We need to consciously create a "sense of self-fulfillment" to suppress those negative emotions in life, such as low self-esteem, autism, self-abandonment, etc., so as to form a virtuous circle of psychology. In this way, your sense of self-confidence and accomplishment will arise spontaneously, and you will have more courage and perseverance to meet the challenges of the future.

The so-called "character determines life, mentality achieves destiny". If a person wants to achieve great things, he must first have the mentality of becoming a big person. Aspiration is a person's persistent pursuit of life, but also a kind of desire, but also a kind of character reflection of striving for something in life. "Take the law from the top, fold it from it; Take the law in the middle, fold it down" - people who lack the character of ambition must do small things, and even small things cannot be done well. It's really like this, people have a weak side, if you can't suppress the weak character, then you often look ahead and backward when doing things, and you are afraid of failure before you act, which will only increase your psychological burden, so you have been afraid of the tail, and there has been no breakthrough in life.

Successful people are different, they seem to have an innate self-confidence and refuse to be resigned. This is the demeanor of a strong man. In the eyes of the strong, there is nothing in this world that can extinguish their fighting spirit, and nothing can stop them from succeeding, because they are born to be a "strong man".

As Dr. Bell put it, "Always thinking about success, looking at success, there is a force in your heart that pushes people to forge ahead, and when it comes to it, you can control the environment." It can be seen that if we want to be a successful person, it is very important to maintain the mentality of a successful person at all times, set ourselves as ideal, and act with the greatest confidence and enthusiasm as long as it is practical, until we succeed. Li Si's family was poor when he was a teenager, and he once worked as a clerk in charge of paperwork. It is said that once when Li Si was convenient, he happened to see rats stealing feces, and as soon as people and dogs came, the rats fled in a hurry. Soon after, he saw rats again in the official barn, and these rats swaggered all day long, eating food, growing fat heads and big ears, and living in peace and stability, without fear at all. Comparing the two, Li Si sighed with emotion: "The virtuous and unscrupulous, such as rats, are in their own ears!" It means that people are capable and incompetent like mice, they all rely on themselves to figure out their own ways, and if they have ability, they must be able to be a rat in the official warehouse!

So, Li Si was determined to become an "official hamster", he resigned from his position as a small official and went to Qi to study from Xunzi, a famous Confucian master at that time. Although Xunzi inherited Confucius's Confucianism, he made a great transformation of Confucianism, less of the traditional Confucianism's "benevolent government" and more of the idea of "rule of law", which was very suitable for Li Si's appetite. Li Si was very diligent, and together with Xunzi, he studied the "art of the emperor", that is, the knowledge of how to govern the country and how to be an official. After completing his studies, he said goodbye to Xunzi and prepared to go to Qin.

Xunzi asked the reason, and Li Si replied: "In life, poverty is the greatest shame, poverty is the greatest sorrow, if you want to be looked up to, you must do a career." The king of Qi is mediocre and weak, the state of Chu has done nothing, only the king of Qin is entrenched and ambitious, ready to wait for the opportunity and destroy Chu and dominate the world, therefore, the state of Qin is a good place to achieve his career. If you stay in the land of Qi and Chu, and soon become a citizen of the country, what future is there? ”

Li Si came to the Qin State and joined the disciple of Prime Minister Lü Buwei, who was greatly relied on by the Empress Dowager, and with his talent, he soon got Lü Buwei's respect and became a petty official. Although the official is not big, there is no shortage of opportunities to get close to the King of Qin, and this alone is enough. In Li Si's position, he can neither show his military merits nor be good at politics, he knows that the only way to attract the attention of King Qin is to write a book. He observed the current situation, figured out the psychology of King Qin, and resolutely wrote to King Qin - anyone who can achieve things can seize the opportunity. Although the country was prosperous during the Qin Mugong period, it could not dominate the world for two reasons: First, Zhou Tianzi's strength and prestige were still there, and it was not easy to replace him. 2. At that time, the power of the vassal states was balanced and comparable to the Qin state, but since Qin Xiaogong, the power of Zhou Tianzi has decreased sharply, and the wars between the princes have continued, and the Qin state has recuperated and taken the opportunity to grow. Now that the country is strong, the king is wise and virtuous, and it is effortless to sweep away the six countries, if you don't move at this time, when will you stay?

This remark can be said to be reasonable and reasonable, and at the same time, it is very much in line with Yingzheng's appetite. Li Si finally showed his face in front of King Qin and was promoted to Changshi. After that, Li Si not only advised the king of Qin on major policies, but also expressed his opinions on specific plans - he advised the king of Qin to spend money and bribe the monarchs and ministers of the six countries, so that they could deviate from morality and not work together to resist Qin. This trick really worked, and later, the six countries were defeated by Qin one by one, and Li Si finally climbed to the high position of prime minister. The different encounters between the "barn rat" and the "toilet rat" gave Li Si a great stimulus, so that he determined the direction of his life - to be a rat in the granary. Li Siqi is ambitious, and his sober mind has given wings to his ambition and helped him choose a different starting point in life.

Only when a person has set high ambitions and practiced them can he make himself an outstanding, unconventional person, or a person who has achieved something.

In fact, many people were originally ambitious when they were young, and they originally had the dream of "becoming a marshal", but in the face of the pressure given by life and the blows caused by setbacks, they finally chose to retreat. As a result, the originally unlimited potential was completely suppressed; Then, life becomes insensitive; In the end, they don't seem to have any feelings for suffering or happiness. This is what people call "rubber people".

Perhaps, many people have become accustomed to this kind of "uneventful" life, but from the perspective of life value, it is meaningless. As Napoleon Bonaparte said, "A soldier who does not want to be a marshal is not a good soldier", so a life that does not want to achieve something must be a life without regrets. What life is like depends on your positioning.

From a personal point of view, whether a person can have an aspiring character is closely related to his expectations and positioning for himself. A person who thinks highly of himself but is arrogant will not have a greater probability of success than a person who has high aspirations and is willing to work. If a person is self-indulgent and short-sighted, he will undoubtedly become a failed ordinary man.

Aiming high means that you have a chance to win the situation and have the possibility of getting things done. This is an ideal goal for most people, and under the stimulation of this goal, there is hope and hope in life. We should take "outstanding, not vulgar" as our life goal, that is to say, we should stand on a high place to look at life, and through a series of effective means, to achieve the goal of winning the game.

There is a good saying: "If you call yourself a slave, you will never be a master!" "It's true that each of us has different goals for success, but what is certain is that no matter how you interpret and define success, you must choose a clear goal for yourself. Because a life without goals and ideas will inevitably be a mess, extremely boring, and extremely mediocre. If you want to be successful, you have to position yourself as a successful person and be determined to go down this path! You know, whether to become a "hamster" or a "toilet rat" is entirely up to your thoughts, and it all depends on your choice.