889. It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on others

"As the saying goes, 'Relying on the mountains will fall, relying on everyone will run, relying on yourself is the best.'" In this case, is it not enough to rely on others to save yourself? ”

"It's not entirely like that. However, when dealing with the world, you should know the truth that 'those who respect others will always respect them, and rely on others rather than on themselves'. To respect others is to respect oneself; It is better to rely on yourself than on others. If you don't respect others, they won't respect you. Respect for others is not about flattery, but about treating each other with courtesy. I haven't seen you treat him politely, but he bites you back, unless you offend him beforehand, or you have a misunderstanding with each other, or that he is a madman or a psychopath, and there is no other reason. On the contrary, if you always like to talk about right and wrong and attack other people's privacy, the other party will definitely use color and-for-tat. Because you don't respect people, and at the same time you lose your self-respect, who will respect you? It is better to rely on others than on yourself, because to rely on others to do things, you have to rely on others; On the other hand, if it's your business, others won't do it for you. And, even if he doesn't do it, you can't do it; If you do, you still owe him a favor. From this point of view, it is not always good to rely on others to do things, whether they are close friends or not; If you don't do it well, it will hurt your feelings. Many things, unless it is a last resort, can be done by yourself, or try to rely on yourself, on the one hand, to overcome difficulties and increase ability; On the one hand, it is also free from indebtedness. As the saying goes, 'Relying on the mountains will fall, relying on everyone will run, relying on yourself is the best.' And that couldn't be more appropriate. ”

"On your own, how to do things, how to start a business?"

"Do things with a clear conscience, and start a business needs to do what you can. What is the basis for doing things, but I want this heart to get by; No matter how big or small the business is, you must always do it. Whether it is good or bad to do anything, sometimes there are no certain standards and credentials, just ask for a conscience without shame. When starting a business, no matter what kind of industry you are in, the most important thing is to be able to cope with it. Many things, whether done well or badly, do not have a certain standard. Sometimes I do well, but others say that I am not good; Sometimes what you do not do well is said by others; Sometimes others are lazy, but they are treated well. You say it's not evil? This is all an irrational phenomenon! In fact, there is no definite set of foreign words, and there is no reason to talk about many things in the world. The good can die a short life, and the wicked may live a long life and be rich; However, none of this should have any effect on how we face ourselves. In all things, I want to do my best, so why should I care about outward discredit? Don't go against your conscience because of external influences. There is nothing more important in the world than one's own conscience. The cause of the world passes by with the wind, but the conscience follows him for a lifetime. If you are sorry for someone, you may not be able to feel at ease until you die. Therefore, 'peace of mind' is also a very important philosophy of life. When deciding which profession to pursue, if there is one disagreement, it is impossible to be happy. If the ability is not enough, it should be enriched; If there is a lack of interest, you can try to cultivate it. Assuming that none of these can be done, it is better to try to change industries and not let yourself be drilled into the horns. There are many things that can be done in the world, and you can be the champion in every walk, how can you be hanged on a tree? ”

Ye Aiqing is reasonable. Do things with a clear conscience, and start a business needs to do what you can. I feel like I'm going against that. Circumstances are impermanent, and they must be self-reliant, and time is fleeting. I can't help but think about the great cause of my future! ”

"The difficulties are only temporary. I believe that we will be able to overcome all difficulties and strive for victory. Mencius said, 'Born in sorrow, die in peace.' Perhaps at this most difficult moment, our army was able to save the day and survive in a desperate battle, and this miracle cannot be said to be absent. ”

"I hope so! Merit articles are passed on to future generations, and historians record loyalty and treachery. I think that even if all of our Central Plains Field Army were killed on the battlefield, history would make a correct evaluation of our army's merits. ”

"The big husband deals with things, judging right and wrong, regardless of good or bad, regardless of success or failure. Success or failure does not become the criterion for dividing heroes and grass cowards, there are victorious heroes and defeated heroes. Of course, heroes who can do victory must be commendable. ”

"The big husband deals with things, judging right and wrong, regardless of good or bad, regardless of success or failure. How do you understand this? ”

"A person with aspirations does things only asking how to do it right, and does not ask whether it will bring him a blessing or a curse, and whether the result is success or failure, but he still keeps doing it. That is, as the saying goes, 'people do good deeds, don't ask about the future'! However, we must also understand that right and wrong must be known to oneself, and righteous people must first correct themselves. I can't know what I've done right or wrong, but I hope to know people? The gains and losses of the ancients are not necessary, but they must be discussed. If you can't know for sure whether your own behavior is right or wrong, where do you want to know the right and wrong of others? What the ancients did in the past was a gain or a loss, let's not discuss it for the time being, the important thing is to understand our own gains and losses first. 'Good criticism' is a common problem for many people, but there are not many who can clearly understand the right and wrong of what they are doing. How can you know if another pillar is crooked? If your own eyes are blind, how can you know if someone else's eyes are blind? People must first know whether all their thoughts, words and deeds are correct before they can criticize others. However, there are not many people who can reflect on themselves in this way, and they often shout loudly when they see stains on other people's clothes, but they don't see that their faces are all black. There are even some people who like to write big articles to criticize the ancients, if it is really for the sake of history, so that the sages will not be buried. However, we should also think that if we can't understand the rights and wrongs of those who are as close as ourselves, how can we know the rights and wrongs of the ancients? The ancients were virtuous, can they be virtuous? The ancients were good, can they be good? "The past is gone, and those who are not can be traced", the ancients have become a thing of the past, and the rights and wrongs cannot be changed, and what people do today still depends on their own performance. It is better to work hard from oneself, so that the wrongs of the ancients will no longer be reproduced in the present people, which is the most important meaning of 'taking the past as a mirror', and taking history as an experience also lies in this. ”

"Do you say that the meaning and pursuit of life lies in wealth, glory, and financial status?"

"Not really. The article is a landscape of landscapes, and wealth is a phantom of smoke and clouds. The article is like a landscape, it is a realm of illusion; And wealth is like a cloud of smoke, an image of nothingness. What fame, fortune and status, glory and wealth, money and power, are like a passing cloud, which is not brought in life or taken away in death. As far as time is concerned, beautiful articles can still evoke people's hearts after thousands of years, just like mountains and rivers, unchanged for thousands of years. And no matter how long the wealth is, it will not be more than a hundred years, and it will disappear and be destroyed. In terms of space, the article can accommodate endless landscapes in one article, making us feel like we are in the scenery and vivid. However, wealth can only give us a small space, and we have to work hard to maintain it, unlike articles that can make people wander in it, and enjoy themselves, and even experience endless wisdom and opportunities for life. Therefore, the meaning and pursuit of life lies in the landscape article, not in the smoke and clouds. The so-called 'merit articles are passed on to future generations, and historians record loyalty and treachery.' 'Just showing off wealth and status, there should also be deeds or articles worthy of being left to future generations.' Despite his fame, his or her personal character and intentions could not deceive the historians who recorded history. A person's wealth and glory only extend to the body; And the merit article can reach future generations. What is only about the body, no matter how revealing it is, is just a little trick, and for him, how is it different from the grass and trees? Therefore, the value of a person does not lie in wealth and wealth, but in whether life is beneficial to the world and whether death is taught to the world. The life of Zhongshan is to relieve the shackles of 3,000 years; The teachings of Confucius are the forerunners of civilian education in later generations, and it is true that the value of life lies in this and not in the other. Qin Shi Huang is the emperor, isn't his prestige great? And the Six Kingdoms, burning books and pit Confucianism, killing countless people, how can their tyrannical acts escape the pen of the historian? The prestige is only temporary, and it disappears after time; No one can hide the eternals contained in the historical pen. When you are alive, you can stop the mouths of the people, but after death, how can you stop the fingers of thousands of people? The prestige is outside, and the character and mind are inside, so Wang Mang is hypocritical and extraordinary, and he can also see the true chapter; That is, when Duke Zhou died in the auxiliary government, his heart could not be understood. When he was born, he helped the township, and what happened after death was worth his life. ”