People can't be too lonely in life, we need to create a wonderful world for ourselves, so please get out of your "ego" complex, and stop being strained, wandering, and depressed. Love the world with a tolerant heart and be a "complete" person who is physically and mentally healthy.

In life, I often see some scheming people, even if they buy vegetables in the market, they will not give in to each other because of a dime, and the bargaining is endless. Between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you suffer and I take advantage, and the days seem to be spent on these meaningless trivial matters, and you will always compete for the length of the matter, and you will never be able to fight for the length of the matter.

In fact, we must not only get out of the "little self" in life, but also out of the "little self" in our hearts. Some people who are sensitive by nature are always hovering in the whirlpool of sensitivity. Today's leader's look is wrong, and tomorrow's person's word of silence will make them keep exploring, entangled in the web of their hearts, as if they have been greatly hurt. In short, no matter what happens, it will expand infinitely in their hearts, causing a strong vibration in the heart and manifesting itself in various outlets.

So, how does this "ego" in our psyche come to be?

Eckhart said: "The soul of the 'ego' must make itself die." Many people have a constricted "ego" in their hearts, no matter what changes, the "ego" can be the first to respond, and to self-protection as the starting point to produce resistance psychology, psychological reactions will be serious and generalized, manifested as withdrawn temperament, self-depreciation, some are moody, exaggerated behavior.

In fact, that constricted "ego" is just an impermanent and ephemeral feeling in the depths of people's hearts, not a real, solid entity. If we understand that the ego is so empty, we will stop identifying with it, defending it, and worrying about it. In this way, we are freed from long-standing pain and unhappiness.

People's emotions are not directly caused by a certain event, but because of the incorrect understanding and evaluation of the event by the person who has experienced the event, a certain belief has been formed, and under the domination of this belief, it has led to the emergence of negative emotions. Those who fight with the devil should be careful not to become a devil in the process. When you stare into the abyss of emotions for a long time, the abyss is watching you as well. Some people say that reacting strongly to a small thing is a sign that deep down in your heart has been greatly hurt, especially if you say it. Because some events in the experience have caused great damage to the self, a part of the self is cut off from the surroundings and lost or tightened, which makes people's nerves tense everywhere, and life has become a struggle to bear and struggle.

There is also a kind of sensitive psychology that comes from people's natural yearning for true love. Because people are very eager to be cared for, cared for, and cared for, the friends around us are often a smile, a look, a word of concern or even just a very ordinary word will cause us to have a lot of mood swings, so that we can't sleep at night and think about it. This manifestation often comes from a lack of loving experience in childhood, or from the emotional trauma of growing up. All of these experiences have made our need to find a partner who can give us a sense of security in order to dilute the fear of personal survival.

In fact, true love is heart-wrenching, true love can make people transcend themselves, completely vulnerable and open, so sometimes true love can also bring complete destruction. In fact, since our insecurity comes from our hearts, that is, the split self in our hearts, no one can bring us a real sense of security, if we hold this psychology to find love, then the harm will never stop. In fact, each of us has the ability to be autonomous, to explore the deep self of the soul, to listen to the voice of the heart, to let those suppressed emotions flow out naturally, whether it is anger, sadness, pain, fear, when you learn to slowly accept them, make them a part of yourself, certain changes will follow, at this time you yourself are your great sense of security, and you will bring you great love and self-sufficiency. Only when we are capable enough to love ourselves and others can we truly grow and mature.

In real life, if we want to get out of the "little self" in our hearts, we have the following points for reference.

First of all, expand your social network and make friends. A wide range of social interactions helps to dilute one's sensitivity and lead to a healthier body and mind. At the same time, different types of interactions can also provide us with different life experiences, which can unconsciously correct our own narrow view of things, and make us more cheerful and informal.

Second, keep seeking knowledge and draw nourishment from books. There are a lot of people in the book, and when we read it, we are like being there, and we understand what is worthy of respect and cherishment in life. In this way, we will treat ourselves and others with sincerity, so that every day of our life is full of peace. A good book is like a good school, it teaches people to face everything in the world with grace and generosity, away from vulgarity and triviality, and it allows us to understand the true meaning of "wealth and hard work, not poverty of leisure".

Finally, we need to cultivate fraternity. Only by loving ourselves can we forgive and accept our imperfections; If you love others, you will consider things from the other person's point of view, and be more understanding and tolerant; Only by loving the world can we fill our hearts with gratitude and praise, and make our lives more fulfilling.