After walking some roads, I know how hard it is to hurry; After climbing some mountains, I know how difficult it is to climb; wading through some rivers to know the risks of trekking; After some things, I realized the bitterness and sweetness of life. The trough of life is where you are most valuable. Every kind of trauma is a kind of maturity, which makes people think, makes people strong, and makes people know how to cherish more.

Obstacles and failures are stepping stones to success

People often associate failure with pain, but it's not. Failure is just the eve of the arrival of success, is the cornerstone of the road to success, the relationship between failure and success, just like through the darkness to usher in the dawn, the person who is washed by failure is not annihilated by failure, but not arrogant and impatient to bear, ushered in will be the dawn of dawn.

Edison came from a humble background, his "education" was to attend elementary school for only three months in his life, and the teacher was always stammered by his strange questions, and even said to his mother's face that he was a fool and would not be of any use in the future. His mother let him drop out of school in a fit of anger and let her educate him personally. Since then, Edison's talent has been fully revealed. Under his mother's guidance, he read a lot of books and built a small laboratory in his home. In order to raise the necessary expenses for the laboratory, he had to go out to work as a newsboy selling newspapers.

Although Edison did not have a good school education, he achieved great success with his extraordinary intellect and personal struggle. With perseverance, rare enthusiasm and energy, he rose from thousands of failures, overcame countless difficulties, and became a great inventor and entrepreneur.

From 1869 to 1901 alone, 1,328 patents were obtained. During his lifetime, there was an average of one new invention every 15 days, for which he was known as the "King of Inventions".

One night in December 1914, a fire destroyed Edison's research and development factory, costing him nearly a million dollars worth of property. Edison comforted his grief-stricken wife and said, "It doesn't matter, don't look at me as 67 years old, but I'm not old." From tomorrow morning, everything will start again, and I'm sure no one will be too old to get back to work. Disasters can also bring value, all our mistakes have been burned, and now we can start all over again. The next day, Edison not only began construction of the new workshop, but also began inventing a new lamp—a portable searchlight to help firefighters navigate the darkness. The fire was just a minor episode for Edison.

"If you are timid in the day of trouble, your strength will be insignificant." There is no eternal winter in the world, and there is no eternal failure. In difficult and unfortunate days, if we maintain our fighting spirit, confidence and patience, we will have the weapon to overcome all obstacles and be invincible, so that we will surely be able to overcome all difficulties on the way forward and reach the destination of success.

When you face failure bravely, you will be surprised to find that failure is also a kind of harvest, a fertile soil for brewing success. There is no success without failure, the key is to see our attitude towards failure. And life is about facing failures and setbacks. If we abandon the process of struggle and pursuit, there is no way to talk about so-called success and failure. Don't regret yesterday's failures, and don't worry about tomorrow's success.

Whether it is a university scholar, a big star, or a big director, their success has all gone through the process of waiting, loneliness, and accumulation without exception. In the process of working hard for your dreams, there may be many difficulties and unbearable loneliness, but you must choose to persevere.

Some people are afraid of failure because they are afraid of losing their self-confidence and always try to put themselves in a foolproof position. Unfortunately, this attitude also traps them in a position where it is impossible to achieve anything outstanding. Failure is nothing but an opportunity for a smarter start over.

The shortcomings in life can also be transformed into surprises in life

Almost all bony fish have a swim bladder in the abdominal cavity. The buoyancy generated by the swim bladder allows the fish to freely control its body in a certain water layer when it is at rest. In addition, the swim bladder can also create enough space in the abdominal cavity of the fish to protect its internal organs from damage caused by excessive water pressure. Therefore, it can be said that the swim bladder is related to the life and death of the fish.

But there is one fish that is different, it is born without a swim bladder! What's even more amazing is that its existence dates back to 300 million years before the appearance of dinosaurs, and it has lived on Earth for more than 500 million years now, and it has barely changed in nearly 100 million years. It is the shark, a "disabled" king of the sea.

So, what is it that makes a "disabled" shark swim in the water without the swim bladder? After a lot of research, scientists have found the answer: because sharks do not have swim bladders, in order to ensure that their bodies do not sink, they will hardly stop swimming, so they maintain a strong physique and practice terrifying combat effectiveness.

It turns out that it is the shark's natural flaws that make it powerful. The shark has no swim bladder, which is its sorrow and its joy.

In the unpredictable life, a tragicomedy is often staged.

Years ago, Nick Hochul's parents were happy to welcome their first son, but they never expected it to be a limbless "monster", and even the doctors present were stunned.

Anyone who meets Nick Hochul for the first time will inevitably be struck by his appearance: Nick is like a bust from a sketch class, without hands or feet. However, Nick doesn't care about people's surprised expressions, and he often begins his self-introductions with a joke.

"Hello! I'm Nick, born in 1982, Australian, and I've travelled the world to share my story. I fly more than 120 times a year, and I like to do fun things to add color to my life. When I'm bored, I ask a friend to pick me up and put me in the luggage compartment on the plane seat, and I ask my friend to close the door. That time, as soon as one of the guys opened the door, I poked my head out and scared him to jump. But what can they do to me? Do you handcuff my 'hands'? ”

"I love all kinds of new challenges, such as brushing my teeth, I put my toothbrush on the shelf and move my mouth to brush it, sometimes it's really difficult and frustrating, but I finally solved the problem. It's easy to give up after the first failure, there are a lot of obstacles in life that I can't change, but I've learned to look positively, try again and again, and never give up. ”

Nick is able to take care of himself completely, walking independently, going up and down stairs, washing his face and brushing his teeth, turning on electrical switches, operating computers, and even hitting 43 letters per minute.

"My parents told me not to be angry at what I didn't have, but to be grateful for what I had. I don't have hands or feet, but I'm thankful that I still have this 'little drumstick' (his left foot and the two toes attached to it) that my puppy once mistook for a chicken leg and almost ate it. ”

"I do a lot with these two precious toes, walking, typing, kicking a ball, swimming, playing percussion...... I can float up in the water because 80% of my body is lungs, and the 'little chicken legs' are like propellers, and because of these two toes, I can also make V-shapes, and every time I take a picture, I will stilt it up. As he spoke, he lifted his toes and smiled all over his face—Peace!

Nick's humorous and powerful speech reflected on the grief of his parents and friends at birth, his own experience of discrimination at school, and how his family and himself built confidence and experienced transformation. "If you know love and choose love, you know where the value of life is, so don't underestimate yourself." With the support of family and friends, he overcame difficulties and earned a bachelor's degree in accounting and financial planning, and founded Life Without Limbs, a non-profit organization that inspires people with his life testimony, and has now traveled to 24 countries and earned the respect of the world.

A great mind should show such courage - to meet a tragic fate with a smiling face, and to deal with one's own misfortune with a hundredfold courage.

Despair and sorrow can never make the heart truly strong and life truly mature. Those who hesitate in distress can only make all suffering eclipsed in front of you by trekking through with a steely temperament. What is needed for a strong soul is faith and perseverance, and what is tasted is not the breath of a bleak and bitter smile, but the peace and tranquility after detachment.

When it is most painful, it is better to simply look at the pain, or even to combine it tightly, which may be a better way to relieve the pain. Defects are not immutable, the key lies in the attitude towards defects in the heart, see your own defects clearly, know how to learn from each other's strengths, know how to act carefully, deal with them carefully, do something, and do nothing, then the defect is not a defect.

Adversity is a process, not an end

Adversity is not scary, what is scary is to see adversity as the end. The earth is in motion, and one does not stay in an unlucky position forever. But if you've always thought you're unlucky, then God can't help you. Of course, in the face of pain, we can't hope for God's help, you have to be your own hero.

In March 1930, it was the cold spring season, and on a street in Tennessee, USA, a middle-aged man in his 40s was struggling on the verge of starvation.

Before that, he was an excellent salesperson, who had distributed merchandise to countless stores in Tennessee, and his marketing strategy brought them huge business opportunities and profits, but the good times did not last long, and a bad fortune buried his marketing path.

Now he was alone and destitute, and he had thought of going to those whom he had helped, but they would have refused, and they could not accept his poverty.

Just when he was desperate, he found a job advertisement hanging outside a small restaurant, they were looking for chefs, but the salary was pitifully low, the salary of a year was not as much as a month before him, in the face of hunger and cold, he gave up his ideals and arrogant thoughts, he pushed open the door that was originally hidden, and began a new life.

His task is to cook chicken nuggets, which is an industry he has never done before, but it is actually very simple to do, he just needs to throw the chicken pieces into the pot and cook them according to the ingredients, and then fish it out, the whole process is as simple as that.

There were three people with him, and they were too lazy to die, and when they saw that someone was coming, they gave him all the work, and he wanted to have a seizure, but he thought that he had just arrived, and he should have done more, so he swallowed his anger and buried himself in hard work.

After a few processes, he actually mastered the whole process of cooking chicken nuggets, and he felt that this method was problematic, and he once tasted the chicken nuggets made by this method, and there was no aroma, which directly led to the dismal business of this shop.

He suggested to the boss that the recipe should be improved, adding more spices or other spices, but the boss didn't listen and told him: Your duty is to make chicken nuggets, these are not your considerations, don't meddle with things, I have an ancestral secret recipe, there will be no mistakes.

His kindness was exchanged for a curse, he was angry, and wanted to leave, but a kind of study still made him stay, and the moment of inspiration, he seemed to have found a way to struggle for himself.

At work, he takes advantage of other people's downtime to delve into the kitchen and try to add other spices to the chicken nuggets.

One day, he inadvertently dropped a piece of chicken thigh into the heating oil, and felt very nervous, because the boss said that oil could not be wasted casually, and once found, he would be fined or deducted wages, fortunately, no one found out, he quickly took out the chicken nuggets, but it was a pity to throw them, he ate it, and a miracle appeared, he felt that the chicken nuggets that were inadvertently fried were spicy and delicious, and he felt that success beckoned to him.

After many developments, in June 1932, in his hometown, not far from Tennessee, KFC, the middle-aged man launched a new type of fast food - fried chicken, which soon adapted to people's fast-paced and efficient lifestyle, and spread throughout KFC in less than a year after opening.

In order to increase the scope of business, the middle-aged man has expanded his business channels, and he has combined bread and fried chicken, which everyone likes to eat, not only to meet people's needs for sweets, but also to adjust people's tastes, which can really kill two birds with one stone.

Now, KFC has spread to more than 80 countries around the world and currently has more than 9,600 chain stores.

The middle-aged man, Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC, said only one thing about his late success: I believe in suffering, because suffering is a taste that everyone avoids, but I like to sandwich it in bread and taste it slowly.

Different perspectives have different views on the problem, some are positive and some are negative. Negative thinkers only look at the bad side, they can always find negative explanations for things, and eventually they will also get negative results. Positive thinkers, on the other hand, are more willing to think about the good side of the problem and get a positive outcome through their own efforts. All of this is as Schopenhauer said: "Things do not affect people in themselves, but they are influenced by their perceptions of things!" ”

When we overcome the difficulties in front of us, isn't the spring of life coming soon? A person often feels hopeless when he is most painful, but this is also a time of hope, isn't it? Winter is coming, will spring be far away? When you are at your most painful and desperate, don't think that this is the end of life, it is precisely the prelude to the beginning of a new life.

Smile in the face of pain, and life will smile at you

Whether you are proud or frustrated, you must face the joys and pains of life calmly. If life gives us only one setback after another, it is nothing, because life does not take away our right to choose happiness and freedom.

Mindset is the guide of our life, it guides us out of pain. In the face of heavy blows, it is necessary to have an optimistic attitude that is not alarmed. Calm and optimistic, calm and calm. On the stage of life, we must learn to smile at pain and face misfortune calmly.

The late Mr. Edward Evans grew up in a poor family, first selling newspapers to make ends meet, and later working as a clerk in a grocery store, with several members of his family living on his meager salary. Later, he got a job as an assistant librarian, still with a small salary, but he had to keep doing it, because business was too risky. Eight years later, he borrowed $50 to start his own business, which went smoothly and earned more than $20,000 a year.

However, terrible doom struck suddenly. He guarantors a large loan for his friend, who goes bankrupt. Misfortune was not alone, the big bank where he had all his savings went bankrupt. Not only did he lose all his money, but he also owed more than $10,000 in debt, and under such a heavy double whammy, Evans finally fell. He couldn't eat, he couldn't sleep well, and he had an inexplicable strange illness, and he was in a state of extreme worry all day, and his brain went blank.

One day, while walking, Evans suddenly fainted on the side of the road and was never able to walk again. The doctor just told him lightly: there are only two weeks to live. Evans simply gave it all up, and now that bad luck had befallen him, he had to accept it calmly. He quietly wrote his will, lay on the bed and waited for death, and the person completely relaxed, closed his eyes and rested.

As the days passed, he was calmer, he no longer suffered from the calamity that had befallen him, he slept soundly like a child, he no longer worried about it needlessly, and his appetite began to improve. A few weeks later, Evans was able to walk on crutches, and six weeks later, he was back to work. It's just that he used to make $20,000 a year, and now he makes $30 a week, but he's already very happy.

His job was to sell the baffles that were placed behind the wheels when the cars were transported by boat, and he had long forgotten his worries, no longer frustrated by the past, no longer afraid of the future, he had devoted all his time, energy, and enthusiasm to selling the flaps, and the days were booming again, and in a few years he was already chairman of Evans Industries.

The life of Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, was not all smooth sailing. When he was middle-aged, his wife died; During World War I, his eldest son, Karl, was wounded and killed in France; Both of his twin daughters died in childbirth.

In World War II, tragedy once again befell Planck. His home was burned down by airplane bombing, and his entire collection of books, manuscripts, and decades-old diaries was reduced to ashes. In late 1944, his second son was arrested by the police after being found guilty of plotting to assassinate Hitler. Planck tried to ask for help, but he was unable to save his son's life.

Of these misfortunes, Planck said: "We have no right to all the good things that life has given us, misfortune is the state of nature...... The value of life is determined by the way people live. So time and time again, people return to their duties, to work, to show their love to their dearest ones. This love is as much as they themselves would like to experience. ”

A person's calmness is a kind of wisdom of survival, the art of life, and the calmness, naturalness and detachment obtained after seeing through social life.

If a person wants to be able to live freely and freely, he needs to have more peace in his heart. People who laugh at life are more likely to be favored for success than people who are sad and sad in the face of twists and turns, and who always believe that they have a bright future than those whose faces are often clouded.

In the face of misfortune and predicament, if you can treat it calmly and rationally and use it, you can often reap a good ending. On the contrary, those who always try to change the fait accompli, although they seem to be working hard and hard, may actually be weak in their hearts: they cannot convince themselves to accept misfortune and predicament, they choose to deceive themselves.

When being strong becomes a habit, there is no pain to bind you to

"When the soul is lost in the desolate heaven and earth, there is still the last strength to support my body, when the soul is naked in the desolate heaven and earth, I can only choose to be strong to save myself." Sometimes, you really have to be strong because if you're not strong, no one will be brave for you.

Teacher Chen Danyan described such a beautiful woman in "The Golden Branches and Jade Leaves of Shanghai" - Guo Wanbao (Daisy), she is the fourth lady of the Guo family of the famous Yongan Company in old Shanghai. Times have changed, all the glory and wealth have passed away with the wind, and she has experienced widowhood, labor reform, humiliation, beating, and poverty...... At one point, she was even reduced to digging a fish pond in the countryside to clear the manure bucket, but the years of suffering did not make her resentful, she was still beautiful, elegant, optimistic, and always maintained her self-esteem and pride. She has the habit of drinking afternoon tea, but her family has long been destitute, and the electric oven for baking cakes has not been used for many years, what should she do? Over the years, she has been doing it herself, using the only aluminum pot, baking on a coal stove, and skillfully baking Western-style cakes without temperature control. In this way, after decades of vicissitudes, she drank afternoon tea and ate homemade cakes, feeling comfortable, completely forgetting that she was in adversity, and quietly enjoying the remnants of happiness.

This is strong, an attitude to life, calm and calm. Life is like that, sometimes expected, sometimes unexpected. But whether it's sad or happy, you have to live and face it, and when you are old enough to be qualified to reminisce about the past, you will find that it is your life. And what has accompanied you all the way is not money, not desire, not appearance, but your strong heart.

Maybe you're a little scared, so you don't want to grow up, but a lot of things we don't want to go through, after all, we still have to go through it, and when we grow up, we have to bear a lot of things. In life, there is always more suffering than happiness, and happiness is less than difficulty, you have to learn to be happy in suffering, because if you are not strong, no one will be brave for you.

Perhaps, if you can, you would prefer to do what you want every day, without getting up early, without crowding on the subway, without having to look at the face of the boss, after a setback, you don't have to "stand up where you fall", yes, if you can, you would prefer to squat down and hug your knees and heal slowly...... However, there are no ifs in life, even if there are a thousand reasons to make you bleak and depressed, you must choose a thousand and one brave faces, because you are not strong, no one is brave for you.

Sometimes, it seems that there are groups of friends, and the daily buddies are righteous and sisterly, but when it comes to the critical moment, there is no one who can help them. So do anything, don't always think about relying on others, you have to rely on yourself in everything, because if you are not strong, no one will be brave for you.

On a stormy night, a butterfly was knocked down in the mud, it wanted to fly, it struggled desperately, but the wind and rain were too strong, and the heart was more than enough. After countless failed attempts, it was probably about to give up, but at this time, a ray of sunlight came, reflecting its beautiful wings, and it once again chose to be strong, and after repeated test flights, it finally broke free from the quagmire, waving its wings that still had mud spots, and radiating colorful light in the sun. Butterflies always know: if it's not strong, no one is brave for it.

The bloom of life needs your strength, without strength, you will become vulnerable, only after experiencing hellish torture, will you have the power to conquer heaven, only the bloody fingers, can you play the swan song of the world!

Strong, obviously has become a world, national trend, from survival to competition, from disaster to rescue, almost everyone is optimistic and enterprising to express strength, small to a person, big to a country, are constantly working hard to pay, day by day to make themselves better.

Being strong is actually a natural attitude towards life.

When daily strength becomes a habit, we will no longer complain about heaven and earth, you will find that life is just like that, there is helplessness, resentment, injustice, pain, with strength to face, they are not worth mentioning, just an episode in life.

You don't have to go with the flow, but learn to go with the flow

In many cases, many of us think that if I could be born into a wealthy family, we would have no worries about food and clothing; If I could be a little prettier, the boy I liked might have taken a fancy to me; If I accumulate a little more money, then I can start a company...... But there are not so many assumptions in life. In the face of so many unfulfillments, we are always struggling with all kinds of troubles in life.

Now that the facts have become a foregone conclusion, the only thing we can do is to take the present as a new starting point, sum up experience, save strength, wait for the right time, and believe that we can realize our dreams in the near future. Don't retaliate and wait with a negative mindset. Focusing too much on things that you can't do is a waste of time and unnecessary energy.

Faced with the immutable truth, the poet Whitman once said, "Let us learn to go with the flow like trees, in the face of night, storms, hunger, accidents, and other setbacks." "It's not a so-called resignation, nor is it a lack of progress, but a positive attitude towards life.

It's a foolish thing to just think about how to go back in time in the face of facts that can't be changed. In the article "The Beauty of Life", Hades once wrote such a paragraph: "Not everyone has the ability to resist fate, if you are unable to resist, then, accept the arrangement of fate calmly and calmly, and spend every day comfortably, isn't it also a manifestation of strength?" ”

On the ruins of a 15th-century church in Amsterdam, the capital of the Netherlands, is inscribed with the words: "This is the way it is, it will not be the other way it is." "Yes, in our lives, everyone encounters something unpleasant, even painful, and if they are like this, then they can't be the other way, but we can also have a choice. We can accept them as an inevitable thing and adapt to it; Or simply let worry and complain ruin our lives.

The philosopher William James said, "To be willing to admit that this is what it is, and to be able to accept what happened, is the first step to being able to overcome any misfortune that comes with it." In fact, this also requires us to have a corresponding psychological endurance, or to exercise our own sound psychological quality so as to accept it calmly.

People cannot change their misfortune or bad luck, and they must learn to accept the reality that cannot be changed. Accepting the truth is the first step to overcoming any misfortune, and even if we do not accept the arrangement of fate, it cannot change the slightest bit of the truth. The only thing we can change is our own state of mind.