If there are bad people or things that you can't avoid, then it's your duty to be patient. The herb of patience is bitter, but will eventually bear sweet and soft fruits.

Impulsiveness is the devil, and you will always have to pay for your actions

Everyone has a time when emotional control fails, and everyone is impulsive. If we don't pay attention to cultivating a calm temperament, sober reason, and the composure necessary in communication, once we touch ***, we will be furious and emotionally out of control. In fact, there are many people and things in life who have become victims because of the irrationality of the parties in unexpected situations, which makes things vicious.

Zhao's relationship with his wife is not bad. But Zhao has a habit of cooking a few small dishes and drinking some old wine after work, while his wife is very disgusted with Zhao's drinking, and often nagged him when he drank.

One day, Zhao cooked a meal, and while asking his wife to eat together, he opened a bottle of "Erguotou", and his wife saw that he picked up the wine bottle again, and he was angry, so he refused to eat, and stood aside and nagged......

Zhao was in a cup of wine, and his emotions were excited, and the more he listened to it, the more it was not a taste. Suddenly, he picked up a large flower bowl on the table and smashed it at his wife, impartially, and hit it right in the eye socket.

This bowl that flew with anger was really not light, and his wife's eyes were suddenly red and swollen, and she called her family to complain while crying. Half an hour later, my father-in-law, mother-in-law, and eldest brother arrived at the same time. The old lady felt sorry for her daughter, so she began to count down her son-in-law's fault, blaming him for being too ruthless, blaming him for not saying something well, blaming him for beating his wife...... If you say this, I say it, the family is in trouble.

At this time, Zhao's alcohol attacked, blood surged, he walked into the kitchen and found a kitchen knife, seeing that he picked up the kitchen knife, his mother's family quickly ran to the kitchen, and held Zhao down, and the brother-in-law took the kitchen knife from his hand and put it in a safe place. At this time, Zhao was completely stunned by anger, he struggled to break free, and pulled out a 20-centimeter-long fruit knife from the cupboard next to him. The eldest brother who had just come back after reflexively saw this situation, and hurriedly came up to grab the knife, and between the tears, Zhao stabbed the eldest brother in the stomach with force, and the other party immediately screamed and fell to the ground. Seeing the blood gushing out, the frantic Zhao finally woke up, he threw away the fruit knife and sat on the floor......

Zhao was full of remorse: "I was completely impulsive, I just wanted to scare them with a knife, and I really didn't want to hurt anyone." ”

However, the majesty of the law is inviolable, and Zhao was arrested by the procuratorate for intentional injury, and a family that was originally harmonious was also dissolved.

There are many similar episodes in life, most of them are because of a trivial dispute that makes you die, is it worth it? Take a step back and open the sky. How much life philosophy and wisdom are contained in seven simple words? Think about it, if everyone fights with relatives, friends, and colleagues because of a little thing, not to mention hurting each other's feelings and harmony, it is still themselves who regret it in the end. In life, only by facing the social situation rationally can we elevate our lives to a higher level. Acting rationally is the embodiment of human quality and the wise reflection of emotions.

Wang Yawei, a young boxer, rode his bicycle to the street one day, and when he was waiting for a red light at the intersection, a young man on a bicycle rushed up from behind and hit his bicycle. The young man not only did not apologize, but was arrogant and asked the king to repair his car. The king was annoyed, but he tried his best to keep his emotions from flare-up. The young man was overwhelmed and said wildly: "You're an athlete, aren't you?" I'm not afraid of you being a boxer, let's practice? As soon as he heard that the other party was going to fight, Wang hurriedly retreated and said, "Don't fight, don't fight, I'm not an athlete, and I won't fight." Because of his weakness, a conflict was averted. Afterwards, he said: "I know how much damage my punch will cause to ordinary people." I have to keep reminding myself to be patient, because showing weakness makes me feel stronger. ”

Most people are impulsive, but it is precisely these people who are often the easiest to regret. So, remember – "impulsiveness is the devil" and you will always have to pay for your actions.

If you don't think twice, you will regret it, and people can endure and worry about themselves

No matter what a person does, he must think twice before acting, and if he only relies on his own whims, it will cause unimaginable consequences. When your judgment is not accurate or you don't get the facts, be patient and wait for a while, think about it a little bit, and don't act rashly.

In the temperate regions of the Northern Hemisphere, there is a small fish called spiny fish, which is small in size and has a slender body, generally no more than 15 centimeters in size; Some live in freshwater and some in seawater. They are naturally active and active.

The spiny fish has two or more movable spines in front of its dorsal fin, one spines and a small fin spines in its abdomen, and its whole body is scaleless, and it is often protected by bone fragments on its sides. Such offensive and defensive equipment should be prosperous, but the number of such fish is not as large as expected, and some species are even endangered. Scientist Clyde Bauer decided to conduct a field trip to solve this doubt.

It turns out that the waters where the spiny fish live are often inhabited by large groups of ferocious fish-eating spiders, which never form webs, and often grasp the rock walls or leaves of the water with their slender hind legs, and gently beat the surface of the water with the rest of their tentacles. It's not just a joke, it's doing it for a purpose. Underwater, the lively and active thorny fish noticed an abnormality on the surface of the water, thought something was wrong, and rushed directly to the surface. That's a big mistake. The scheming spider is waiting for its prey to come to the door on its own, and in the blink of an eye, the stinger has become a prisoner. In less than 1 second, the thornfish was caught and knocked unconscious, becoming a delicacy for fish-eating spiders.

The spiny fish died on impulse. In life, we are often carried away by sudden events, make wrong judgments, and even fall short. Impulsiveness not only doesn't help, but often also causes consequences that are too much for us to bear. Therefore, it is wisest to use reason to control one's behavior when impulsive.

There is such a story, which is quite alarming:

It is said that there was a fool in ancient times, whose family was poor, but his luck was good. Once, when it rained for half a month, he knocked down a stone wall in his home, and he actually dug up a jar of gold under the stone wall, so he became rich in a blink of an eye.

However, although this man is stupid, he is clear about his own shortcomings. He wanted to be smarter, so he went to a Zen master.

The Zen master said to him, "Now that you have money, but you lack wisdom, why don't you use your own money to buy other people's wisdom?" ”

When the man heard this, he nodded yes, and went to the city. When he saw an old man, he thought to himself: The old man has experienced countless things in his life, and he should be wise. Then he stepped forward and asked, "Excuse me, can you sell me your wisdom?" ”

The old man replied, "My wisdom is worth a lot, and a sentence costs 100 taels of silver." ”

The fool said: "As long as I can make myself smart, I will not hesitate to spend any money!" ”

I only heard the old man say: "When you encounter difficulties and when you have bad relations with others, do not be impulsive, take three steps forward, then take three steps back, and so on three times, and you will gain wisdom." ”

The fool was skeptical: "Wisdom is so simple? ”

The old man knew that the fool was afraid that he would be a charlatan, so he said, "In this case, you go home first." If you find out that I am lying to you in the future, I will naturally not use it; If you think my words are correct, send me another 100 taels of silver. ”

The fool returned home as he was told. It was already in the west, and it was dark inside. Vaguely, he found that there was another person in the bed besides his wife! The fool was angry, and he handled the kitchen knife with his hand, ready to slaughter the pair of "adulterers". Suddenly, he remembered the "wisdom" that the white sun had given to the old man on credit, so he did as he said, three steps forward, three steps back, and so on three times. At this time, the "adulterer" woke up and asked, "Son, what are you hanging on the ground at night?" ”

It turned out that the "adulterer" was his mother! The fool secretly sweated in his heart: "If it weren't for the wisdom that the old man gave me on credit, I would have almost killed my mother by mistake!" ”

The next morning he hurried to the city to deliver money to the old man.

As the saying goes: "If you don't think twice, you will regret it, and you can endure it without worry." "Calm is a kind of wisdom! Many tragedies in the world are caused by impulse. If we can relax our minds, suppress our impulses when we encounter problems and when we have bad relations with others, think about the before and after of things and the consequences caused by them, and take a breath and take a step to walk with others, the relationship between people will become much more harmonious.

The one who laughs last is the one who laughs the most

When doing things, everyone wants to be in the lead, to beat others and be in the limelight, so once they feel the hostility or threat from the opponent, people will fight back desperately, but this has many disadvantages, and going straight against the wind may not be able to catch up with the opponent, but will disrupt your steps. So what you can do is to avoid its sharpness, plan and move, and your goal is not to be in the limelight in the competition, but to win in the end.

In the 20s of the 20th century, when the U.S. automobile industry was in full swing, major automobile companies launched new cars with bright colors to meet the different needs of consumers, and sales increased significantly. However, Ford has always "worn" a "black shirt", looking serious and dull, and sales have dropped again and again.

However, it is in such a situation that Ford always resolutely rejects whether it is the dealer who asks Ford to supply the car in the suit or the suggestion within the company: "The Ford car is only black!" I don't see anything bad about black! ”

Production gradually became difficult, Ford began to lay off personnel, some equipment was suspended, and the company's internal morale was fluctuating, and even Mrs. Ford was puzzled, and she couldn't figure out what the indifferent Ford was doing.

Ford is confident: "The treatment of our employees is higher than that of any other company, they will not have different intentions, and at the same time, they know that I will never admit defeat, and believe that I will not follow others to produce light-colored cars, and must have other plans." ”

When someone suggested that Ford put the new car on the market immediately, Ford smiled wryly: "Let them be in the limelight first." I'd like to see who has the last laugh! ”

Another person asked: "Is Ford designing a new car?" There must be a variety of colors for new cars, right? ”

At this time, Ford seemed full of ambition: "It's not being designed, in fact, it has been finalized a long time ago!" It's not the same as others, but we designed it ourselves, and the price of the new car is definitely cheaper than others! This was one of Ford's lifetime "masterpieces" – the purchase of a scrap ship to dismantle and make steel, which significantly reduced the cost of steel and laid the foundation for the victory of the upcoming Model A.

In May 1927, Ford abruptly announced that the plant that produced older cars would cease production.

As soon as the news came out, the whole world was shocked and speculation arose. Except for a few people in charge, no one knew what Ford was up to. Strangely, despite the shutdown of the factory, the workers continued to work as usual. This situation aroused great curiosity in the press, and the overwhelming speculation, reports, and comments about Ford in the newspapers further sublimated the public's already curious curiosity.

Two months later, Ford finally announced: the new Model A will hit the market in December! The news shook the floor even more than two months ago.

At the end of the year, the colorful, elegant, lightweight, and inexpensive Ford Model A was finally launched in anticipation. Sure enough, the Type A car aroused great interest among consumers as soon as it was launched. It formed the glorious situation of Ford's second take-off. The development of the Model A car has long established its place in the American automotive industry. As for the aggressive offensive of other automobile companies with color and shape as weapons, Ford did not directly respond to the battle, but recuperated and recuperated, made use of its strengths and avoided weaknesses, and grasped the two links of quality and price to fully prepare, once the time was ripe, Ford was not relentless, and immediately made the opponent from strong to weak, and he calmly ascended to the throne of hegemony.

It is always believed that in competition you have to seize the time and fight back forcefully against your opponent, the question is whether you are prepared for it when you are in a hurry to fight back. Imagine if Ford followed suit when other companies launched light-colored cars, not only would he not regain market share, but he could also damage Ford's reputation. Because other companies are introducing new cars with different characteristics, Ford can't come up with a new car "in a colorful coat" in a hurry, and even if it does, the car may not be as good as it could be in terms of quality.

So Ford chose the strategy of recuperating and hiding but not recuperating, he withstood the pressure from many quarters, developed a competitive new car, and then went all out to finally win.

When stimulated by competitors, the average person will immediately fight back, which is the practice of most people, but it is not the best choice for the successful. Don't be swayed by others, plan and then act, this is the secret of success.

Therefore, when others are in the limelight, you don't have to be blushing, let alone rushing to compete with each other, you must be firm in your position and continue to do what you should do, after all, the person who laughs last is the one who laughs the most.