As long as we live healthy, don't complain, don't complain! The human world is ever-changing, and anything can happen. Maybe you're still obscure like a speck of dust. But who knows? Perhaps, when the time comes, you will usher in your glory.

Complaining can lead to a negative life and is the most energy-draining and unhelpful action

For the same life, if he complains and everything he sees is gray, then his life is always negative and negative; If he is full of contentment, self-confidence, and gratitude, then his life is happy and warm. This is the difference in mentality that leads to different results.

After graduating from university, Xiao Zhang worked in the planning department of a company, including the supervisor, and there were a total of 5 people in the planning department. Because Xiao Zhang's writing is good, he was quickly valued by the manager, and some of the company's activity plans were handed over to Xiao Zhang for drafting. Under normal circumstances, the activity plan drafted by Xiao Zhang, with a slight change from the supervisor, will be directly reported to the top of the company, and most of them can be reviewed and implemented, but sometimes they will be readjusted due to the sudden change of thinking of some company leaders.

Once, the company wanted to carry out an activity to send warmth to the grassroots, and the work of drafting the plan naturally fell on Xiao Zhang's head. Xiao Zhang first communicated with the other party to understand the local situation and the needs of the other party in detail, and then quickly drafted the plan of the entire activity according to the specific situation of the company. After the plan was sent, it was praised by the company's senior leaders, and it was a good plan that was both detailed and thoughtful, but also economical and practical. Xiao Zhang was secretly proud of this for many days.

However, on the first night of the event, Xiao Zhang had already fallen asleep, and the mobile phone rang in the haze, and it was the company secretary Xiaowen calling. She told Xiao Zhang that the company's leaders had temporarily changed their decision, that the activity plan needed to be modified, and that Xiao Zhang wanted to return to the company immediately. Xiao Zhang saw that it was already more than 2 o'clock in the morning. "How can there be such a toss!" Xiao Zhang was unwilling, but he had to put on a coat and rush to the company, complaining in his heart about how the company's leaders could change their orders so quickly, and completely disregarded the feelings of employees. When I arrived at the company, I saw that the supervisor was also there. Although the revision of the plan was quickly completed, everyone sensed Xiao Zhang's dissatisfaction.

I don't know why, since this incident, Xiao Zhang's psychology has undergone some changes, his complaints began to increase, and he would take care of little things, and slowly, the emotions of complaining gradually occupied Xiao Zhang's heart. Over time, colleagues began to have opinions about Xiao Zhang and slowly distanced themselves from him. The company's leaders also stopped asking him to take on the main job, but asked him to cooperate with other colleagues.

Instead of solving the problem, complaining can make it more difficult to solve. Xiao Zhang's complaint not only affected his work, but also affected his own career development. Therefore, complaining is not good for people, because it will not produce any positive force, it will only make people more dissatisfied with life, and thus lose confidence in life.

Unsatisfactory people and things will appear around us at any time, once encountered, we will be unhappy, will be worried and nervous, will feel all kinds of pressure, but we should not complain, what we have to do is to actively adjust our mentality, to solve the problem with reason, so that we can let our hearts fly.

People who like to complain always have a negative attitude towards things, refuse to be satisfied with the status quo, and blindly complain about the people and things around him, and it is his complaints that make him completely lose the opportunity to achieve positive results.

In fact, the reason why people complain and complain is because they do not look at the problem with the right attitude and perspective, so they will complain and complain constantly. The quality of things in people's hearts depends on people's mentality, not on the things themselves. Those who are always complaining, may wish to change their mentality, let optimism fill their hearts, and happiness may come to them.

The gloom of life in your eyes actually stems from the gloom in your heart

The world may hurt you, but the extent of the hurt is up to you. The harm of others is only temporary, and the only one who can really hurt you is yourself. If you have always had a wound in your heart, life will inevitably continue to hurt. So, when you complain about fate, please think about whether you have given yourself a reason to hurt yourself.

A pair of twin brothers whose parents died in a car accident when they were teenagers grow up with the help of others, and their lives begin to develop in a good direction. However, an accidental fire burns their otherwise handsome people beyond recognition, turning them into ugly monsters that everyone avoids.

Life was not very wealthy in the first place, the brothers could not afford to pay the huge cost of plastic surgery, and the backward plastic surgery methods at that time did not guarantee much change for them, they could only grit their teeth to adapt to this ugly face. Their lives have changed dramatically since the fire, they are no longer the handsome guys they were popular with, and the disdainful eyes from all sides have annihilated their fragile self-confidence, and life has become a wordless ordeal for them.

The elder brother could not bear the blows of life, so he secretly drank pesticides while people were not paying attention, and left the world where he felt humiliated. The younger brother was very sad, the only person in this world who depended on him was gone, and his world seemed to collapse in half in an instant. That night, he dreamed of his father, his mother, and his brother, and they said, "Come, come into our world, and we will be reunited as a family." He really wanted to be with them, but there always seemed to be a voice reminding him: the value of your life has not yet been reflected, don't let God give you the opportunity to come to this world. He woke up with tears streaming down his face.

Later, with the help of the Disabled Persons' Federation, he became a truck driver, repeating his monotonous and lonely life every day. One day, on his way back to the city, it was raining and the road was slippery, and he had to drive carefully. At this time, he saw a person standing not far away for help, he hesitated, but still stopped the car, it turned out that the person's car broke down nearby, but no one was willing to stop and help.

Later, he learned that he had rescued an influential local entrepreneur who admired the loyal young man very much, despite his ugly appearance. The entrepreneur handed over a freight yard under his name to him to take care of, and he gradually opened up the market with his integrity and strength. He had money, and he waited for the era of developed medical skills, and after several surgeries, he finally restored the appearance of a normal person and lived a normal life.

On his 50th birthday, looking at his wife and children with happiness written on his face, and remembering what had happened over the years, he burst into tears again.

If a person has been unable to get out of the haze in his heart, then his world will inevitably be dark; If he can change his mindset, then his world will change with him. It's just that when we encounter a low point in our lives, we always habitually compromise with reality, complaining about fate in our mouths, and the updates on Weibo are nothing more than "how cruel fate is", "how indifferent human affection is", "the end of the road but no one to help" and other those who want to sympathize but can only exchange for the pain of contempt**, and we have not realized that it is not the world that has given up on anyone, in fact, only we have the right to give up ourselves. If your emotions can change, your life will change with it.

The Frenchman was still unaccomplished, he felt that he was worthless - he had failed in business, he had no one to accept him, and even his wife had left him because she could not bear poverty! He thinks that the world has abandoned him, that he has changed, that he has become extremely inferior, that he has become irritable and vulnerable.

One day, he met a fortune teller in front of the bar, so he reached for it: "Hey, old man, I've been unlucky, you can help me see what's going on." ”

The fortune teller took his palm and looked at it for a moment, and his eyes suddenly gave off a strange light: "Sir, it's really my honor to be able to tell your fortune!" ”

"What do you mean by that?" The man was confused.

"Because you have royal blood, you are the son of a great man!" The fortune teller said in a firm tone, "Can you tell me your birthday?" ”

The man was suspicious and reported his "eight characters of birth".

"That's right! You are the lost descendants of Napoleon! The fortune teller looked excited.

"I am a son of Napoleon?!" The man's heart skipped a beat.

"Yes, you have the blood of the royal family in your veins, you have inherited Napoleon's courage and wisdom, and don't you think, you are somewhat like Napoleon?"

The man thought about it and felt that he was somewhat similar to Napoleon: "But why is my fate so bad? My business went bankrupt, I couldn't find enough work to make ends meet, and even my wife left me. ”

"This is God's test! He wants you to go through these frustrations and pains, otherwise you won't succeed. However, the test is over, good luck is coming, and in a few years you will be the most successful person in all of France, because you have royal blood! ”

On the way home, a graceful feeling welled up in the man's heart: "I can't disgrace the Bonapartes, I want to be as good as my ancestors!" ”

A few years later, the nearly 50-year-old "descendants of Napoleon" earned a net worth of hundreds of millions and became a household name in France.

Was this Frenchman a descendant of Napoleon? This is simply unverifiable and obviously irrelevant. The important thing is that he drove away the negativity in his heart, he was no longer decadent, so he succeeded.

Turn the feeling of complaining into a motivated force

We always complain that life has treated us wrongly, so we have a lot of resentment towards life. When these grievances are vented, they will implicate the people around us, and the ensuing quarrels will destroy the harmony of our lives.

As the saying goes, "Every wall is a door", and even if the wall in front of you is impenetrable, you can still see it as a way out for you. In trivial daily life, there will be a lot of things happening every day, if you have been dwelling on what has happened, constantly complaining, constantly blaming, always feeling that others are better than you, always feeling that life has wronged you. If you continue like this, your state of mind will become more and more depressed. People who only know how to complain all the time are destined to live in a state of confusion and chaos, unable to see the clear sky of life above their heads.

Two children who grew up together lost their parents for special reasons, and both were adopted by families of diplomats from Europe. Both have attended world-renowned schools. But there is a big difference between the two of them: one of them became a successful businessman in his 30s; And the other teaches at a school in China and is well paid, but he always feels that he is a failure.

In 2010, the kid who was doing business in Europe returned to China and invited his family, friends and neighbors to dinner, including the kid who taught in China. They went to dinner together. Dinner began with a pleasantry of conversations, where everyone talked about their development and anecdotes over the years. As the conversation unfolded, the teacher began to tell more and more about his misfortune: how he was a poor orphan, how he had been adopted by his parents from Europe, and how lonely he felt. He returned home with the enthusiasm to serve the country, and how he was not taken seriously, and so on.

At first, everyone showed empathy. As his resentment grew, the businessman became more and more impatient, and finally couldn't help but stop his narration: "Enough! You've been talking about how unfortunate you are. Have you ever wondered what would happen if your adoptive parents had picked someone else out of hundreds of orphans? The teacher looked directly at his hair, the businessman, and said, "You don't know, the root of my unhappiness is ......," and then went on to describe the injustice he suffered.

Eventually, the kid in business said, "I can't believe you're still thinking that!" I remember when I was 25 years old I couldn't stand the world around me, I hated everything around me, I hated everyone around me, as if everyone was against me. I was sad and frustrated. I thought the same then as you do now, and we both have plenty of reason to complain. The more he spoke, the more agitated he became, "I advise you not to do this to yourself anymore!" Think about how lucky you are that you don't have to live a miserable life like a real orphan, in fact you have a very good education. You have a responsibility to help others out of the poverty vortex, rather than making a bunch of self-pitying excuses to fence yourself up. It was only after I got rid of Gu Ying's self-pity and realized how lucky I really was, that I achieved my current success! ”

The teacher was shocked. It was the first time that someone had dismissed his thoughts, interrupting his poignant memories of how easily they had elicited sympathy.

The businessman made it clear that both of them had struggled in the same circumstances, but the difference was that he allowed himself to see the good rather than the bad through sober self-selection.

In fact, all great people never admit that life is irreversible. He would have been dissatisfied with the circumstances; But instead of making him complain and unhappy, his dissatisfaction fills him with a passion to make a career, and what he does has brought to fruition.

There is only the wealth that has been earned, and there is no complaining about the status that comes

In life, many people often complain about their poverty, complain about not having beautiful clothes, complaining about not having a magnificent house...... In fact, material poverty is secondary, and real poverty does not depend on the amount of material, but on the soul, and spiritual poverty is the real poverty.

"I was born into a poor family," said Vice President Henry Wilson, "and poverty took on its hideous face while I was still babbling in the cradle." I deeply understood what it was like when I asked my mother for a piece of bread and she had nothing in her hands. I admit that my family is indeed poor, but I am not reconciled. I have to change that, I won't live like my parents, and this thought haunts me all the time. It can be said that all the achievements in my life are due to my unwilling heart. I'm going out into the world. At the age of 10 I left home and worked as an apprentice for 11 years, receiving one month of schooling a year. Finally, after 11 years of hard work, I was paid for a cow and six sheep. I exchanged them for a few dollars. From birth until I was 21 years old, I never spent a dollar on entertainment, and every cent was carefully calculated. I knew full well what it was like to walk on a long winding mountain road with tired footsteps, and I had to beg my companions to leave me and go first...... In the first month after my 21st birthday, I led a team of men into the inaccessible forest to harvest large logs. Every day, I wake up before the first light of dawn in the sky, and I work hard until the stars peek out after dark. After a month of hard work, I was paid six dollars, which seemed to me a lot at the time! Every dollar looks to me like the big, round, silvery moon tonight. ”

In the midst of such a desperate situation, Mr. Wilson made up his mind that he must change his situation and never accept poverty. Everything is changing, but his heart, which longs to change poverty, has not changed. He doesn't let any opportunity for self-development and self-improvement slip away. Few people value the value of leisure time as much as he does. He clung to the bits of time as if it were gold, not letting a minute or second slip through his fingers without doing anything.

By the time he was 21 years old, he had managed to read 1,000 good books, what a daunting task for a farm kid! After leaving the farm, he hiked 100 miles to Nedek, Massachusetts, to learn the trades of a tanner. He traveled past Boston, where he could see Bunker, Hill Monuments, and other historical sites. The entire trip cost him only one dollar and six cents. A year later, he had already risen to prominence in a debating club in Nedik. Later, less than eight years after he delivered his famous anti-slavery speech at the Massachusetts Legislature. Twelve years later, he entered Congress on an equal footing with the famous social activist Charles Sumner. Later, Wilson ran for vice president and finally got his wish.

Wilson was born poor, yet he was rich. His only and greatest treasure was his unwilling to be poor, and it was this heart that propelled him to the prominent positions of parliamentarian and vice president. Under the illumination of this inexhaustible heart, he climbed to the top of success step by step.

For humanity as a whole, poverty is only a state, and it can never be a result. Because human beings will never be content with poverty forever, but will always fight against it, poverty is only a dynamic and constantly changing process for the whole of humanity. But when it comes to a specific person, it can be a result. For the individual, it is possible to live in poverty with peace of mind, without thinking of progress, and to live a life in humiliation; It is also possible to catch up and gain wealth.

No matter what kind of facts you are facing, the poverty of the heart is extremely terrible, because only the poverty of the heart is the real poverty.

Don't blame others for running away when you're bad, you have to live better from now on

People like icing on the cake, so when you are smooth sailing and thriving, there are many people who are willing to approach you. Human beings are naturally seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, so when you encounter difficulties and are struggling, many people may leave you. Don't complain at this time, don't blame people for being cold. We want to thank those who have been close to you, because they have added "flowers" to our "cake"; We also want to express our gratitude to those who left you in times of difficulty, because it was their departure that poured us a basin of cold water that was enough to sober us up, let us re-examine ourselves in loneliness, discover our own crisis, and give us the motivation to break through barriers and go further.

Chen Yunhe and Lin Yingying have been in love for more than 5 years, according to the original agreement, they should have walked into the marriage hall hand in hand this year, but not long before the marriage, Lin Yingying became a "runaway bride", she left a desperate love letter and went to the ends of the earth with another man.

Those who know Chen Yunhe know that the love between him and Lin Yingying has nine twists and turns, and even some heartaches.

After completing his studies at the Hong Kong University of Science and Technology, Chen Yunhe returned to the company founded by his father as a department manager, managing an important department, and an uncle who had followed his father for many years was responsible for training and guiding him. He was bold and innovative, and the department grew stronger under his management.

At that time, there were so many girls who pursued him and came to propose marriage that it was a dazzling number of people, including many local famous ladies, but he politely refused, but he only had a soft spot for Lin Yingying, who was from the countryside.

At that time, Lin Yingying was not only sweet-looking, but also simple-minded, compared with the women in the city who were snowy and windy, and who drew fame and fortune, she was just like a snow lotus flower who was not able to overcome the shyness of the cold wind, and this simple beauty made Chen Yunhe very intoxicated.

However, due to the influence of traditional Chinese family ideas, Chen Yunhe's parents did not agree with this combination, and Chen Yunhe and his family have theorized countless times for this, and are even willing to give up everything now for Lin Yingying, just to hug the beauty. Under his firm insistence, Chen's father and Chen's mother finally compromised.

Because Lin Yingying's health has been bad, the doctor suggested that they should not get married within 3 years, Chen Yunhe can only postpone the marriage date, 3 years, he has been taking good care of Lin Yingying, giving her meticulous care, Lin Yingying's body gradually improved.

Subsequently, for the sake of Lin Yingying's career, Chen Yunhe endured the loneliness in his heart and arranged for her to study business management abroad. In the past 5 years of dating, it can be said that what a man can do, Chen Yunhe has almost done.

After 5 years of love, affected by the economic downturn, the Chen family's company was greatly impacted. Soon, the company's profits were pressed into a small space, and later, it simply became a loss-making business. In desperation, Chen's father could only file for bankruptcy. Chen Yunhe has also changed from a prince charming to an unemployed young man.

What no one expected was that when Chen Yunhe was in the most difficult time, the girl who had given countless loves, who he was willing to give everything for, and who had sworn an alliance with him, resolutely proposed to break up and follow a British man to go abroad for "development".

The company went bankrupt, and Chen Yunhe was not very sad, because he felt that with his own ability, he would definitely help his father make a comeback one day, because he felt that even if he became a poor boy, at least he had a girlfriend who loved him very much. But now, he really felt that he had nothing, and there was a time when Chen Yunhe was very decadent.

When he was alone, Chen Yunhe repeatedly asked himself: "I love her so much, why did she leave me at this time?!" In the end, he had to accept the cruel truth - she was too utilitarian, she would not live with a penniless poor boy for the rest of her life! Whether she's changed, or if it's the way it was, doesn't matter at the moment. What matters is what to do next.

After calming down, Chen Yunhe realized that he had to work hard, otherwise he would really have nothing. His girlfriend's ruthless departure also gave him a new understanding of love, he understood that love is not a wishful impulse, some people are not worthy of love, and they are not the people who want to love in the end, so let go and let her go, but don't carry resentment, that will only make your heart never rest, leaving cheap sadness for the person who doesn't love him.

Soon after, Chen Yunhe found an old friend of his father's and sincerely asked for his support. With this money, Chen Yunhe founded an investment company in Shanghai, and he learned from the experience and hired a master to manage it, and the company was soon on the right track, and now, Chen Yunhe has accumulated a lot of wealth.

Under the matchmaking of that uncle, Chen Yunhe met a beautiful girl who returned from studying in France, and the two fell in love at first sight, and soon established a relationship, and both parents were very satisfied with each other.

If Lin Yingying hadn't left him at the beginning, maybe Chen Yunhe wouldn't have such a big motivation, maybe he would have gone out to be a senior worker and be able to live the same life. However, she left, and for a while, Chen Yunhe had nothing, which gave him an unprecedented sense of crisis, which spurred him to work hard, as if to prove something, but in fact it was more for himself.

People who have been hurt in the past will live happier than ever after recovering from loneliness, because those people and things make him recognize himself and the world at the same time. If someone has ever turned their backs on you, whether they are your lover or friends, don't forget to say "thank you" to them, because it is this departure that makes you stronger, know how to love better, and know how to protect yourself.