If you want to manage your network well, in addition to maintaining close contact with some "valuable" friends, you should also do regular "cleaning work" of your social circle. As for those hypocritical bad friends, we must exclude them from our friends as soon as possible to prevent them from causing a bad influence on ourselves. Once, the internationally renowned orator Ms. Philippe asked a stylist to help her with styling. The stylist first helped her organize her wardrobe and divided all the clothes into three piles: one for someone else; A bunch is recycled; The small pile that was left for Philip.

Philip saw that many of her favorite clothes were in the pile of gifts for others, so he begged, "Can I leave a favorite sweater and a skirt?" But the stylist shook his head and said, "No, these may be your favorite clothes, but they don't fit your current identity and your chosen look." ”

As the stylist refused to give in, Ms. Philippe had to watch as most of her clothes were "evicted" from the house.

The clothes that the stylist asked Ms. Philip to leave behind were the most beautiful, attractive, and well-tailored. Philip later lamented: "I must learn to let go of what is no longer suitable for me." And 'cleaning the wardrobe' has gradually become the guiding principle of my work and life. Whether it's a customer, a friend, or a piece of clothing, we have to evaluate, re-evaluate, and know how to give up in order to make room for new people or things. "It's the same with your network. If we do the same "clean-up" work for our own networks, then after the "weeds" are removed, aren't the friends who stay in the circle the people we are most happy to associate with?

Greenwood once lamented, "I would rather be alone, without friends, than in the company of vulgar and lowly people." ”

In your life, especially in your struggle for success, you may need to find friends, but you must be careful not to make friends who are harmful to you and do not allow yourself to be dragged into troubled waters.

The environment we live in and the friends we make will have a great impact on our lives, so to speak, what kind of friends we make will have what kind of destiny.

Therefore, when choosing friends, you should strive to associate with those who are optimistic, enterprising, noble and talented, so as to ensure that you have a good learning and living environment, and receive rich spiritual food and sincere help from friends.

In order to better organize and maintain your network, you need to start with the following points.

First, analyze the people you know.

Make your own list of who is the most important, who is more important, and who is secondary, and line up according to your needs. It's like playing poker, knowing how many main cards you have, how many decks you have, which cards are the most powerful and can be used to win the point guarantee, and which cards can only be used to deal with the situation.

In this way, you will naturally understand which relationships need to be focused on maintaining and protecting, and which ones only need to be maintained in general contact and care, so that you can decide your communication strategy and allocate your energy and time wisely.

Second, beware of being betrayed by "villain" friends.

I don't know if you have ever encountered such a thing: the people around you, colleagues, subordinates or people who have no conflict of interest, you trust him, rely on him, and even work hard and hard for their sake, and strive to meet their various wishes, which can be said to be kind and hard-working to them. But one day, for some reason, one of them stabbed you in the back. What's even more sad is that when you cover your wounds and recall carefully, but you can't remember where you hurt someone, you can only sigh alone: you made the wrong friend. Therefore, in the face of the unguardable villain, we must distance ourselves from him as soon as possible.

Third, be careful of being spoiled by friends who complain all day long.

There are some people, no matter what the reality is, and no matter whether they work hard or not, they always like to complain blindly, complain that the unit is not good, complain that the boss is not good, complain about the poor work, the salary is small, and complain that they have empty stunts and no one appreciates them......

As everyone knows, complaining will only make you lose more. If you become friends with such a person, then over time, you will also get into his bad habits and thus become a person who is hated by others.

Fourth, don't always meet the demands of friends who have borrowed money from you or asked for help.

Although we say that it is always difficult to refuse a friend to reach out to him, and "sharing difficulties with each other" is also a principle that must be followed when making friends, everything should be measured. You can help a friend for a while, but you can't fund a friend for a lifetime.

Especially when the money that is "rescued" again and again is like a meat bun beating a dog and never returns, unless you are willing to be dragged down for a lifetime by this kind of selfish and unearned bad friends, you must let yourself quickly tighten your money bag and resolutely cross out his name from the list of friends.

Fifth, you can't be friends with people who like to brag.

People who exaggerate and talk exaggerated are actually people who are said by the common people to "just play tricks". They speak with such a gushing and imposing voice that it's hard not to believe it. But in fact, apart from a good mouth, he has no other skills.

A gentleman should talk less and do more. What we value most is not what a person says, but what a person does.

Sixth, don't leave your jealous friends around.

To make friends with such people, you have to pay the price of being willing to be mediocre. When you stand on the same level as him, he can have intimate relations with you, but when you are developed, his heart will immediately be full of old vinegar, and he will even hate you, speak ill of you behind your back, and cause you all kinds of trouble. Such a "friend" is often more terrible than an enemy.

Seventh, stay away from friends who like to play with right and wrong.

Generally speaking, people who love to tell right and wrong are themselves right and wrong. This kind of person likes to dig out his mind all day long to explore other people's privacy, today he says that this friend has an affair, tomorrow he says that the friend lost money in business, etc., he will even tell other friends that these words are to listen to you, at that time, you really have a hard time arguing. Don't be such a friend.

In short, it is important to weave a network of relationships, but it is more important that the network of contacts is maintained and properly managed. Otherwise, your initial efforts will be in vain, and we must pay more attention to this.