In our daily interactions, we may often receive gifts from others, and of course, sometimes we need to give some gifts to others.

Although the gifts we give to others are usually different, our purpose is to express our sincere wishes to someone and to sincerely hope that they will feel that we care about them. There was a minister in the Tang Dynasty who sent a man named Mian Bogao to give the emperor a swan. However, when he came to a river with the swan, he wanted to give the swan a bath, but he did not expect that due to his own negligence, the swan flew away.

At this time, Mian Bogao panicked, because he knew that he had lost the gift to the emperor, and this was not the crime of killing his head. The more he thought about it, the more frightened he became, and finally he cried, but he cried and cried and came up with a limerick poem in his heart: "Paying tribute to the Tang Dynasty, the mountain is high and the road is far away, the swan is lost in the Yang Lake, and the crying horn falls to the ground, and the Tang Dynasty is restored. ”

It is said that in the end, Mian Bogao really dedicated the swan feather and this limerick poem to the emperor, but he didn't expect the emperor to be deeply moved by this limerick poem, not only did not kill Mian Bogao, but also rewarded him heavily.

This story is the origin of the well-known "thousands of miles to send goose feathers, light courtesy and affection". Etiquette is one of the contents of interpersonal communication. In our light or heavy, more or less gifts, we can not only experience the sincere care between people, but also enjoy the joy of friendly exchanges with everyone.

But if we don't give gifts in the right way, at the right time, and with the wrong gifts, then we may be doing bad things with good intentions. Once, Wang Hai drove to visit his good friend, and he thought to himself that he would wait until he left his friend's house to give him a gift.

So he put the gift in the car, came to his friend's house with empty hands, at first everyone greeted each other, and when it was about to eat at noon, Wang Hai found that his friend did not leave him at home for lunch, so he was ready to get up and say goodbye, and said to his friend: "By the way, I bought some things and put them in my car, I will go down and bring them up for you." When his friend heard Wang Hai's words, he immediately said: "Oh, then how can you leave at noon today, stay and have lunch together." After the friend finished speaking, he let his wife into the kitchen to prepare lunch.

Since then, Wang Hai has understood a truth: when you go to visit friends, you must take out the gifts as soon as possible, no matter whether your gifts are big or small, heavy or light, so that your communication will become smoother. Obviously, when someone has helped you and you give some gifts to show your appreciation, the other person will think that you are a person who knows how to be polite, and he will accept your gift willingly in his heart. If someone doesn't help you with anything, and you are able to give him some small gifts appropriately, then he will definitely remember you. When you need his help in the future, he may do his best to help you.

So, the gift you have chosen with a lot of effort, even with your gratitude, is sure to make others happy, and the effect is much better than those large sums of money.