Afflictions are the indulgence of the mind. Small troubles, as soon as they start, will gradually become countless times more powerful than the original. If a person thinks too much, he will lose the joy of being a human being.

Most of people's troubles are made up out of thin air

Spring flowers and autumn moons, summer winds and winter snow, are all beautiful scenery in the world, pleasing to the eye, relaxed and happy. However, we always can't appreciate the beauty we have at the moment, but complain about spring and autumn, hate summer and fear winter, or yearn for the snow in winter in summer, and yearn for the beautiful sun of summer in winter, and never go well. This is because there are always "idle things on the mind", entangled in trivial mundane things, and thus losing themselves. As long as you let go of everything, appreciate the unique taste and charm of the four seasons, perceive and experience with a keen heart, and don't let troubles and prejudices stop your heart, you can realize the best environment of "good season in the world" anytime and anywhere.

An unknown monk who struggled to find the path to enlightenment but found nothing. On this day, he passed by the restaurant, and his shoelaces were scattered. Just as he was tidying up his shoelaces, he happened to hear the singer upstairs singing: "You have no heart, I will rest ......" and suddenly realized. So the monk called himself "Gelou Monk".

"If you have no heart, I will leave", the singer sings it as just a helpless comfort for a frustrated lover: Since you have no feelings for me, I will no longer worry about it. Although the singer is unintentional, it does not harm the listener's intention. In the ears of monks who have been seeking the Tao for many years without success, "I will give you a break if you have no heart" has a different taste. In his opinion, the so-called "you" means helpless inner troubles, which seem to be surging, but in fact they are illusory and unreal, and they are simply "unintentional". If afflictions are illusory, why bother looking for ways to get rid of them?

As long as we are going through life, there will inevitably be some things that will occupy our hearts and linger, and we can't eat or sleep, but these things are not so important that we have to pretend to be necessary, but we are mediocre people.

There is a successful businessman, although he is worth tens of millions, but it seems that he has never had an easy time.

He came home from work and had just stepped into the restaurant. The dining room was ornate in walnut, with a large dining table and six chairs, but he didn't pay any attention to them. He sat down at the table, but was very agitated, so he got up again and walked up and down the room. He absentmindedly knocked on the table and nearly tripped over a chair.

His wife walked in and sat down at the table. He said hello and tapped his hand on the table until a servant brought the food. He swallowed everything one by one quickly, his two hands like two shovels, constantly shoveling the food in front of him into his mouth.

After dinner, he immediately got up and walked into the living room. The living room is richly decorated: a large Italian leather sofa, a hand-woven Turkish rug on the floor, and famous paintings on the walls. He threw himself into a chair and picked up a newspaper almost at the same moment. He hurriedly flipped through a few pages, glanced at the headline in large print, and then, tossing the newspaper to the floor, picked up a cigar. He took a bite off the head of the cigar, lit it, took two puffs, and placed it in the ashtray.

He didn't know what he was going to do. He jumped suddenly, walked over to the TV, and turned it on. When the picture appeared, he turned it off impatiently. He strode to the coat rack in the living room, grabbed his hat and coat, and walked outside. He's been doing this hundreds of times. Although he was very successful in his career, he never learned how to relax himself. He is a nervous businessman and often can't let go of the trivial things in the company. He has no financial problems, his home is an interior decorator's dream, he owns four cars, but he can't relax himself. In order to achieve success and status, he has devoted all his time to achieving material achievements, however, in the process of working hard and making money, he has lost himself.

If we are too involved in life, we will be disturbed by many aspects of troubles, often making us physically and mentally exhausted and miserable, but heart diseases still need heart medicine, only when we get rid of the shackles of these troubles from the heart, and put them all behind, can we make the soul truly relaxed.

Happiness and joy are originally the products of the spirit, and the expectation of obtaining them by increasing material wealth is not a matter of fate? If we forget to sleep and eat in order to own a luxury car, a luxury villa; Accept it in order to raise your salary once, and lose your smiling face day after day; In order to sign more contracts, year after year, day after day, wearing masks and forcing smiles...... In the long run, we will eventually be overwhelmed and end up in a hospital bed in grief. At this point, we should ask ourselves: Is money really that important? Some people have money for only two purposes: to buy food in the prime of life, and to buy medicine in the twilight of life. So, life is too short to always think of yourself as a money-making machine. How sad it is to live all your life to make money! If we want to live more freely, we need to look down on money and not blindly pursue pleasure. While we create wealth with our hands, we might as well have a little more leisure thoughts, don't forget our hobbies, why not take some time to go to the movies with our families, go for a walk, go on an outing...... If so, life will become colorful and interesting; The mind will become relaxed and comfortable, free and comfortable; Life will become infinitely vibrant.

The environment is created by the heart, and the troubles need to be crossed by themselves

In fact, everyone's heart is free, if you lament that your heart is too tired, then you must have locked yourself up. So, why should we be a mediocre who builds a prison on our own? Jump out, happiness is waiting for you.

On dog days, the grass of the academy withered and yellowed. "Scatter some grass seeds! It's ugly! A disciple said.

The gentleman waved his hand: "Anytime!" ”

In the Mid-Autumn Festival, the gentleman bought a packet of grass seeds and asked the disciple to sow seeds.

The autumn wind rises, and the grass seeds float while scattering. "Oh no! Many kinds of seeds were blown away. The disciple shouted.

"It doesn't matter, most of the blown away are empty, and they won't sprout if they are sprinkled." The gentleman said, "Casually! ”

After sowing the seeds, a few birds flew in and pecked at them. "Damn! The seeds were eaten by the birds! The disciple was so anxious that he jumped to his feet.

"It's okay! There are so many seeds that you can't eat them all! The gentleman said, "Whatever happens!" ”

In the middle of the night, there was a shower, and the disciple rushed to Mr. in the morning: "Teacher! It's over! A lot of grass seeds were washed away by the rain! ”

"Wherever you rush, you will sprout!" The gentleman said, "Whatever it is! ”

A week passed, and many green grass seedlings grew on the originally bare ground. Some corners that had not been sown have also turned green.

The disciple clapped his hands with joy.

The gentleman nodded: "Rejoice!" ”

"Anytime, casual, casual, casual" sums up how natural life is, how much open-minded! Don't be vain, don't be greedy, don't panic, don't be rash, everything is natural and casual, there will be too many things in life that can make you sleepless and worried? There are many things that everyone wants, and for this reason, the world is strife, you hate and I hate me, but how many people can get their wish? Why don't you liberate your heart and be selfless and desireless? Let yourself jump out of the circle of your heart, unload your burden, and be a little calmer?

Don't fantasize that life is always so round and full, and don't fantasize about enjoying all the springs in the four seasons of life, everyone's life is destined to trek through the ditches and bumps, taste bitterness and helplessness, and experience frustration and frustration.

A little free, the gains and losses exist in the world, abandon them in the heart, life will inevitably see all the colorful and colorful, and the elegance will be thanked early. Staying and stopping should not be a choice when you are disappointed in life, look up at the sky, the sun will always be dazzling, and the moon will always be dark in the night. Life cannot be blamed, and if you move forward in the color of sunshine, life will shine brightly. If you think about it, you can be very happy, just like the experience of this troubled teenager.

One day, when he came to the foot of a mountain, he saw a shepherd boy riding on the back of an ox and playing a melodious flute in the midst of a green grass.

The troubled boy was very strange and walked up to him and asked, "Can you teach me the way to free my troubles?" ”

"Relief from troubles? Hee-hee! You follow me, ride on the back of an ox, blow the flute, and have no worries. The shepherd boy said.

The troubled boy tried, nothing changed, and he was still not happy.

So he continued to search. Walking, walking, unconsciously came to a river. There are weeping willows on the shore, and an old man is sitting under the shade of the willows, holding a fishing rod, and is fishing. He looked pleasant and happy.

The troubled young man stepped forward again and asked the old man, "May I ask the old man, can you give me a way to relieve my troubles?" ”

The old man glanced at the melancholy young man, and said slowly: "Come, child, fish with me, and keep you without trouble." ”

The troubled boy tried, but it didn't work.

So, he continued to search. Soon after, he met two old men playing chess on the stone slabs on the side of the road, and they were so happy that the troubled young man stepped forward to seek relief.

"Oh, poor boy, go on, there is a square inch mountain in front of you, and there is a Lingtai cave on the mountain, and there is an old man in the cave, and he will teach you the method of liberation." The old man said as he played chess.

The troubled young man thanked the old man who played chess and continued to move forward.

When I arrived at the Lingtai Cave of Fangcun Mountain, I saw a long-haired old man sitting alone in it. The troubled young man bowed and explained his intention to the old man.

The old man smiled and stroked his long hair and asked, "So you're here to seek relief?" ”

"Yes, yes, yes! I implore the seniors to give advice and guidance. The troubled boy said.

The old man replied, "Please answer my question." ”

"Did anyone tie you up?" The old man asked.

“…… No. The troubled boy was stunned at first, and then replied.

"Since there is no one to bind you, how can you be liberated?" After the old man finished speaking, he touched his long hair and walked away laughing.

The troubled boy was stunned for a moment, thought about it, and somewhat understood: Yes! If there is no one to bind me, why should I look for a way to be liberated? Am I not asking for trouble, tying myself up?

The young man was about to turn around and leave, when suddenly an ocean turned in front of him, and a small boat rippled in front of him. The boy hurriedly got into the boat, but there were only sculls on board, and there were no ferrymen.

"Who's going to cross me?" The boy looked around blankly and shouted loudly.

"Please cross yourself!" The old man flashed on the surface of the water and floated away.

The boy picked up the wooden paddle and paddled lightly, and suddenly a plain turned in front of him, and a great road was close in front of him. The boy stepped onto the road and walked away laughing.

The way to get out of the prison of the mind is in your own hands, no one can control your thoughts, and if you still bother yourself with your troubles, no one else can help you. Because no one can impose his will on your head. If you want to be happy, why not jump out by yourself?

If you don't care too much, you won't be too frustrated

The most taboo thing in life is to care too much. Worried about sacrificing his life and forgetting his death, and returning to the west with his life, it was inevitable that there would be a disappointing ending in the end......

Caring too much will only make you more frustrated, on the stage of life, who has no gains and losses? More or less, there are always times of frustration. If you are attached to this, you will be happy.

Life needs something not to care about. Don't care, any frustration will go with the wind. A hundred years of life, the deceased is like this, why not let those troubles and sorrows gradually drift away with the white clouds in the sky, and finally disappear into the boundless sky.

Plain is true, don't care too much, it is a kind of cultivation and mind that is peaceful in the heart, forgetting both things and me, and it is the ultimate in the realm of life. Only by not caring too much can you detach your soul, smile at the clouds, and watch the flowers bloom and fall. Only by not paying too much attention to it can we let go of our burdens and live with fun.

There is a poor old couple in the village, and one day they want to pull the only horse of some value in the family to the market to exchange it for something more useful. The old man led the horse to the market, and he exchanged it for a cow, and then for a sheep, and then for a fat goose, and then for a hen, and finally for a bag of rotten apples.

In each exchange, he wanted to surprise his wife.

When he came to a small hotel with a large bag to rest, he met two Englishmen. During the small talk, he talked about his journey to the market, and the two Englishmen laughed when they heard it, saying that he would be beaten by his wife when he returned. The old man insisted that he would not, and the Englishman made a bet with a bag of gold coins, and the two returned to the old man's house together.

The old woman was very happy to see the old man coming back, and she listened excitedly to the old man's account of the market. Every time she heard the old man talk about exchanging one thing for another, she was full of admiration for the old man.

From time to time, she said, "Oh, we've got milk!" ”

"Goat's milk tastes just as good."

"Oh, how beautiful the goose feathers are!"

"Oh, we've got eggs to eat!"

When she finally heard the old man carry back a bag of rotting apples, she was equally upset, and exclaimed, "We can eat apple pie tonight!" ”

As a result, the British lost a bag of gold coins.

Don't feel sorry or complain about life because you have a bag of rotten apples, make some apple pies, so that life can be fun, beautiful and happy, and you may get unexpected gains.

There is no unbearable hardship in the world, and there is no endless road. When you're upset, tell yourself, "Don't worry too much!" "When you're out of love, don't worry too much. Because there is no fate, they break up. Since Yue Lao hasn't decided on your marriage yet, why should you care too much?

Don't worry too much when you're not having a good time. Think about it, whether you are distressed or sad, even if you can't eat or sleep, you still have to do work. Therefore, the best way is not to care about it, face the reality with a normal heart, and think of a better way to solve it.

Most of the suffering of human beings is due to their own concern too much and mediocrity disturbs themselves. For example, a person in his thirties always inadvertently wants to prove his success. Sometimes, the people around you are indeed measuring you with a ruler, and even sometimes, this measure is direct and obvious: whoever has a "BOSS" logo on their belt, whose wallet is checked and dark, and who accidentally shows the letters paul **ith, who is a successful person. However, are these really worth caring so much about? Is this what life is all about?

In fact, life is like walking, there are twists and turns, there are ups and downs, there are thoroughfares, and there are beautiful scenery. Don't be complacent in the face of good times, don't complain in the face of adversity, just remember that everything "don't care too much", as long as you love life, face life with a peaceful state of mind, and face the world, I believe you will come out of a wonderful life.

Don't let the trifles take away the joy in life

Most people's lives are trivial, and the things they encounter are small. For these small things, we must face them with a tolerant and peaceful attitude, and learn to see open, look down, look far, and see through. Only in this way can we enjoy the joy that life is supposed to be.

Sara is a professional proofreader and has proofread countless publications and books. Because of her professional habits, even in life, Sara unconsciously checks the spelling of words and punctuation to see if they are written accurately. When others speak, Sara always pays attention to whether they are pronounced correctly and whether the pauses are appropriate.

One day, Sara went to a church nearby to attend a service and listened to the pastor read a hymn. Suddenly, Sara heard him mispronounce a word, and she immediately felt very uncomfortable, and the voice of a proofreader kept saying in her heart, "He mispronounced!" The pastor actually read it wrong! ”

At this time, a small flying insect slowly flew past Sarah's eyes, and another clearer voice suddenly sounded in her ears: "Don't stare at the little flying insect and ignore the big camel." "Yes, how can you ignore the whole hymn because of a small mistake? After a while, the flying insect paused in front of Sara for a moment, and then flew away. Sara also quickly regained her composure.

Yes, ignoring the whole hymn with one wrong word obviously outweighs the cost, so please don't let the little things interfere with our normal lives.

If we are angry and calculating the trivial things in life, such as putting on shoes and walking, then our minds will not be at ease, we will not become relaxed, and we will even put heavy shackles on ourselves.

Once something upsetting happens, we must learn to refrain from letting the little things that don't matter spoil our minds, only then can we fill our hearts with joy and peace.

The lion is known as the "King of the Forest". One day, the lion came to God. What did God ask the lion? The lion said that although he had a majestic physique and great strength, and was capable enough to rule the entire forest, he was always woken up by the sound of roosters at dawn. Therefore, the lion asked God to give it a strength so that it would no longer be woken up by the sound of a rooster crowing.

God laughed and said, "You better go to the elephant, and it will give you a satisfactory answer." ”

The lion then ran to the lake to look for the elephant, but before he could see the elephant, he heard the "thump" sound of the elephant stomping its feet. The lion immediately accelerated towards the elephant. When he saw that the elephant was stomping his feet in anger, the lion asked why the elephant had such a big temper.

The elephant kept shaking its huge ears and roared, "There's a pesky little mosquito that wants to get into my ears and itches me to death." ”

The lion listened to the elephant's words and thought to himself, "It turns out that elephants are also afraid of such thin mosquitoes, so what else do I have to complain about?" And the rooster crows only once a day, but this mosquito harasses the elephant all the time. Thinking about it this way, I'm much luckier than that. ”

The lion looked back at the stomping elephant while thinking about it, and comforted himself: "Actually, in the future, as long as the rooster crows, I think the rooster is reminding me that it is time to get up. ”

From the above story, we know that in the face of the little things in life, there is no need to be more serious, learn to be magnanimous, learn to understand and be considerate of others, treat people with sincerity, and feel for people, don't always be obsessed with some small things, and sometimes think about the problem from a different angle, maybe you can get another harvest.

And those who are always sad about small things will be anxious and troubled all their lives, and it will be difficult for them to gain peace of mind. In fact, instead of wasting our time on the trivial things that consume our energy and ruin our emotions, we should ignore them and focus on our careers.

Forcibly trapping yourself in memories will only make you feel more tormented

There is something in human nature called memory, the good is easy to remember, and the bad is easier to remember. So most people feel like they're not very happy. Those who feel happy do so because they remember the happy ones and forget the unhappy ones. This ability to forget is a kind of tolerance, a kind of broad-mindedness. In life, there are often many things that make us feel uncomfortable. Those unpleasant memories often make us feel like we are stuck in our throats. Moreover, the more we think about it, the more uncomfortable we will feel, so it is better to choose to relax our hearts and choose to forget those unpleasant memories, which is tolerance for others and ourselves.

There is a hundred-year-old grandmother with quick thinking, deaf ears and eyes, and radiant face. People were amazed and began to ask her for the secret of her longevity. The old man said with a smile: "Eat more vegetarian food, have a cheerful personality, and have an open-minded mood; If you can afford everything, you must let it go...... "The grandmother emphasized the most is to learn to forget the pain, forget the troubles, forget the grudges, remember the kindness, remember the kindness, and be grateful to repay the virtue.

In fact, memory itself is a gift, and the broad-minded person uses it to give himself, but at the same time it is also a punishment, and the narrow-minded person uses it to punish himself. Therefore, sometimes, the memory is not too good, and the biggest trouble of people is that the memory is too good.

The success or failure, happiness or sorrow of life, depends on one's own mentality in large part. When a person thinks of happy things in his heart, he becomes happy; Thinking about sad things in your heart will make your mood gloomy. So, why not forget about your worries and make your life happier?

There is such a story:

A young woman could not bear the hardships of life and chose to commit suicide by throwing herself into the river. At this moment, an old man rowed by and rescued her on the boat without saying a word.

The captain asked puzzledly: "You are young, you were born when you were born, why do you want to despise yourself so much and find a short-term view?" ”

The young woman cried: "I have only been married for two years, and my husband had an affair and finally abandoned me. Not long ago, my child, who had been dependent on me for my life, fell seriously ill and eventually died. God treated me so unjustly, I lost everything, you say, what is the point of me living now? ”

The captain asked again, "So, how did you live two years ago?" ”

The young woman replied: "It was a time when I was free and carefree, and there was no trouble in life at all. She recalls her life two years ago, and she can't help but smile at the corner of her mouth.

"Did you have a husband and children at that time?" The captain continued.

"Of course not."

"Well, you were only sent back two years ago by the ship of fate, and now you are free and carefree again. Please go ashore! ”

When the young woman heard her father's words, her heart suddenly brightened a lot, so she said goodbye to her father, returned to the shore, and watched him rock away, as if in a dream. Since then, she has never had the idea of committing suicide.

Whether it's happiness or pain, the past will eventually pass, and forcibly trapping yourself in memories will only make you feel tormented! No matter what tomorrow brings, the future will come, and if you want to live better tomorrow, you must meet it with a positive attitude. Even if it was a failure, it was just sent back to the original point by life.

In fact, everyone's life is spent in constant gains and losses, and all unsatisfactory and unsatisfactory things are actually related to the lack of psychological adjustment between gains and losses. Life is like a white horse, if we are obsessed with the scars, are we too indebted to this watery time? Learn to forget, learn to be free and easy, and life will have its own wonderful.

Further, although these psychological baggage belongs only to you, it can cause many people to worry, including your family, your friends...... Sometimes, even if you can't let go, sentimentality and sadness will not only hurt you, but also those who care about you. Are you really willing to let them worry about you every day and feel sad to see you depressed?

Let the impetuous emotions calm and calm

Every day, when we turn on the TV and the newspapers, we see a lot of disturbing news. Another case of "mad cow disease" has been found in Europe, and you can't help but think: the beef burger I ate today is not "mad cow disease"...... The stock market is down again, and you start worrying about the stocks you bought...... Doctors say that toilet bowls are unhygienic and can contag STDs. You suddenly get nervous because you just used the public restroom in the conference building during the day......

At home, at work, or even walking on the street, you will encounter many annoying things: the leader of the unit will inexplicably get angry at you and criticize you for an hour over a trivial matter; On the way, a person thinks you are in his way, and the scolding is endless......

How can people be calm in the face of these chaotic interferences from the outside world?

So, what to do? Keep your mind at peace. Just calm down a little bit, and everything in front of you will be completely different.

Let's try to look at the external distractions that have upset us with a calm and serene mind.

The world is like this, there are a lot of bad news and bad things reported every day, which shows that people have become vigilant. If you are powerless to change, I believe that someone will change, and you should be careful in the future; The child makes you worry about it, but in the end it is up to him to work hard, you can do your duty, and you don't have to worry about it; The leader may have troubles, but he is using you as a punching bag, don't care too much, and it will be over if you are wronged.

During the Wei and Jin dynasties, there was a person who was particularly prone to anger in a hurry, and this person was called Wang Lantian. Once, when he ate a boiled egg, he couldn't hold it with chopsticks, so he got angry and picked up the egg and threw it on the ground. The egg is not broken, and it spins on the ground. Wang Lantian was even more angry, and simply used the clogs he wore to grind the eggs, and the eggs rolled to the side again. The old man's eyes were red with anger, and he picked up the egg, put it in his mouth, bit it hard, and spit it out.

This may be an extreme case, but don't we often ruin our peaceful lives over trivial things? Disrupting our state of mind because of external distractions will affect our physical and mental happiness, and will also disrupt the normal rhythm of life.

Don't be disturbed by the outside world, mess up the pace of your life, and don't be irritable, worried, and anxious, but keep your inner peace. To maintain a calm mind, we must learn to pay attention to our feelings, to pay attention to the quality of our lives, and to pay attention to the most important things in life, which are happiness, health, and the realization of our beautiful ideals. We need to stop worrying about things that don't really fit, like clothes that don't fit well, traffic jams again, someone who seems to be unfriendly to us, who doesn't have me for this promotion, someone else who bought a car and didn't, etc. We also need to learn not to be obsessed with things and let our lives lose balance, that is, not to let the pressure of study and work affect our normal life.

An article in Reader's Digest tells the following example: Bruce is a doctor whose patients are all children with heart disease, some of whom are in urgent need of heart transplants, but have been unable to find a suitable heart. There are also unsatisfactory things in his work, such as the death of a patient. When he gets home, his wife will ask him about his work, and he will talk about it. The couple would then go to their two young sons, hold them or tell them stories. Anna Wilde is a volunteer at a counselling centre for the needy, answering the phone. The caller often threatens to shoot or kill himself, and then hangs up suddenly. If the counselor is a novice, he or she will probably spend the next few days desperately flipping through the newspaper, worried about seeing the news of the caller's suicide. But veteran counsellors generally don't do that. If Wild Flavors & Specialty Ingredients isn't happy at work one day, he goes home after work and cooks a good dinner. She said: "I cut and chop meat, and my dinner is full of flavor and flavor, which gives me energy and allows me to work hard the next day." "Some people spend their days tutoring rape victims, investigating murder scenes, or diving underwater to collect plane wreckage, but still have the energy to cheer for the high school football team on Sunday afternoons," the article said. How did they do such a difficult thing? …… If asked what the trick is, they say it's because they 'understand things.'" ”

This "matter" should be understood in this way - the things in the world are not things that we can control or can do well as long as we work hard, and there are many things that we can only do our duty, nothing more. As the saying goes, "it is up to man to make things happen, and heaven is up to them to succeed", and if we understand this, we will not become depressed or irritable due to the pressure and pain of the outside world. We all feel sympathy for the suffering of the world, and this is a normal and human reaction. But we also need to keep an appropriate distance from it, only in this way is the best way to deal with the pain, and the only way to keep ourselves doing the job well.

In fact, as long as you feel that you are a person worth living, the crisis of life will not prevent you from living life to the fullest. In this way, there will be a sense of security instead of anxiety, and you will be able to live happily and happily with a minimum. With this "sense of security", it is natural that there will be peace and tranquility of the mind.

To maintain a calm mind, you can consciously change your mind when you encounter something that bothers you. For example, when you get stuck in traffic while riding a bus, most people will be restless, but you can think, "This is just the right opportunity to look at the streets." If a friend doesn't come to play with you, you don't have to be upset, you can think, "It's okay if you don't come, you can just read a book." Changing your mind in this way calms your irritable mind.

Zhuge Liang famously said: "If you are not indifferent, you will not have a clear ambition, and if you are not quiet, you will not be far-reaching." "A person who can maintain a peaceful mind in all environments must be highly cultivated, a happy person, and a person who can achieve great things. He calmly navigated the ever-changing world and never lost sight of his purpose. We must strive to develop our own anti-interference capabilities. "Let the wind and waves rise, sit firmly on the Diaoyutai." This "platform" is the quiet mind.