In fact, each of us has a strong desire to communicate with others. However, more often than not, we often choose to retreat because we can't overcome our shyness and fear. At the end of the day, it's all due to our low self-confidence.

Self-confidence is expressed as "how comfortable you are in your comfort zone (how comfortable you can feel in different situations)". A person who has no self-confidence has a small comfort zone and is always afraid of rejection, so many people are reluctant to take the initiative to go out and socialize with others. For example, the Black Dragon, known as the father of Dale Carnegie in Taiwan, said that at cocktail parties or wedding receptions, Westerners would eat something before leaving and arrive early for the scene. Because it allows them to meet more strangers. However, in the Chinese society, people are always a little shy about this kind of occasion, not only will they be late sometimes, but they will also try their best to find people they know to talk to, and even make an appointment with good friends to sit at a table so as not to run into strangers.

In fact, many of us have fear and shyness in social situations, and people with severe cases are called social phobia.

Many people have encountered such troubles: it takes a long time to prepare for a meeting or an opportunity to negotiate with people, but when it comes to the scene, they start to get nervous, so that they forget what they have prepared in advance, the questions they want to ask, the progress of things, and so on.

Nervousness on the spot not only makes us sweaty palms, shortness of breath, stuttering, and lose due demeanor, but more seriously, it may affect some important things, which makes people frustrated.

Although most people are still able to interact with people normally, there are still very few people who can express themselves calmly, confidently, generously and appropriately in public.

To learn to communicate with others, you should first overcome social phobia. Here are some ways to help us get rid of our fears in social situations.

First, you must speak in a loud voice and do not have stage fright.

Second, the clothing should be decent and elegant, and it is best to be able to prepare yourself with a luxurious dress, which will greatly increase your self-confidence.

Third, if something unpleasant happens before meeting someone, you should take a short time to change your mood to a pleasant one. For example, walk to a bookstall and flip through your favorite magazines and read some jokes to make yourself laugh. Browse the nearby department stores, see the delightful goods, and more.

Fourth, when an opponent makes you nervous, you can try to advance the time of the meeting or meeting.

Fifth, arrive at the venue early, and you won't be so cringed psychologically.

Sixth, walking to the venue at a brisk pace will make you feel much more relaxed.

Seventh, keep your eyes at the same level as the other person, so that the mental stress will be reduced a lot.

Eighth, when choosing a venue, it is best to choose a place that you are familiar with, and if you can't do it, then at least choose a place that both parties are not familiar with.

Ninth, when you encounter an opponent who may make you cringe, be sure to keep looking them in the eye when you speak.

Tenth, the sooner the key issues are raised, the better, so that tensions will be eased.

Eleventh, during stage fright, you can confess to yourself: "I'm a little bit of stage fright, it's really not like words!" "As long as I realize this, I don't feel so nervous anymore.

Twelfth, if you feel overwhelmed by the other person's momentum, you might as well take out a piece of paper and scribble indiscriminately. This method has two effects: one is that the movement of your fingers will ease the tension in your brain due to random scribbling, and the other is that it can confuse the other person's psychology and distract them.

Thirteenth, before the conversation, come up with some of your own strengths and accomplishments, and you will have more confidence.

Fourteenth, tell yourself, "I'm nervous and uneasy, and the other person will feel the same way as me." At this time, your mind will be calmer, and your courage will increase.

Fifteenth, tell yourself, "My opponent is just like me, just an ordinary person." That way, you won't be intimidated by the other person's social status or title.

Sixteenth, in order to prevent an awkward atmosphere caused by the abrupt interruption of the conversation, we should prepare some materials, memos, and the like in advance, so that we can read them casually at any time.

Seventeenth, when you are suddenly stumped or unable to answer the other person's question, immediately ask the other person another question about it.

Eighteenth, if you find that you have said the wrong thing, you should immediately think of things that have nothing to do with it in your mind.

Nineteenth, find yourself very nervous, you must control yourself and let all your movements slow down.