A fulfilling life is not only limited to personal independence, but also requires the pursuit of interpersonal success. The most important thing to maintain interpersonal friendship is not skill, but integrity.

One study showed that two-thirds of employees who were laid off did so because they didn't get along well with other employees. It can be seen that interpersonal relationships can both help a person succeed and make a person fail. So, no matter what one's goals are or what career one chooses, if one wants to succeed in life, then one must learn to build relationships with others.

First, don't underestimate anyone's value.

As the saying goes: "The ruler is short, the inch is long", "the peak is high and the valley is deep", a person must have a long and short. So it is essential to treat everyone with a positive attitude and treat everyone as a very important person so that you don't underestimate anyone.

Second, don't take advantage of others.

What people hate the most is the kind of person who takes advantage of others for their own sake, and benefits themselves by harming the interests of others, which seems to be very successful, but from a long-term point of view, it is not only wrong, but also will not have good results, it will harm both others and themselves, we should always remember: the shortcut to make yourself successful by taking advantage of others will never work.

Third, ask someone for advice or help.

People always want the opportunity to show what they are good at, and they like the feeling of being able to help others because they have the power or authority. So, you should take the opportunity to ask for advice or help. Of course, this is only the beginning of a good relationship, and in order to make it more healthy and beneficial, both parties should help each other and benefit each other.

Fourth, don't forget to "bring something" to your friends.

The best relationship between people is one in which both parties are able to benefit from each other from time to time, and if you want your relationship to be healthy and permanent, then don't forget to "pick up something" when you go to meet friends. For example, some new perspectives, new insights, business opportunities, or information that will help you develop and boost morale, books, etc. In short, anything is fine, as long as it can achieve the purpose of helping the other person.

Fifth, take your attention off yourself.

When we interact with others, we often think of ourselves first, which makes it difficult to build good and lasting relationships. The right thing to do is to focus on the other person, which increases the likelihood of building a good relationship.

Sixth, genuinely care about others.

No matter how profound a person's skills and specialties are, and no matter how high his level of education, he or she is not as impressive as genuinely caring for others. You are someone's boss now, and if you don't let him know that you care about him first, then you can't have a positive influence on him. If you want to build good relationships, you need to care about the people you're dealing with first.

Seventh, get to know others carefully.

Getting to know others carefully is the best illustration of caring for others. Because nothing can have a more positive effect than knowing and remembering someone else's situation. The best example in history is Napoleon Bonaparte's relationship with his subordinates. Napoleon could name all the officers under his command. Napoleon Bonaparte liked to walk around the barracks, and when he met an officer, he greeted him by his name and talked about a battle or military transfer in which the officer had participated. Napoleon Bonaparte's timely inquiries about the soldiers' hometowns, wives, and families greatly touched and amazed his subordinates and subordinates, for their emperor knew so well about their personal situation. Therefore, Napoleon Bonaparte's subordinates and subordinates willingly remained loyal to Napoleon. Eighth, be tolerant of others.

Accommodating refers to the ability to tolerate the unreasonable behavior of others and all kinds of unpleasant situations, and learn to appreciate and accept different lifestyles, attitudes, cultures, races, as well as ages, appearances, and habits.

Each of us has its own reasons and conditions for our actions and emotions to occur, and if you are in these situations, you may do the same.

A tolerant person is usually able to see the good in others more, evaluate others more positively than negatively, and encourage more than blame.

In fact, any of us can freely choose to love or hate, criticize or blame, for this reason, whether we can be tolerant or not is completely in our own hands, we should pay more attention to the good side of others, and not always find fault with the bad side of others.

Of course, tolerance does not mean that we should tolerate all the wrong behaviors and abnormal behaviors of others. Because boasting, selfishness, greed, hatred, jealousy, evil thoughts, etc., are like leeches that live on people, causing them pain, making them sick, and even taking their lives. Of course, we can hate these pests, but we should also be sympathetic to the victims of leeches.

It is easy to love a lovely person, but it is difficult to love an unlovely person, and we have to be tolerant of a person who is arrogant, arrogant, bitter, mean, selfish, or rude.