Fighting to the death for the sake of a moment is not beneficial to yourself. When Tarzan is at the top, what's the point if you bend over? There is still a chance to straighten up if you bend it, and if the waist is crushed, it will be completely broken.

Many people can't bear the momentary anger and like to be a hero, but they hit their heads and bleed, and they can't even protect themselves, let alone defeat their opponents. The so-called "straight as a string, the side of the dead road; Although it sounds sad, if you think about it, integrity is certainly respectable, if you can achieve the goal of justice in a winding way, wouldn't it be better? Wang Yawei, a young boxer, rode his bicycle to the street one day, and when he was waiting for a red light at the intersection, a young man on a bicycle rushed up from behind and hit his bicycle. The young man not only did not apologize, but was arrogant and asked the king to repair his car. The king was annoyed, but he tried his best to keep his emotions from flare-up. The young man was overwhelmed and said wildly: "You're an athlete, aren't you?" I'm not afraid of you being a boxer, let's practice? As soon as he heard that the other party was going to fight, Wang hurriedly retreated and said, "Don't fight, don't fight, I'm not an athlete, and I won't fight." Because of his weakness, a conflict was averted. Afterwards, he said: "I know how much damage my punch will cause to ordinary people." I have to keep reminding myself to be patient, because showing weakness makes me feel stronger. "Life is like chess, and it is easy for a pawn who blindly collides to lose his life. Only the commander knows when to charge into battle and when to keep his head in the dark. If necessary, endure humiliation, combine rigidity and softness, advance and retreat to a certain extent, and plan before moving. During the Jiajing period of the Ming Dynasty, the traitorous minister Yan Song was favored by the emperor, and his power was overwhelming, and he persecuted the ministers who did not obey him in the court.

At that time, Yan Song was the first assistant scholar of the cabinet, and Xu Jie was a cabinet scholar, he was very famous in the court, and Yan Song had designed to frame him many times. Xu Jie pretended to be deaf and dumb and never had an argument with Yan Song, Xu Jie's family couldn't bear it, and said to Xu Jie: "You are also an important minister in the court, Yan Song has hurt you five times, you only know how to back down, this is too timid." If you keep going like this, one day he'll kill you. You should expose his crimes and appeal to the emperor. ”

Xu Jie said: "Now that the emperor is favoring Yan Song and obeying him, how can he listen to me?" If I accuse Yan Song now, not only will I not be able to bring him down, but I will harm myself and my family, and this matter must not be reckless! ”

In order to rectify Xu Jie, Yan Song instructed his son Yan Shifan to be rude to Xu Jie, wanting to provoke him, so that he could take the opportunity to find trouble. Once, Yan Shifan humiliated Xu Jie in front of hundreds of civil and military officials, but Xu Jie was not angry at all, and kept apologizing to Yan Shifan. Someone was upset about Xu Jie, and wanted to impeach Yan Song, but Xu Jie hurriedly stopped him, he said: "It's all my fault, it's too late for me to be ashamed, what do you have to do with others?" Yan Shifan can point out my mistakes, this is for my good, you misunderstood him. ”

Xu Jie was very deferential to Yan Song on the surface, and he even married his granddaughter to Yan Song's grandson in order to win Yan Song's trust. In the forty-first year of Jiajing (1562 AD), Zou Yinglong denounced Yan Song's father and son, and the emperor arrested Yan Shifan and ordered Yan Song to retire. Xu Jie personally came to the house to comfort him, which made Yan Song deeply moved and kowtowed to thank him. Yan Shifan also begged Xu Jie with his wife to intercede for them in front of the emperor, and Xu Jie agreed to come down.

After Xu Jie returned home, his son Xu Fan was puzzled and said: "Yan Song's father and son have been convicted and stepped down, and my father should stand up and testify against them." My father has been wronged for so many years, have you forgotten it? ”

Xu Jie pretended to be angry and scolded: "Without the Yan family, there would be no me today, now that the Yan family is in trouble, I will be laughed at if I am resentful!" Yan Song sent someone to investigate this situation and believed it.

Yan Song has left his post, and Xu Jie continues to write letters of condolences. Yan Shifan also said: "Elder Xu has no bad intentions towards us. As everyone knows, Xu Jie just saw that the emperor still had a love for Yan Song, and the emperor was a capricious person, Yan Song's minions were moving around, and the time was not yet ripe. He quietly told his son: "Yan Song has been favored for many years, and the emperor likes to do things repeatedly, in case things change, I can also have a way out by doing this." I don't dare to be negligent, because this matter is related to the life and death of many people, and it is better to make a decision depending on the situation. ”

When Yan Shifan's plot against the incident happened, Xu Jie conspired to draft a chapter, grasped the key points of Yan Song's father and son, and told Yan Song and his son that they wanted to be emperors, so that the emperor made a painful decision to get rid of Yan Song's father and son. Xu Jie did not have the courage of a horseman, endured silently, and begged for self-protection, and finally waited for the opportunity to bring down Yan Song's father and son.

If you don't have full certainty, you won't do it, Xu Jie's approach can be described as cautious. It is precisely because he can endure humiliation and show weakness to the enemy that he can turn the danger into a disaster under Yan Song's pressure step by step, and finally seize the opportunity to annihilate the enemy in one fell swoop.

We should also be cautious and cautious in our conduct in the world, and we should not be impatient and rash, otherwise we will only hit our heads and bleed.

When the opponent is not as strong as the opponent, patience and gaining the trust of the opponent are very effective ways to make the opponent let down their guard and win. In work and life, forbearance at the right time can also help to ease interpersonal relationships. When the strength is not as good as the other party, do not guard against silent patience and wait for the opportunity, this is the true wisdom and the real competition.