Some politicians in the West believe that it is better to shake hands once than to speak a hundred words. Shake hands vigorously once, the temperature and strength of the hand can quickly convey your emotions to the other party, and the handshake can shorten the distance with the other party. Some foreign politicians always meet and shake hands with voters during elections, because voters usually cast their sacred votes for candidates with whom they shook hands rather than listening to lengthy speeches.

It can be seen that this way of handshaking communication is more influential than the way of communication using language. In general, a handshake can convey three basic attitudes: dominance, obedience, and equality.

When shaking hands, if your palm is facing down, then you will pass on a dominant attitude to the other person; If your palms are facing up, it will convey a submissive attitude to the other person.

If both want to be in a dominant position, then, a symbolic competition will begin. And the result of this is that the palms of both hands will be in a vertical state.

In some cases, it is often easier for people to be willing to get closer to you with a palm-up handshake. Regardless of the handshake, the effect is not absolute.

There are some basic etiquettes that we must pay attention to when shaking hands:

◆ Shake hands in the order in which you reach out. Generally speaking, it should be the person with a higher status who reaches out first.

◆Don't be absent-minded when shaking hands. We often see people shaking hands with others, looking around, absent-minded, or shaking hands with others and greeting others at the same time, these are impolite behaviors and a sign of disrespect for the other person. The correct way to do this is to shake hands with someone and look them in the eye to show concentration and sincerity.

◆ Don't shake hands for too long. Some people like to hold other people's hands and ask long and short questions, nagging endlessly, this behavior seems to be a kind of enthusiasm, but in fact it is excessive. Especially for the opposite sex, you can't hold someone's hand for a long time, so how long is it appropriate? Generally, three or four seconds are enough.

◆ Do not shake hands with gloves. Some people are used to wearing gloves, but when shaking hands, they must be removed. In some places, women are allowed to shake hands with people while wearing gloves, but they do not lose their identity when they take off their gloves.

◆ Do not shake hands with your left hand. Unless there is discomfort with your right hand, you should never shake hands with your left hand. In particular, foreign friends are very concerned about this.

◆ Don't talk about "degree". We all have a problem of "degree" when we do anything, and handshakes are no exception. In order to show their enthusiasm and sincerity, some people shake hands with others with great force, which will not only hurt the other person, but even appear rude.

On the contrary, some people, especially some young women, in order to show their innocence, only stretch out their fingertips to shake hands with others, and do not use any force, which is of course inappropriate, making people feel that they are too cold and arrogant and perfunctory. Obviously, it is not appropriate to be too heavy or too light.

What is moderation? Etiquette experts believe that the correct thing to do is to hold the other person's hand with the palm and fingers of the whole without weight, and then shake it up and down slightly.

◆Don't be overly polite. Some people nod their heads vigorously no matter who they shake hands with, and this will obviously make people feel that they are too polite. When shaking hands, you should also greet someone, and if you are not allowed to make a sound, then you can nod your head. Of course, when we are dealing with our superiors, elders, or VIPs, in order to show our respect, we can bow a little when shaking hands.

◆ Do not cross handshakes. On some occasions, there may be more people who need to shake hands. When we encounter such a situation, we can shake hands with people in order from closest to farthest. Do not cross handshakes, especially when dealing with Westerners, because crosses will inevitably form a cross, which is considered the most unlucky thing in the eyes of Westerners.

◆Do not use fencing-style handshakes. The so-called fencing handshake is when shaking hands with someone, instead of stretching out the arm normally and naturally, it is like a fencing style when a stiff, straight arm is suddenly stretched out, and the palm of the hand is downward.

Obviously, this is a very unpleasant form of handshake, and it comes across as reckless, presumptuous, and lacking in cultivation. Stiff arms and downward palms will bring a sense of restriction to each other, so it is difficult to establish a friendly and equal relationship with each other. Therefore, when we shake hands with others, we should avoid using this handshake method.