Mr. Lu Xun said: "Face is the program of the Chinese spirit. "What the hell is face? To put it bluntly, face is dignity.

Everyone wants face, for the sake of face, the small will turn their face, and the big one will cause death; If you are cold about face, then you must be an undesirable person; If you only care about your own face and don't care about the face of others, then you will definitely suffer a dark loss one day. Therefore, when we interact with each other, while gaining face for ourselves, we should not forget to leave some dignity for others.

A country wants face, a unit also needs face, and an ordinary person also needs face, but the "decoration" of face is different, and the requirements are different. So the problem of face really cannot be underestimated. Labory was a salesman for a New York lumber company, and for years he had dealt with ruthless timber inspectors, he often had a verbal relationship, and although the end result was often that he won, the company always lost money. For this reason, he changed his strategy and stopped quarreling with others.

One morning the telephone rang in his office, and a man impatiently informed him that a truckload of timber that Guang Laoli had brought to his factory was not up to standard, and that they had stopped unloading and demanded that Guang Laoli immediately transport the goods back from their yard. It turned out that when a quarter of the timber was unloaded, their timber inspector reported that the timber was 50 per cent below the standard, and in view of this situation, they refused to accept the timber. Labory immediately set off for the factory, thinking about how best to deal with the situation. Usually, in this case, he will find the standard specifications to determine the grade of timber and argue with reason, and based on his experience and knowledge as a timber inspector for many years, he will try to convince the other party that the timber meets the standard and that the other party is wrong. This time, however, he decided to change his approach and apply the newly learned principle of "speaking" to deal with the problem. Guang Laoli rushed to the venue and saw the other party's purchaser and inspector with a non-negotiable look, and put on a posture to quarrel. Guang Laoli accompanied them to the truck and asked if they could continue unloading so that Guang Laoli could see what was going on. He also asked the inspectors to pile the timber to be withdrawn on one side and the good timber on the other, as he had just done. After looking at it for a while, I found that the other party was too strict in its examination and judged the wrong standard. Because this wood is white pine. The inspectors are very good at hardwood, but they don't know about white pine. White pine happens to be Hikari Lauri's specialty. However, Laura alone did not object at all to his way of classifying timber. Hikari asked a few questions as he observed. Rauri was very friendly and cooperative when he asked questions, and told them that they had every right to single out the substandard timber. In this way, the inspectors became enthusiastic and the tension between them began to dissipate. Gradually, the inspector's attitude changed, and he finally admitted that he had no experience with white pine, and began to re-examine every piece of timber and humbly solicit the opinion of Guang Laoli.

As a result, they accepted all the timber and received a check for the full price. At the mention of criticism, people immediately associate tension and unpleasantness. Tactfulness can make criticism easy and pleasant, and Guang Laoli achieves his own goal by giving face to the inspector.

In today's society, many young people often make a mistake: they think they have some opinions, they think they have eloquence, and when they seize the opportunity, they make big arguments, criticize others as useless, and they themselves cry out for joy. Everyone has their own concept of "face", which is related to the dignity and status of the individual. In the face of losers or disadvantaged groups, if you don't think about this, because you are superior, you will ruthlessly peel off the face of others, hurt the self-esteem of others, and erase the feelings of others. This kind of behavior is to pave the way for their own misfortune, and one day they will suffer the same hardship.

Therefore, in order to survive in society, we must understand this: to save the face of others is to win face for ourselves.