should take the initiative to wear the "little red flower" on the chest of your boss.

Gong Sui was a capable official in the era of Emperor Xuan of the Han Dynasty. At that time, the Bohai region had been plagued by disasters for many years, the people could not bear the hunger, and they gathered people to rebel, and the local officials suppressed it ineffectively and were helpless, and Emperor Xuan sent Gong Sui, who was more than 70 years old, to serve as the Bohai Taishou.

Gong Sui took up his post to pacify the people, rest with the people, encourage the peasants to cultivate the fields and plant mulberry, and stipulated that each farmer should plant an elm tree, a hundred white trees, fifty green onions, a bunch of leeks, and raise two sows and five chickens. After several years of governance, the society in the Bohai Sea area was stable, the people lived and worked in peace and contentment, and there was more than enough food and clothing, and Gong Sui's reputation was greatly enhanced.

So, Emperor Xuan of the Han Dynasty summoned him back to the court, and he had a subordinate official, Mr. Wang, who asked to go to Chang'an with him, saying, "I will be good for you!" But the other officials disagreed, saying, "This man is drunk all day long, and he is good at big talk, so it is better not to take him with him!" Gong Sui said, "If he wants to go, let him go!" ”

After arriving in Chang'an, this Mr. Wang was still indulged in drunkenness all day long, and he didn't see Gong Sui. But one day, when he heard that the emperor was going to summon Gong Sui, he said to the gatekeeper, "Go and call my master to my house, I have something to say to him!" ”

With the face of a drunken man, Gong Sui didn't care, he really came. Mr. Wang asked, "If the Son of Heaven asks your Excellency how to govern the Bohai Sea, how should your Excellency answer?" ”

Gong Sui said: "I will say that we should appoint talented people, make people do their best, strictly enforce the law, and have clear rewards and punishments. ”

Mr. Wang shook his head again and again: "Not good! Not good! Isn't that boasting? Please reply as such: 'This is not the work of the ministers, but the power of the gods of the Son of Heaven!' ’”

Gong Sui accepted his suggestion and replied to Emperor Xuan of Han according to his words, and Emperor Xuan was very happy, so he kept Gong Sui by his side and left him in a prominent and leisurely official position.

As a subordinate, the most taboo is to show his merits and self-restraint, and all such people will be suspected of nine times out of ten and will not end well. Back then, Liu Bang once asked Han Xin: "How many soldiers do you think I can bring?" Han Xin said: "Your Majesty cannot lead more than 100,000 troops at most. Liu Bang asked again: "What about you?" Han Xin said, "The more I have, the better." With such an answer, how could Liu Bang not be upset!

Favoring vanity and flattery is the weakness of human nature, especially as an emperor who is watched by all people. It is precisely to cater to this point that merit is returned, so it is a magic weapon to please the boss and seek glory with pets and honors.

I think I have merit and forget my boss, I am always annoying, and it is especially easy to provoke the envy of my boss and the king. Although it is reasonable to confess one's own merits, it is not in line with the needs of human affection, and it is a very dangerous thing.

And giving the credit to the boss is a wise support and a safe self-preservation. If you have the ability to accomplish something, then you have many opportunities to make meritorious contributions. Giving credit to the boss is equivalent to letting the boss owe you a personal debt, and the boss will naturally work hard to promote you and give you the opportunity to make contributions again, so you will definitely not suffer if you give the credit to the boss.

7. Calmly respond to the instructions of the boss

【Social Rubik's Cube】

The harmony is sugar, the opposition is salt, and if the sugar is too sweet, by adding a little salt, the whole will become harmonious.

- Okumitsu

If a subordinate makes a wrong decision, the boss can directly point it out to the former without any scruples, but if the opposite happens, what should the subordinate do?

Before pointing out the mistakes made by the superior, the subordinate must first make one thing clear: the boss is always the boss no matter what, and although he has made mistakes, the subordinate still needs to pay attention to maintaining his authority; If you directly point out that he is not, it will only incur the disgust of your superiors, who will be scolded for a small time, fired for a large time, demoted or transferred. Therefore, if the boss really makes a wrong instruction, you can only skillfully persuade him to correct it, and it will only be boring to go straight to the point.

Emperor Yongle was idle, and wanted to play in Ji'an, Jiangxi, so he passed down a holy decree to the prefect of Jizhou to build roads and bridges.

Xie Jin, who had just been admitted to the bachelor's degree, learned about this and secretly thought: The emperor spent extravagance every time he paraded, the people's taxes increased, and the labor increased sharply. This time, we must try to dissuade the emperor, dispel the idea of parade, and save the people of Jizhou from disasters and poison. So, he rushed to write a recital overnight, and went to court the next day to play the emperor in person.

When Emperor Yongle saw the text, he was furious: "Xie Jin, the Son of Heaven travels to show favor to the people, why do you obstruct it?" What a dog's audacity! ”

Xie Jin said unhurriedly: "The emperor is angry, Xie Jin is sparse, it is really the safety of the dragon body!" The emperor doesn't know, Jizhou has been called 'Jishui Rapid Water' since ancient times, where the mountains are high and there is no road, only from the waterway, the water is rapid and the waves are big, don't you be shocked by the holy car. ”

Emperor Yongle said: "I ordered Jizhou Mansion to build a giant boat, how can I not be able to suppress the 'rapid water'!" ”

Xie Jin smiled: "Even though there is a giant boat, it is sad for Xiajiang County." As the saying goes, 'Xiajiang Xiajiang, Nai breaks the palm', where the river is narrow and there are many reefs, not to mention the giant boat, even the bamboo row is difficult to pass. As he spoke, Xie Jin beckoned, and the lower official brought a flat fish. Xie Jincheng can't blindly follow the instructions given by your boss, you should grasp your own direction and say: "Your Majesty, please see, this fish is produced in the Xiajiang River, because the river is narrow, over time, even the body of the fish is flattened." "When Emperor Yongle saw that it was true, he thought to himself that it was better not to take this risk! He canceled his plan to visit Jizhou.

Xie Jin used his quick and changeable intelligence to do a great thing for the people of Jizhou. In Chinese history, there have been some loyal people who dared to make a bad decision when the emperor made a bad decision, and these people often ended up in a tragic end. In contrast, Xie Jin's approach was much smarter, he dissuaded the emperor from parading, did not mention the parade and disturbed the people, only said that it was for the "safety of the dragon body", and succeeded in convincing the emperor.

If your boss gives you the wrong instructions, here are a few things you can try:

(1) Implication

When you receive an inappropriate instruction and you feel that you cannot or cannot carry it out, you can first give your boss some kind of hint to make him realize that his order is not appropriate. Some instructions are inappropriate, not because the boss is of poor quality and low level, but because he has not considered everything, or he only sees the appearance of things, but does not see the essence of things. If you hint at it, he'll probably realize it right away.

(2) Reminder law

Some inappropriate instructions may be unfamiliar and unfamiliar with a certain aspect of the situation, or some may be forgotten by the boss for a while. You clearly remind him that his boss understands it and will generally retract or amend the order. Of course, the reminder is not a complaint, nor is it a straightforward, hard-line criticism. Reminders should be strategic and as tactful as possible.

(3) Prevarication

For inappropriate instructions from superiors, some can be considered for resignation. There should be reasons for the resignation, and some of them can be raised from the scope of responsibility, for example: "I always feel that this matter is not my responsibility, or the relationship between colleagues will not be easy to handle." "Some can be raised from the special circumstances of the individual. But in any case, the reasons must be true and sufficient. If you refuse, some bosses may ask, "Who do you think should do this?" You can't just name names, and don't just say things like "anyone else can do it except me", the more clever answer is: "I don't know everything about who will do this, or you decide." "The excuse is not a trick, but a tactful refusal.

(4) Procrastination

There are some inappropriate instructions that your boss suddenly came up with on a whim and asked you to carry them out. If you do what you are told and act on it right away, then you are guilty of a de facto mistake. If you can't hint or remind you of such instructions from your boss on a whim, and there is little reason to excuse you, then the best response is to procrastinate. Although it is tacitly agreed or verbally promised, it is actually delayed. If you are idle, your boss will be suspicious, so you have to be busy with other things as a reason to procrastinate and deal with your boss's questioning. The law of procrastination is negative, but it can only be so for inappropriate instructions on some non-principled issues. After you procrastinate for a while, your boss will cool down and may have a new understanding, and he may withdraw the order or let him go.

It should be noted that if the boss makes an order that clearly violates the law, then the subordinate should resolutely refuse and clearly state the reasons to the boss.

8. Deal with four types of "confused" bosses

【Social Rubik's Cube】

Relying on mutual trust and help, we can accomplish great things and make great discoveries.

- Homer

Not all bosses are shrewd and capable, and you will meet some "confused" bosses in life, but he can be confused, but you can't be confused.

(1) Forgetful boss

Some bosses are very forgetful, and they obviously said something the day before, but two or three days later, they said that they had not said it at all, or that they had said it the day before, but after two or three days, they said that it meant that. He often turns things upside down, and he often throws three and pulls four.

For such a boss, the way to deal with it is that when he tells a certain incident or expresses a certain point of view, the subordinate can pretend not to understand, deliberately ask him several times, or put forward his own different opinions, so as to deliberately arouse discussion to deepen the boss's impression. At the end, you can also summarize your boss's statement and repeat it in short words to your boss so that he can remember it as well.

Some bosses, obviously you gave him a certain material in the morning, and in the afternoon he will seriously say that he didn't take it at all, and ask you again.

For such a boss, the best way is not to leave as soon as the materials are sent, or ask someone to transfer them, you can appropriately extend the contact time, and you can also make some specific explanations for the materials, if there are others, let them also know that there is such a material, so as to expand the influence and increase the circumstantial evidence. If it is an important material, you can ask your boss to sign it, and try not to ask someone to transfer it. If you have to transfer it, you can call your supervisor again before or after delivery.

If you are a secretary and receive a document or written notice from your boss asking your boss to attend a meeting or event, etc., you should give him the notice directly and mark out the relevant time, place, and items with his pen, or write it on your boss's desk calendar. If it is a telephone notification, you can transcribe the specific content into a written notice and send it directly to your boss, if the person is not available, you can put it on your desk, but repeat it when you meet afterwards.

(2) Fuzzy boss

Some bosses are vague and general when assigning work tasks, and never have clear and specific requirements; Some can be understood both like this and like that; Some contradict each other, and subordinates are unable to operate and implement them at all. Once you do it, he blames, saying that what he asked for is not that way and that you are mistaken.

For the boss who is often like this, when accepting the task, you must ask him about his specific requirements in detail, especially in terms of completion time, personnel implementation, quality standards, and the amount of funds, etc., as much as possible, and record them one by one, so that the boss can approve them before starting them.

You go to ask for specific instructions or a clear answer to a certain job, but some bosses don't have a clear attitude after a call, some just say "I know", and some say "you look at it". Sometimes, the things that are asked for or reported are mutually exclusive, that is, they are either okay or not, and some bosses do not make it clear.

In order to avoid unnecessary troubles in the future, the subordinates can repeatedly explain their intentions and try their best to induce them to have a clear judgment.

If necessary, you can use the method of providing linguistic premises, such as "what do you mean" for your boss to follow, or use speculative judgment to ask your boss to answer, such as: Do you mean ×××? When the boss has a clear judgment, it is immediately repeated several times to reinforce it, and it can be further extended, if so, then what will happen.

(3) Sloppy boss

Some bosses are very sloppy and often do ridiculous things, which makes their subordinates confused. Some of them do not carefully study the above documents, do not seriously participate in the meetings convened by their superiors, and express their opinions, put forward their views, or publicly convey them without fully understanding the basic spirit.

Manager Ma and the secretary of Company A went to the bureau to attend the housing reform work meeting. During the meeting, Manager Ma was either talking and laughing, or going in and out, and he was not serious. When he returned to the company, he only read from the book. When the employee asked a specific question, he was speechless, unable to explain clearly, and did not understand some of the parts himself.

At this time, someone asked the secretary who was present. In the face of the embarrassed boss, the secretary answered very cleverly, he did not say that the manager did not listen carefully, nor did he give a specific explanation of the problem, but said that these questions were not determined, and he would ask and answer in a few days. Actually, the secretary was clear, and he just said this deliberately in order to take care of the boss's face.

Afterwards, the secretary explained the problems raised by the employees to the supervisor one by one. The secretary does this, although it is a bit fake, but from a relationship point of view, it is completely feasible.

Some bosses have made a conclusion on the application, report, report and other materials of their subordinates without carefully reading them, and then signed the instructions. In this regard, the subordinates should be treated separately according to the specific situation, such as being very beneficial to themselves, but exceeding the scope of what should be, do not keep it secret, but point out with a smile that it is inappropriate; If it is unfavorable or very unfavorable to yourself, you can make necessary explanations, do not be impatient, and do not blame and complain excessively, so as to prevent some confused bosses from becoming angry and stubborn, and making mistakes to the end. Some materials or events are urgent and important, but some bosses are careless and put them on the back burner.

The only way to deal with such a boss is to repeatedly state and emphasize it many times, and it is best for three or four people to take turns to emphasize it, so that they can pay attention to it and take it seriously.

(4) Ignorant bosses

Ignorance here refers to not understanding, not understanding, not being wise, and being a layman. Some bosses obviously don't understand, laymen, and are not good at it, but he understands fashion and pretends to be an expert, he wants to show himself, he wants to intervene horizontally, and some have to command blindly.

Such a boss can be treated separately. If it is an important and principled issue, the subordinate can directly state his or her views, or argue with reason, or resolutely oppose them; If it is a general problem that has nothing to do with the overall situation, subordinates can deal with it flexibly and try to avoid frontal conflicts and intensification of contradictions.

City B has recently built a large-scale, state-of-the-art library. When the construction was almost completed, the director of the city's cultural bureau instructed his secretary to hint to his subordinate librarian and ask for the name of the library to be inscribed. The secretary knew that the director of the bureau was "attained" in calligraphy, he graduated from high school, and he could not even distinguish between willow and face, and the secretary knew that the director of the library had asked a calligraphy master in the province to inscribe the name of the library.

She was quite embarrassed: if she didn't talk to the curator, the director would blame herself for the incident in the future; To say, knowing this, isn't it hard to make the head of the embassy passive?

Later, she made suggestions and agreed with the curator: let the director inscribe and use it, but the production is simple and the materials are ordinary. The calligraphy master's inscription is temporarily spared, but the material is exquisite and the production is fine. In the future, once the director of the bureau is resigned or transferred, he will be replaced with a spare one immediately. At the same time, he sent someone to explain the reason to the calligraphy master and apologize. For such an unwise and unacquainted boss, it should be said that many people will understand this kind of flexible and flexible response.

Don't neglect the relationship with the confused boss, who obviously requires a little more thought, but the advantage is that it is easier to get the other person's support, and he will not hesitate to promote you if he has the opportunity.

9. "Heart-to-heart" with your boss

【Social Rubik's Cube】

Of all the techniques in the world, flattery is the most ingenious and cunning.

- Balzac

In interpersonal communication, if you want to win the favor of your boss, you must ponder your boss's mind more and accurately understand his intentions, so that you can do what he likes.

Only those who can figure out the intentions of their bosses and "prescribe the right medicine" can prosper in their official fortunes, and those who are not good at understanding their intentions can only ask for their own hardships.

President Jin of a certain research institute is a national model worker, and his excellent deeds of reusing young people and promoting young people have been vigorously publicized by various propaganda media. But when he thought that his term as president next year was coming to an end, he felt very embarrassed. He himself hoped to be re-elected as President and to implement all the ideas that had not been fulfilled in his current term. He himself knew that as long as he did not offer to resign as president, no one would replace him. But this is contrary to the image he left on others of "cultivating young people and promoting young people". He hoped that if he proposed to resign from the post of dean, many people would retain him as president for another term, and said that "without you as dean, our institute will suffer great losses, and whether you are re-elected as dean is not your personal matter, but has a bearing on whether our institute can become a national first-class special research institute." After listening to Dean Kim's words, the Director of Personnel felt that the time had come for him to show his talents, so he analyzed the conditions that the new dean must have to meet with Dean Kim, and made an in-depth analysis of the advantages and disadvantages of the three possible candidates in the institute and their impact on the institute after becoming dean. He was praised for being a conscientious personnel director. Later, however, when I talked to the Director of Human Resources, I never mentioned that he would not be the next dean. But when he talked to the secretary general about his resignation as the next president and his desire for young people to become the next president, it was a different story, and the secretary general immediately said things like, "The change of president cannot be rushed!" The promotion of young people needs a process". From time to time, President Kim talked about his idea that he would not be the next president at many small meetings in the presence of the secretary-general, and the secretary-general immediately repeated the words of persuasion that he had spoken many times. Later, when President Jin was re-appointed as president, he promoted the secretary general to vice president, in charge of the personnel, finance, and infrastructure projects of the whole hospital, and also promoted the serious director of personnel to the vice president in charge of family planning, safety and security, and labor unions.

In daily life, we should also know ourselves and know each other, "see what people say", use different ways of communication for different people, and adapt to changes in order to go smoothly. For example, when getting along with the leader, it is necessary to make some necessary corrections to one's way of dealing with the world according to the leader's personality characteristics and his likes and dislikes, so as to quickly win the leader's favor and establish a certain relationship. On this basis, leaders will be interested in understanding and examining your talents, and make you "heroes useful".

Zhang Qiang is warm and generous, very good at dealing with all kinds of people, after being transferred to a new unit, his first thought is how to win the favor and appreciation of the leader. After doing some research, he learned that the leader was conservative and appeared in front of the leader as a conformist.

After initially winning the favor of the leader, Zhang Qiang wanted to give full play to his enthusiasm, helpfulness, and generosity, and take the initiative to communicate with the leader and establish friendship. Unexpectedly, the leader was withdrawn and suspicious, liked to be alone, and was not accustomed to Zhang Qiang's enthusiasm. After Zhang Qiang hit the wall a few times, he decided to change his strategy to conform to the personality characteristics of the leader, and no longer often revolve around the leader.

Later, Zhang Qiang found that the leader had one of his biggest hobbies - playing tennis, so he practiced his skills for a period of time, and then frequently appeared in a club that the leader frequented, and every time he played against the leader and learned from each other. This move really worked, and the leader gradually relaxed his psychological defense in the ball and became friends with Zhang Qiang.

After some exchanges, the leader naturally understood Zhang Qiang's advantages and talents, and reused him in his work. Zhang Qiang did what he liked and did an excellent job of selling himself to the leadership, thus winning the success of his career.

It can be seen that doing what he likes is not only a means of being an official, but also a superb art of life. To win the favor of your boss, you don't have to be around your boss every day, but you need to carefully observe your boss's interests, hobbies, and personality.