How can you expand your network? Of course, communication is inseparable. If a person can't communicate, then what else does he talk about and makes friends. Therefore, if you want to meet more people, you must first learn to communicate.

According to statistics, more than 80% of obstacles in modern work are caused by poor communication. An employee who is not good at communicating with his boss will not be able to do a good job. Maria is a well-known figure in American finance. When she first entered the financial world, some of her classmates were already in high positions in the industry, which meant that they had become the boss's henchmen. When Maria asked them for advice, they taught her a very important secret to always communicate positively with their superiors.

This is true at work, but even more so in interpersonal interactions. Without communication, how will others know what you are thinking? What kind of person are you? How can you help with that?

One day, a fierce conflict broke out between the lion and the tiger, and the result was a defeat for both sides. When the lion was about to die, he said to the tiger, "If you hadn't robbed me of my territory, we wouldn't have done what we are now." The tiger was surprised and said, "I never thought of robbing your territory, I always thought that you were going to invade me." ”

There are many times when we have a tiger and a lion misunderstanding, especially when we are in a competitive situation.

Xiao Wang and Xiao Li are in the same company, and they are also in the same department, both of them are very good, they always feel that the other party is competing with themselves, so they are careful to watch out for each other every day, once anyone makes a little achievement, they immediately think that this is the other party is deliberately competing with themselves, and immediately tense their nerves. In fact, they themselves don't want to be in this state of competition, but they both suspect that the other party is competing with them. If you realize that you are wrong, or you don't want to be the enemy of the other person and want to reconcile with the other person, then please communicate with the other person as soon as possible, so as not to cause misunderstanding and go against your own will. Song Juan met a man at a drinking party, and at first sight, she liked him very much, but Song Juan didn't know how to greet him, and she was embarrassed to say it after opening her mouth a few times. Song Juan watched the man she liked shuttle and talk through the crowd until the party was over and left.

The more Song Juan thought about it, the more she regretted it, why didn't she have the courage to speak? Even if it's just a "hello" question, it's fine. If we don't communicate, we often lose a lot of important opportunities. So, from now on, each of us should not make the same mistake as Song Juan again, and immediately say hello to everyone you like, and tell them that you really want to be friends with them.

In this way, you will find that the other party is often the same as you, and unexpected surprises will happen between you. It can be seen that courage is the first step in communication. Of course, in the process of interacting with people, how to communicate with people is also a science.

First, be clear about the purpose of your communication.

In the process of interpersonal communication, you should know how to use roles in two aspects: one is role reversal, and the other is role creation. Some people don't know how to grasp the principle of role reversal, so they are often accustomed to looking at their own behavior and others' behavior from their own role. U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt accidentally scared away a sika deer during a hunting trip, and was scolded by an old hunter. At that time, Roosevelt honestly kept his head down, because he knew that his current status was only a new hunter, not a president. When you are the boss, you have to show the posture of the boss to communicate with the employee, but if you are out of the company's environment, you must not put on the boss again, only in this way, when you are communicating with others, others are willing to approach you. And what role you play must depend on the role of the other party.

When you find that you can't communicate with people, you should try to think differently: If I were him, what would I do in this situation? How do I want others to treat me and how to talk to me? What can I do? Once you've figured it out, you can swap identities and create a new character. There was once a boss who heard an employee complain about the salary, and from the boss's point of view, he didn't think there was anything wrong with the employee's salary, but if he thought about it from the employee's point of view, then he would find that he would have the same complaint. When he found a way to change the way of communication, the employee's complaints were naturally gone. Second, don't be afraid of rejection.

For many people who are afraid of rejection, we can start by reading the following story: A boy wanted to start his own business, so he asked his father if he could start his own business. His father told the boy that he could. In this way, the boy decided to provide a paint service to the neighbors, but the first three families all refused the boy's service. The boy went home very frustrated and told his father. But his father happily told the boy: "You have already started to make money." ”

The father then continued: "When nine people say 'no' to you, there is always one person who says 'yes' to you. If your service fee is $10, then when the first person says 'no' to you, you've earned a dollar. So, let's not be afraid of rejection, the key is not how many people reject you, but whether you say what you think. No matter what others say, as long as you say your services to others, it means that you have earned money.

Third, increase the number of communications.

A good salesman once said, "The time spent visiting customers should be as short as possible, but the number of visits should be increased, and the same topic should be repeated every time, which means that you should visit customers often, but try to shorten the time of communication." "The fog in Hokkaido, Japan is quite famous. People are in it, they don't feel anything at first, and by the time they feel the fog, their clothes are already completely wet. And the most powerful part of this fog is that it makes people unknowingly soak their clothes. Just imagine, if someone carries a whole bucket of water and splashes it, the person who is splashed will definitely feel it immediately. The mist didn't feel at all at first, but it literally soaked the clothes.

In fact, when we talk, 90% of the content should be small talk, cheering and homely, so that people can feel that you care about them, and it is easier to get closer.

Fourth, the most important thing in communicating with people is sincerity.

It's only when people feel like you're thinking about them that they'll be receptive to your opinion. "Sincerity is in the heart, but form is outside." When we are able to communicate with others sincerely, it is easier to get help from others. As long as you sincerely communicate and communicate with others, then no matter whether the business can be done or not, at least one more friend.