The person who has broken up with you will not look back at you again. If you don't want to understand this, and you're still dwelling on the old wounds of a broken love, it's called escapism. Wake up! Wake up from sentimentalism and self-indulgence! Sentimentalism and self-indulgence are, to put it bluntly, a heart disease. A little adjustment is fine, but you must not immerse yourself in it.

Love itself has a certain amount of variability

In love, it is normal to gather and disperse, and to clutch and clutch, just like the four seasons, cloudy, sunny and rainy. A love may not be a complete story, and the story may not be a perfect ending. For love, let's not regard it as an unchanging agreement, who can guarantee that it will not become the scenery of the past?

Xiaohan and Dongyang are highly talented students from a prestigious university in South China. The two of them are both classmates and fellow villagers, so it is natural that they become an inseparable pair of lovers.

One day, Dongyang said to Xiaohan: "You are like the moon on a midsummer night, shining on my dreamy poetry, making me feel like I am in heaven." Xiaohan also said affectionately: "You are like the sunshine in spring, giving birth to my dormant passion." I felt like I had a new lease on life. The two young people who fell in love were immersed in the ocean of love in this way, and agreed to marry Qin and Jin when Xiaohan got his doctorate.

Half a year later, Xiaohan went abroad for further study. How many nights in a foreign land, she has an unopened love, like guarding the new green waiting to break the ground. She reads hard and reads religiously, and her ambition is always motivated by the expectation of love. A few years later, Xiaohan finally obtained a doctorate degree with excellent grades, she was in a state of excitement and did not feel a slight change in Dongyang in the letter, after the end of her studies, she longed to have wings and feet, and immediately flew to Dongyang's side, but how did she know that her former boyfriend had already taken a flight of love with someone else. Xiaohan confronted Dongyang after finding him, but Dongyang said sincerely: "I have no past feelings for you, do I have to continue this hopeless relationship?" If we have to continue, you and I can only suffer more. Xiao Han had no choice but to retreat to the back of other people's love, silently licking his wounds that did not see the knife marks.

Maybe we will stand on a moral standpoint and express our pity for Xiaohan, who is noble and trustworthy, but what can we accuse Dongyang of this? It can only be blamed on love, which itself has a certain variability.

What is yours is yours, don't force it if it's not yours, and be too obsessed with hurting others and hurting yourself.

The reason why smart people are different is that they have the courage to open their minds to accept the good side, and they dare to open their eyes and face the bad side without fear of pain, they know that the benefits of the good side are known to everyone, and the benefits contained in the bad side are not known to everyone.

Don't hate someone you once loved, maybe he's not ready to hold hands with you, maybe he's just an immature big kid, maybe he has a reason you don't know. Whatever it is, don't worry too much about it, don't hurt yourself. You should realize that you are so good that you can live well without him. You should even thank him, thank him for giving you a better understanding of love, thank him for making you more mature in the face of love, thank him for giving you a chance to choose again, his betrayal, maybe it is a sign that you will usher in a more beautiful future.

If you can't love, don't miss it all the time

As long as you have truly loved, a breakup is painful for everyone. The difference is that smart people will see the essence through pain, break free from pain, and laugh at the new life; Stupid people have been indulging in pain, living with memories and never smiling again......

Xiaofei fell out of love, she didn't have a lot of money to travel to Europe to relax, so she hid in her own world. When she's not at work, she's curled up in her room, cradling pillows, glasses sliding dangerously on her nose, and tissues that wipe her nose everywhere on the bed.

Her emotions have been fluctuating, and her heart has been thinking about the man who left her, almost all the time. She thought of his gentleness and thoughtfulness when they were together, and thought of herself laughing from the heart; I also think of his bad temper and machismo, and think of a few knots in my heart. She even deliberately didn't let herself smile, she felt that falling out of love should be painful and impossible to get rid of quickly.

Sometimes when she wakes up early in the morning, she will tell herself that it is no big deal, that she can live well alone, and even feels that she should find another man to fall in love with. But in a blink of an eye, she began to recall the bits and pieces of the past, and her heart was entangled again and again, and the pain was incomprehensible.

In Xiaofei's opinion, he is inextricably linked with him. She was extremely nostalgic for the love that had passed, even if it was only a broken teardrop-soaked memory. In Xiaofei's world, any scenery becomes sad. During the festival, she felt that she was the only sad little character, listening to heart-rending songs, walking on the road with shuffling steps, the walking dead generally had no expression, only frowning brows and watery eyes with the melancholy of the cold weather.

In the face of love, don't give up easily, but if you give up, don't mind anymore. Love that does not stand the test is not profound. In love, it is not only the other party that loves each other, but also oneself. To the person who doesn't cherish you, you don't need him (her) to say sorry, you have to take the initiative to say "sorry", the subtext is - bye-bye!

If you don't love, don't keep missing, entangled, crying and shouting that people who refuse to leave are the most humble. Even more excessively, some people will destroy their old lovers - I can't love you, how can I let others love? That dark psychology is obvious, although it is a minority, but it is always shocking.

Don't love to be lost, let alone to the extreme. If you can't love, just treat him as a gust of wind blowing in front of the window, treat him as a tree passing by on the post road, see him as a passerby in your life, and if you can, send a little blessing and say "as long as you live better than me".

Open your hands and the world is in your hands

When people live, there will be many fetters and many desires, if these things are put down, people will become very relaxed, if they are always carrying, they may eventually die of exhaustion on the road. Life is originally very simple and simple, learn to give up the things that you don't particularly need and don't benefit much in life, learn to let go, and keep a simple and clear heart, you will feel that life is really beautiful.

It is precisely because people do not know how to give up that they have a lot of suffering. When you have the wisdom to give up and clean up yourself, you will suddenly open up, and life will immediately show you a completely different picture.

Xue'er couldn't afford to get sick because the person she loved married someone else, and her family tried all kinds of methods to no avail, seeing her lose weight day by day, her family and friends really saw it in their eyes and were anxious in their hearts.

Later, her mother took her to a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist quickly found the crux of the condition, so he patiently enlightened her: "In fact, if you like someone, you don't have to be with him, although some people often say, 'I don't care about how long it lasts, I only care about what I once had', but not all people who have it feel happy." Like someone, the most important thing is to make him happy, if you are not happy with him and he is not happy, then be brave and let it go! ”

Indeed, if you like someone, you must make him (her) happy, make him happy, and make that feeling more sincere. Under the patient guidance of the psychiatrist, Cher became cheerful and no longer depressed, and her illness was cured all of a sudden.

Some girls often complain: "I love my boyfriend so much, I am willing to give up anything for him, I will do what he likes, and I will not do what he doesn't like." I couldn't have been too good to be nice to him, but he didn't love me very much. I also think it's too egoless, but I really can't imagine the day I left him, I think I'm going to die, I always think that one day he will love me very much. ”

When a person loses himself in love, he gives up his right to recognition and respect. Managing marriage and love is like holding sand in your hands, the firmer you hold it, the easier it is to lose it. Many people give up a lot in order to manage love, and even give up their careers, trying their best to grasp this love, but they fail in the end. If a person pins all his feelings on others and gives up his self-esteem and self-worth, there is no guarantee of a happy life.

There is a very classic saying in "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon": when you clench your hands, there is nothing in them; When you open your hands, the world is in your hands. Clasp your hands, there will definitely be nothing, open your hands, at least there is hope. Many times, we should know how to give up, and giving up will make ourselves happy physically and mentally, and only then will we be happy!

Sometimes the path is wrong, if you continue to walk unconsciously, then you will be farther and farther away from the goal, and being able to stop at this time is progress.

Tell yourself that leaving you is his loss

Love is a process in which two originally different individuals get to know each other, recognize each other, and run in with each other. If the run-in is good, it is naturally a lifetime of love, and if the run-in is not good, it will inevitably have to be separated. When a love comes to an end, don't be inseparable because you are used to each other, look up, the clouds are still so beautiful, and life is still so beautiful. In fact, in addition to love, there are many things worth fighting for.

Let go of the entanglement in your heart, and you will find that the people we thought we couldn't lose are actually not impossible to lose. You have dried your tears today, and tomorrow someone will come to make you laugh. You are heartbroken for him (her), but he (she) is happy with others, for a person who no longer loves you, is it worth it for him (her) to suffer in all kinds of ways?

A lovelorn girl crying in the park.

An old man passed by and asked her softly, "What's wrong with you?" Why are you crying so sadly? ”

The girl replied, "I am so sad, why did he leave me?" ”

But the old man laughed and said, "You are so stupid! ”

The girl was very angry: "How can you be like this, I am out of love, I am already sad, if you don't comfort me, forget it, and scold me!" ”

The old man replied, "Fool, there is no need to be sad at all, he should be really sad!" You know, you just lost someone who didn't love you, and he lost someone who loved him and the ability to love others. ”

Yes, leaving you is his loss, you just lost someone who doesn't love you, and if you leave someone who doesn't love you, can't you really live? No, there is no one in this world who can't live without anyone, and you can live a wonderful life without him. Please believe in fate, in the near future, you will definitely be able to find someone who is better than him and knows how to cherish you more. Yes, instead of nostalgia for the past, it is better to grasp the future, believe in fate, and in the future you may meet someone who is better than him and knows how to cherish you more!

Some things, some people, may only be remembered and can never be used in the future! You should let go of emotional things, you have to keep telling yourself - leaving you is his loss!

Xiao Yanyan has been troubled in a relationship that is constantly cut and unorganized.

Wu Qing's attitude is always like a detached, and his people are like a dragon, seeing the beginning but not the end. Xiao Yanyan wanted to call him, but she was afraid that the person who answered would be his girlfriend, which would cause him trouble. Xiao Yanyan doesn't want to lose him, but sometimes she feels helpless, she often asks herself: "Am I really inseparable from him?" "Yes, I can't forget him, even if it's just an underground lover. As long as I can see him, as long as he still loves me. She replied to herself.

But what should come will come. On Monday afternoon, in the coffee house, they met again. Wu Qing stirred the coffee around, looking preoccupied. Xiao Yanyan has been sitting quietly opposite him and looking at him, her eyes are very pure. The coffee was already cold, but no one took a sip.

He raised his head, smiled reluctantly, and asked, "Why don't you speak?" ”

"I'm waiting for you to say." Xiao Yanyan said lightly.

"I want to say I'm sorry, let's separate." "You know, my promotion is important to me, and her father has always hinted to me that as long as we get married in the near future, the manager's position will be mine." So ......"

"Got it." Xiao Yanyan was also surprised by her calmness.

He watched her reaction, first confused, and then seemed to suddenly realize, and hurriedly tried to comfort him: "Actually, in my heart, you are my favorite." ”

Xiao Yanyan still smiled faintly and turned to leave.

Walking alone in the spring sun, the air is full of the smell of spring, the fragrance of willows, and the fragrance of grass. Xiao Yanyan thought: "The world is so beautiful, but I fell out of love." At this moment, that stinging pain suddenly permeated the bottom of my heart. Xiao Yanyan felt like she wanted to cry, she raised her head and didn't let the tears take her eyes.

Tired of walking, Xiao Yanyan sat on a bench in the garden in the middle of the street. There was a mother and daughter next to her, and the little girl had big eyes and a little blushing face. Their conversation attracted Xiao Yanyan.

"Mom, do you say friendship is more important than half an eraser?"

"Of course, friendship is important."

"Then why did Yueyue promise her not to be friends with me again in order to want the cute half of the eraser?"

"Oh, that's right. No wonder you've been upset lately. Child, you should think that if she is truly friends with you, she will not give up friendship for anything, and if she will give up friendship easily, then this friendship will have nothing to cherish. Mother said softly.

"Child, do you know what kind of flowers attract bees and butterflies?"

"You know, it's a very beautiful and fragrant flower."

"By the way, it's the same with people, you just need to strengthen your self-cultivation and be knowledgeable. When you are like a beautiful flower, it will attract many people to be friends with you. So, giving up on you is her loss, not yours. ”

"Yes, there is nothing to be nostalgic for the love that is given up for promotion. If I am a beautiful flower, giving it up is his loss. Xiao Yanyan's mood suddenly brightened.

If a person gives up your relationship for the sake of fame and fortune, should you feel lucky? Obviously, such a person is not worthy of your love.

For those who don't love themselves, what is most needed is understanding, letting go, and blessings

There is no reason to force it. People in the world, divide and merge, and who can predict the merger and merger? Those who should go will still go, and those who should stay will still stay. Let it be!

Love is all about fate, fate comes and goes, and it is not necessary to investigate who is right and who is wrong. Who can tell whether you love or not? When you love, just love to your heart's content, when love is lost, just wave your hand chicly, life is just a few decades, your own destiny is in your own hands, there is no need to care about gains and losses, possession and abandonment, love and separation.

After falling out of love, if you can let go of the curse and resentment, you will understand true love. Although in occasional situations, it is still sour and heart-wrenching.

When Rousseau was 11 years old, he met Mademoiselle de Filson, who was just 11 years older than him, at his uncle's house. She also seems to be interested in Rousseau. Soon, the two fell in love vigorously like adults. But it soon dawned on Rousseau that her kindness to him was only to stir up the jealousy of another boyfriend whom she secretly loved—"only to cover up some other affair," in Rousseau's words, and his young and prematurely mature heart was filled with an incomparable anger and resentment.

He vowed never to see this negative woman again. Twenty years later, however, Rousseau, who had already enjoyed a great reputation, returned to his hometown to visit his father, and while playing on the sparkling lake, he unexpectedly saw Mademoiselle Filson, dressed in simple clothes and with a haggard face, in a boat not far from them. Rousseau thought about it, but still let people quietly row the boat away. "While this is a pretty good opportunity for revenge, I don't think I should settle accounts with a woman in her 30s from 20 years ago," he wrote. ”

After love, you will know that there is no right or wrong, right and wrong in love, and happiness and sorrow will walk hand in hand with you until the end of your life! Rousseau's grief and resentment after being ruthlessly fooled by the person he loved the most can be imagined, but when they reunited, the volcanic anger and revenge did not rekindle, but chose to walk away quietly, which just shows that there are thousands of emotions in the world, only love is the most difficult to explain.

If life is compared to a tree with lush leaves, then love is only a fruit on the tree, and love has suffered a setback and a failure, which does not mean that all the struggles in life have failed. There are many people in the world who are unfortunate in their love lives, but they have become immortal greats. Therefore, for lovelorns, they must learn to give up on love, after all, a past cannot represent eternity, and a love cannot represent eternal life.

Gather and scatter with fate, get rid of attachment, and all grievances will fade away with the passage of water. Those profound memories will eventually be smoothed out by the footsteps of time, the past is to let it pass, and the future is what we should look forward to.

If you can't keep it, you can fulfill it generously

The world is changing, everything is changing, and feelings are naturally not immune. When a relationship is gone, when the person you love is gradually moving away, I wonder if you have ever thought about what we should do next?

In the world of emotions, we can lose love, but remember to leave grace.

In fact, in the emotional world, there is no absolute right or wrong, he really loves you when he loves you, and there is really no way to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you. After all, you really loved, so why can't you choose to leave with grace when you break up?

Don't shed tears for betrayal, in the world of feelings tears always belong only to the weak. If he loves you, how can he be willing to let you cry? If he doesn't love you anymore, even if he runs out of tears, it won't help.

If you miss it, it can only mean that you are not each other's destiny for life, he may just be an attempt to find the love of your life. If you think you are a strong person in life, then it is better to leave freely, and since you once loved deeply, don't hurt each other again.

Xie Hui is a doctor who works in a prestigious hospital in Beijing. Her husband, Zhanpeng, is the CEO of an engineering company, and he is very busy every day, running around non-stop. The two see each other very little and only get together on weekends.

Once, Xie Hui and Zhanpeng met by chance in the emergency room of the hospital. Zhan Peng explained to his wife: "I brought a girl to see a doctor, she was an employee of my unit, and she fainted due to overwork. Xie Hui glanced at the girl, who looked much smaller than Zhan Peng, with a bit of wildness on her face. Xie Hui had an indescribable feeling in her heart.

She secretly went to the company where her husband worked. Everyone said they had never seen a girl like this as she described.

After Xie Hui heard this, he immediately seemed to lose his center of gravity. When she returned, she called her husband and said that she had gone on a business trip and would not return until a month's later.

Then she went to stay near her husband's company.

The result of squatting proved that the girl had been living with Zhanpeng for a long time. What to do? Is it divorce or fighting? Xie Hui fell into the abyss of extreme pain.

That night, she took the bus home.

The car drove very slowly, and the driver seemed to understand Xie Hui's mood very well. There were only three passengers in the car, and the other two passengers were calling their loved ones with happy expressions on their faces. Xie Hui closed her eyes in pain, recalling the "Divorce Agreement" that had been spread out on the table for more than half a year.

Suddenly, someone called her, and it was the driver who was talking to her - "Sister, do you have something on your mind?" ”

Xie Hui did not answer.

"I guess you're just for marriage," Xie Hui's face was slightly cold, but the driver continued as if he hadn't seen it, "I've also been divorced." ”

Xie Hui's eyes lit up slightly, and he pricked up his ears and listened carefully.

"My wife and I are divorced." Xie Hui's heart couldn't help but tighten. "She had married the man last month, he was four years older than her, he worked as a translator, he was married, but he had no children. I heard that his ex-wife died of illness. He has a very good personality and follows my ex-wife in everything, unlike me, who is anxious and tough, they are quite suitable together. ”

Xie Hui felt that this driver was very unusual.

"Sister, now that society is open, divorce is not a shameful thing, don't feel that you can't hold your head up among relatives and friends. I can tell you that my wife is not the kind of person who comes out of nowhere, she and the man were in love for four years in college, and then the man went abroad and the two broke up. The man got married abroad, and then his wife died, and he was lonely abroad alone, so he came back. They met at a class reunion, and this one was inseparable. I started hating too, gritting my teeth with hatred. But seeing them trembling and loving each other like walking on thin ice, I relented and let them live......"

Xie Hui's eyes moistened a little, and she remembered the letter her husband wrote to her:

I didn't expect to meet her in the middle of nowhere. In front of you, I don't want to hide that she is a woman who is much younger than me. I met her at an altitude of 10,000 meters, when she had just fallen out of love. After we talked a few words, she told me honestly that she was a bad girl, and then I learned that she lived in the same city as me, and I didn't know why, from that day on, I couldn't let go of her. Later, we dated frequently, and then I decided to love her and take care of her for the rest of my life. Because of her, I even want to give up everything......

When the car arrived home, Xie Hui slowly walked upstairs. The next day, she calmly signed the Divorce Agreement.

When you are faced with this kind of true love that sprouts outside of marriage, this true love is like a wild flower growing in the thorn bush, blooming in late autumn. Although it is not in place and out of season, it has opened in the cool autumn breeze after all. Why do you have to stomp it to death? Even then you will pay a heavy price. At this time, it is better to take a step back, as sung in a song: there is no mountain that cannot be climbed in life, there is no river that cannot be crossed, and there is no hurdle that cannot be crossed.