We don't always have to point out each other's mistakes in order to show our cleverness. From ancient times to the present, those who blame others often do not end well. Instead of making each other unhappy, why not adopt a different strategy for dealing with the world? If you want to gain people's approval of you, you must remember this saying: "Respect other people's opinions and never blame them for being wrong." ”

When dealing with people, it is normal to have disagreements and contradictions about some things. At this time, if you are a sensible person, you will not blame anyone casually. Even though you already know the whole process of the situation, and even though you firmly believe that your judgment is correct, show your mature demeanor. This is the principle of life that we must abide by, because the era of turning your face at every turn no longer belongs to you.

When we are young, we blame each other for having an argument with the other person, you think you are right, he thinks he is right. In this way, the two people did not give in to each other, and even spoke ill of each other, which not only affected each other's mood, but also brought harm to each other's self-esteem. When we grow up, our mood is much calmer, and no matter what happens, we have to remember that we are here to solve problems better. Even if there is a disagreement or even a dispute with the other party, you must learn to treat others with courtesy and be a wise and elegant person. Not only does this mean that you have matured, but it also shows the other person that you are rational, which is absolutely important to us.

Human nature is like this, no matter how wrong he does, he would rather blame himself than have others accuse him. This is true for others, and so are we. When you want to blame someone, you have to remember that accusation is like a carrier pigeon, it will always fly back. Remember, accusations will not only make you offend the other person, but they will also make them accuse you in return. Even for the dereliction of duty of subordinates, accusations are futile. If you just want to vent your frustration, then you have to think that this dissatisfaction will not only not be accepted by the other person, but will also create an enemy for you; If you want to correct the other person's mistakes, then why not sincerely help him analyze the reasons?

The means should serve the ends, and the bad means will only be used if there are bad motives. The secret of many successful people is that they rarely blame others and never speak ill of others. When faced with something that can be blamed, you can say something like: "It's a pity that this happened, but I'm sure you didn't do it on purpose, but in order to prevent this kind of thing from happening in the future, we'd better analyze the reasons...... This kind of sincere help is far more obvious and effective than accusations.

In addition, it is better not to correct the obvious mistakes of others, otherwise it will seem that you are deliberately trying to appear clever and thus hurt the self-esteem of others. In life, we must keep in mind that if it is a dispute between principles and principles, we should give the other party more opportunities to win, so that we can not only avoid making enemies, but also perhaps satisfy the other party's "revenge", and there is nothing to lose to ourselves. What does it matter if you make a verbal sacrifice, and why bother to hurt someone about it? You also have to be as subtle as possible about mistakes of principle. Since your intention is to make the other person accept your opinion, why use hurtful actions to highlight yourself?

If you can be sure that you're right 55% of the time throughout your day, you're not far from success. If you're not sure you're right 55% of the day, why should you blame someone for wrongdoing?

You can use gestures, tones or gestures to tell someone that he's wrong, and it's as effective as our words...... And if you tell him wrong, do you think he will appreciate you? No, never! Because you give him a powerful blow to his intelligence, judgment, self-confidence, and self-esteem, not only will he not change his will, but he also wants to fight back against you. If you use the logic of Plato and Kant to reason with him, he will not change his will, because you have hurt his self-esteem. At this time, you must not say, "You don't admit that you are wrong, I will prove it to you." By saying this, you are saying, "I am smarter than you, and I will correct your mistakes with facts." "It's a challenge, it's going to be disgusting, and you don't have to wait for you to say anything more, he's ready to accept your challenge. Even if you use the mildest of words, it is extremely difficult to change the will of others, let alone in such a very unnatural situation.

If you hurt someone because of your mistakes, you have to apologize to them in time, so that you can turn enemies into friends and completely eliminate the hostility of the other person. Maybe you'll get along better in the future. Since you have offended others, you must have gotten some kind of vent at that time, rather than waiting for someone else's "catharsis" - I don't know when a dark arrow flew out, it is far better to take the initiative to come forward to pay tribute, so as to release the previous suspicions and deduce the "will be harmonious" that has been passed down through the ages.

In order to avoid making enemies, it is also important to pay attention to the fact that you do not have to fight for the upper hand when arguing with others. Believe this, there are no winners in quarrels. Even if you win verbally, at the same time, you set up an enemy with a grudge against you. There is always a reason for quarrels, and there is always a certain purpose. If you really want to get the problem solved, don't use the form of arguments. Quarrels do nothing but make people resentful and make enemies and ruin their suave image in front of the public. If the argument is only caused by different opinions in daily life, it is even more important to avoid arguing. It would be unwise for you to speak openly and at the same time criticize all the different opinions, and you will isolate yourself and become the object of hatred of others. If you do this often, then your opinion will never be noticed again. Others will be happier when you're not there than when you're present. You know so much that no one can contradict you, people will stop refuting you, no one will argue with you again, and you will only know so much that it will be difficult to get the slightest supplement from your interactions. It is not wise to hurt the self-esteem of others and to hold grudges against others because of debate, which is not only not good for oneself, but also hinders others and makes oneself enemies.

"Many friends have many roads, many enemies have many walls", you should pay attention to avoid making enemies as much as possible in life, and don't do stupid things that offend people by blaming others. We should be mature, and in order to make our future path smoother, we should still think from the perspective of respecting others, and it is better to say less criticism.