A small thing as light as air, for a jealous person, will also become a strong confirmation of the heavenly book—perhaps this can cause a right and wrong. Just as steel is corroded by rust, the envious are consumed by their passions.

Jealousy is like an invisible steel knife that instantly pierces the blind heart

Jealousy in human nature is like an invisible steel knife, which will not only pierce people's eyes, but also blind people's hearts. This jealousy, which sprouts from pettiness and selfishness, is obviously negative.

Wang Wei and Li Nan are juniors at an art academy and live in the same dormitory. Soon after entering school, the two became inseparable good friends. Wang Wei is lively and cheerful, and Li Nan is introverted and taciturn. Li Nan gradually felt like an ugly duckling, but Wang Wei was like a beautiful princess, she felt very uncomfortable, she thought that Wang Wei was stealing her limelight everywhere, and secretly hated Wang Wei in her heart. In her senior year, Wang Wei participated in the clothing design competition organized by the college and won the first prize. After Wang Wei came back, he didn't know how to get along with Li Nan when he saw this situation, and he couldn't figure out why things turned out like this.

Wang Wei and Li Nan went from being inseparable to turning against each other, such a change is really regrettable, and the root cause of this tragedy is only two words - jealousy.

Objectively speaking, there is no jealous person who has no jealousy, jealousy is human nature, and within reasonable limits, it can be regarded as a normal reaction. But if you let your heart be filled with jealousy, it can lead to reckless actions and lack of consideration. So Shakespeare repeatedly reminded people: "Beware of jealousy, it's a green-eyed demon!" Indeed, in real life, jealousy as a pathological psychology is extremely harmful. Jealous people often resort to unscrupulous means to crack down on the object of their jealousy, which is harmful to their own mental health and affects others.

In today's society, the most representative jealousy is the phenomenon of hatred of the rich. It is said that a man in Zhongguancun has accumulated a little asset after several years of hard work, bought a Buick sedan to travel, but parked downstairs in the company for a few days, was scratched a few scars, the man said helplessly: "If I buy Xiali or Alto, its fate must be better." ”

Jealousy is a wandering lust that can only be enjoyed by idlers. When people are entangled by this kind of lust, how can they manage their lives with the right mentality? For the success of others, we should treat them with a recognized and competitive mentality, think about their success process, and ask ourselves in our hearts: they are all human beings, why can they do it, but "I" can't? Find out what you lack, make up for yourself, enrich yourself, and strive to enter their ranks as soon as possible.

Jealousy usually comes from a "lack" in one aspect of life. Your heart is pantothenic, not a taste, because what you want is obtained by others, and you are lost, and even think that others have robbed you of the attention, honor, interests, opportunities, and so on. This feeling can disrupt your life and make you feel swayed by jealousy that constantly reinforces and perpetuates it.

We can undo its effects with self-soothing carelessness. Tell yourself in your heart: there will always be new opportunities, new friends, and new beauty waiting for "me", as long as "I" are willing to grasp it! This self-soothing can reduce your stress.

When you find yourself being approached by jealousy, remember to shift your mindset from "lack" to "abundance", and you will be able to calm down.

Being jealous of others is actually a subconscious feeling that you are inferior to others

All the fire of jealousy begins with burning itself. The jealous person is full of pain, anxiety, insecurity and resentment, and these emotions accumulate in the heart for a long time, which will affect the physical and mental health. Therefore, "taboo" is actually "disease".

In fact, jealousy is to seek troubles for oneself, to torture oneself with the achievements of others, to be unable to defeat the other party, and to refuse to admit defeat; can't surpass each other, and he is not convinced, so he begins to be jealous. Envy is, in the final analysis, contempt for oneself. It clearly tells others that he is a weak person and that he is inferior to others; Jealousy is a fetter set for oneself, and it will plunge oneself into a deep pain, even to a pathetic, pitiful, and even ridiculous end.

At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, the battle of Guandu made Cao Cao's prestige tremble and became stronger and stronger. He first destroyed Yuan Shao in Hebei, and then successively destroyed several large and small princes with an unstoppable force, driving Liu Bei to almost nowhere to stand, and finally targeted Sun Quan, who was in Jiangdong. Cao Cao's power was great, and Zhuge Liang put forward the theory of linking his grandson to resist Cao, and Liu Beiran did it. So, Zhuge Liang entered the Eastern Wu alone, fought the heroes, intellectually provoked Sun Quan, and finally formed an alliance with Sun Liu.

During Zhuge Liang's stay in Wu, Zhou Yu, the governor of Eastern Wu, was jealous of Zhuge Liang's talent, and he was bent on cutting off the troubles, but they were all resolved by Zhuge Liang's insight into the opportunities one by one, so Zhou Yu's jealousy deepened.

In the first battle of Chibi, with the wisdom of Zhuge Liang and Zhou Yu, with the help of Pang Tong and Xu Shu, the serial boat was burned, and the corpses of Cao Jun were all over the field and the rivers were stained with blood. In addition to being proud, Zhou Yu wanted to take advantage of the victory and annex Cao Cao's territory in Jingzhou, but who knew that Zhuge Liang took the lead. Zhou Yu was unwilling and wanted to attack, but was defeated by Zhao Yun again, and he was hit by an arrow.

After that, Dongwu pursued Jingzhou several times in vain, and Zhou Yu couldn't help but have a plan, conspired with Sun Quan to fake his sister, deceived Liu Bei into Dongwu, and tried again. It's a pity that this plan did not escape Zhuge Liang's eyes, and he awarded Zhao Yun three tips, which finally made Zhou Yu "lose his wife and soldiers".

Finally, Zhou Yu couldn't hold back and wanted to "use the road to kill him" and destroy Liu Bei in one fell swoop, but he was blocked back by Zhuge Liang, who was well versed in the art of war, and wrote a letter to ridicule Zhou Yu. Zhou Yu was originally narrow-minded, but under the three gases, he finally sighed, "Both Shengyu, He Shengliang", and followed Sun Ce.

Historians have proposed that Zhuge Liang and Zhou Yu did not intersect in their lives, which is a plot made up by Mr. Luo Guanzhong to deify Zhuge Liang. We don't care about the historical facts, but Zhou Yu's sentence "Both Shengyu and He Shengliang" has been criticized by gentlemen, and the reason is that he does not have a correct mentality. In the face of people who are higher than himself, he did not humbly ask for advice, so that he would catch up with Zhuge Liang one day, but was jealous and framed, and finally took Sun Ce's former trust, and died before the great cause was completed.

People with strong jealousy generally have a strong sense of inferiority, have no ability and confidence to catch up with the advanced, but have a strong sense of vanity, unwilling to lag behind, and not satisfied with the status quo, so when he sees a person walking in front of him, his eyes are red and hateful; Another man went ahead of him, complaining, angry, and gossiping; The third man was ahead of him again, and he was jealous and restless...... On the one hand, he wants to keep an eye on the successful ones and try to find out the reasons for their success; On the other hand, jealousy makes him narrow-minded, and he looks at the success of others with colored glasses, and feels that the reasons for the success of others seem to be obtained by dishonorable means, so he tries to belittle others, spreads slanderous rumors everywhere, and sometimes even does things that hurt nature and reason. As a result of this, not only do they hurt others, but they also lower their own personality and ruin their own honor, and afterwards they inevitably fall into psychological states such as self-shame, self-shame, self-blame, and self-abandonment.

Obviously, jealousy of others is done precisely because of one's inferiority. So, why don't we turn jealousy into a motivation to make up for our own shortcomings and catch up with those who are better than you? Sublimate jealousy into healthy competitive behavior, and the jealous will forge ahead and strive to narrow the gap with the jealous; The envied will generally not turn a deaf ear to the challenges they face, and in order to maintain and develop their dominant position, they will choose to meet the challenges and thus strengthen the competition. That is to say, jealousy may trigger and sustain a phenomenon where, in the process of healthy competition, jealous parties become both sides of the competition, promote each other, and optimize together.

Jealousy turns into healthy competition, and in this sense: "Jealousy is a great being. But there are so few people who adopt such positive attitudes and behaviors out of jealousy, and jealousy produces antagonism, hatred, aggression and destruction. Throughout the ages, there have been many tragedies caused by jealousy. No wonder Balzac lamented: "Jealousy lurks in the heart like a poisonous snake lurking in a cave." ”

If you want to get rid of the control of jealousy, regain happiness, and achieve an excellent life. From now on, you have to awaken your positive jealousy and bravely challenge your opponents. Positive jealousy inevitably produces actions and consciousness of self-love, self-improvement, struggle, and competition. When you find yourself secretly jealous of a colleague who is better than you in every way, you might as well ask yourself - why is this? After coming to a clear conclusion, you will be enlightened: if you want to catch up with others, you must work hard in your studies and work in order to succeed in your career. You might as well use the strong transcendent consciousness of jealousy to make angry efforts, sublimate jealousy, and build a strong sense of self to enhance your confidence in competition.

You should always remind yourself: being jealous of others proves that you are inferior to others, and you are belittling yourself, why do you do such a stupid thing? In fact, there is no need to be jealous of others, concentrate your energy, time, and wisdom to do your own thing, and you will definitely get your own harvest from life.

Blinded by jealousy, people tend to act stupidly

According to foreign media reports, a new study shows that jealousy can make a person's eyesight lower and become blind.

Two psychology professors from the University of Delaware in the United States led the study. They found that when people were jealous, their ability to judge and discern would be significantly reduced, so that their eyes could not focus on the target they were looking for, and therefore they would become blind when making choices. The researchers asked 30 couples to participate in the study, and they separated men and women, and the men had to choose a person who had a crush on them from among the women other than their girlfriends; At the same time, women are asked to memorize the images in the computer. The results showed that the more jealous the women, the worse their recognition and memory of the images, and some even saw the "big tree" as a "black drawing" and experienced "temporary blindness".

There is a couple who are very narrow-minded and always quarrel over small things. One day, my wife cooked some good dishes and thought it would be better if she had some more wine to cheer up. So she took the ladle into the vat and fetched the wine.

The wife looked into the vat and saw her own shadow reflected in the wine. She didn't look closely, and when she saw a woman in the tank, she thought that her husband was unfaithful to her, and secretly brought the woman home and hid her in the tank, jealousy and anger overwhelmed her at once, and she shouted loudly without thinking about it: "Hey, you bastard dead ghost, you dare to hide other women in the tank secretly without me." Come and see what else you have to say? ”

The husband was confused, and didn't know what was happening, so he hurriedly ran over to look into the tank, and saw his own shadow. When he saw that it was a man, he couldn't help but scold: "You bad woman, obviously you brought another man home, secretly hid him in the wine vat, and framed me, what kind of heart are you ather!" ”

"Wow, you're still reasonable!" The wife looked into the tank again, and saw that it was still the same woman from before, and thought that her husband was deliberately teasing her, so she couldn't help but be furious, and pointed at her husband and said, "Do you think I am a person who is at your mercy?" You, you're so sorry for me......" The more the wife scolded, the more angry she became, and she raised the water scoop in her hand and threw it at her husband.

The husband dodged sideways, and when he saw that his wife not only made trouble unreasonably but also beat him, he was not to be outdone, so he slapped his wife back. It's terrible now, the two of them got into a mess, pulling and biting, and it was a lot of trouble.

In the end, the trouble reached the official mansion, and after listening to the words of the husband and wife, the official master suddenly understood most of his heart, so he ordered his subordinates to break the cylinder. One of the guards picked up a sledgehammer and slammed it down, and wine gurgled out of the smashed hole. After a while, the wine ran out, and there was no one in the vat.

Only then did the husband and wife realize that what they were jealous of was just their own shadow, and they were very ashamed, so they apologized to each other and reconciled again.

When we encounter doubts, we should not draw conclusions too early, but analyze them objectively and rationally in order to understand the truth. Especially when he is angry, he can't see his shadow like the couple in the story, he can't think and analyze calmly, but he is carried away by jealousy and hurts his harmony.

Jealousy can narrow a person's mind and lead to stupid decisions and actions. If jealousy has already made people bow and snake, and the grass and trees are all soldiers, it is a little too ridiculous. The above story may seem like a joke, but it is thought-provoking. If we are suspicious because of jealousy, and jump to conclusions prematurely because of jealousy, then we may never be able to understand the truth of the matter.

To be able to appreciate others is to overcome yourself

There was a farmer whose neighbor was richer than him because he had a cow at home. Once, the farmer saved a fish, and the fish promised to fulfill any of the farmer's wishes. The farmer pointed to his neighbor's house and said, "He is richer than me because he has a cow at home." Thinking that he understood what the peasants meant, he said, "This is easy, and I will give you 10 cows." The peasant gritted his teeth and said, "No, I don't want your cow, I want you to kill his cow." ”

This is a very typical and incorrect way to deal with jealousy - not by making yourself better than others to relieve jealousy, but by suppressing others to seek psychological balance. If the emotion of jealousy has little to do with morality, then this behavior has a lot to do with morality. Such a person can be called a villain.

In fact, it is a normal psychological phenomenon of human beings who do not see the good of others, but we must effectively transform it into the motivation for struggle, rather than the "source" of jealousy. We should try to let go of the burdensome baggage, with a blessed heart, enjoy the scenery of others, and look forward to our own dreams.

If we can appreciate others instead of being jealous of others, then we can also give encouragement and encouragement to ourselves while giving appreciation and blessings to others. Because in the process of appreciating others, we can also use people as a mirror, see the shortcomings, find out the gaps, and constantly improve our own quality and cultivation level.

Learn to appreciate others, we will not live in the shadow of others, but will be sublimated in the process of appreciation, think about ourselves, find ourselves, face ourselves, and correct ourselves in appreciation. People who are good at appreciating others intellectually will always get more people's appreciation and help, creating a relaxed, harmonious and humane interpersonal environment that is more suitable for personality development.

Mr. Lin and Mr. Ding have been good friends since childhood. A few years after graduating from college, by chance, the two entered the same company one after another.

Since Mr. Ding joined the company early and did an excellent job, when Mr. Lin first joined the company, Mr. Ding often took him and explained to him the company's rules and regulations, as well as the operation process of related businesses. Slowly, Mr. Lin became familiar with the company's business, and after half a year, his performance surpassed that of Mr. Ding.

As the backbone of the company, Mr. Ding suddenly felt a huge pressure, and the sour grape buried in his heart attacked. As a result, the two of them have less and less words outside of work.

Mr. Lin saw his old friend's heart disease, so he decided to help him let go of his inner baggage, so he asked him out to fish from time to time. During this period, Mr. Lin tentatively talked to Mr. Ding about work and gave him a few suggestions from his own point of view. Mr. Ding naturally knew very well in his heart that the old friend really wanted to ease the tension between the two, and soon the two reconciled again.

At the end of the year, Mr. Lin's performance was far ahead, and his colleagues were convinced of him. At this time, the position of department manager is vacant, and many people are staring at this position. Eventually, Mr. Lin was offered the position of department manager through competition.

Now both of them help each other and enjoy the achievement and joy of fighting side by side.

Mr. Ding rationally adjusted his mentality and overcame his jealousy, so that his friendship and career have been developed.

People who appreciate others are broad-minded, and even if they have been sour in their hearts, they can be suppressed after all. Extremely jealous, they can't stand the success of others, everything good will cause their hatred, they are jealous of other people's talents, jealous of other people's reputation, jealous of other people's status, jealousy of other people's wealth, jealousy of hatred, so that they are trapped in negative emotions all the time.

Aren't you tired of living like this? Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, so why bother with the strengths and weaknesses of a moment? When my heart was sour, I tried to surpass, and it was better to do my own things well than anything else.

Once, after a success lecturer gave a wonderful speech, a man stood up from the audience. He said: "I admire you, and as a man, I am also jealous of you, and in the future, I will definitely try to surpass you." As soon as the gentleman finished speaking, the audience burst into thunderous applause, which lasted longer than the applause for the speaker.

This is a celebration and encouragement of humanity - since everyone is jealous, then we need to respect it as a kind of existence; Expressing a less than glorious emotion, this bravery is a valuable ability in itself. And more importantly, there is another quality in human nature, and that is the ambition to never admit defeat. The brilliance of the latter is enough to illuminate the gloom of the former.

To be able to appreciate others is to overcome yourself. When you notice jealousy in your heart, you might as well say to yourself, "I can't compare to you, can't I appreciate you?" But I will definitely try to surpass you in the future. "If you can keep saying this to yourself, and keep doing it, you will be braver and stronger.