There is a good saying: "Life will treat you as you do it." "The same life, it can be complaining or happy, it depends on your attitude. Stop complaining, enjoy life, care for others, and be kind to yourself, that's what we should do.

Complaining about this problem is reflected in many people. When we were young, we complained that we didn't have as many toys as other children. When we went to school, we complained about who the teacher preferred; When we were older, we began to complain that the clothes were not as beautiful as the ones that were in the house; Then, complain that your wife is not as beautiful as others, that your husband is not as good as others, that your work is not satisfactory, and that your leadership is unfair...... In short, we've been complaining about this, complaining about that...... But complaining doesn't change things, it makes us unhappy and unhappy.

Mature people should understand that there is never absolutely fair things in this world, when we complained because we were ignorant, at this time we complained perhaps out of instinct, but at least we need to pay attention to one thing - complaining must always be divided into occasions and places. If you keep nagging endlessly, anytime, anywhere, it is very likely to ruin the image you have worked so hard to build, or even ruin all your previous efforts.

In fact, in daily life, many people who are not smart enough will immediately show dissatisfaction, anger when they feel that they have been treated unfairly, and even burst into a rage and scold. However, these actions can only be used to vent one's agitated emotions without any damage to the other party, not only are their efforts wasted, but they may even attract the hostility of others and cause themselves to be hurt even more. Xiaoqi is an administrative assistant in a company, and her colleagues regard her as the "housekeeper" of the company, and everyone comes to her for help in every detail. In this way, Xiaoqi's daily affairs are complicated and busy, and complaints and complaints have become commonplace.

Early this morning, I heard her complain again: "Annoying, annoying!" A colleague frowned and muttered unhappily: "I was in a good mood, but I was annoyed by your quarrel." ”

In fact, Xiaoqi has a cheerful and outgoing personality, works seriously and responsibly, although she is full of complaints, she is not ambiguous at all about what she should do. Equipment maintenance, office supplies purchase, communication bills, air tickets, room reservations...... Xiao Qi was so busy all day that she couldn't wait to grow eight hands. In addition, she is enthusiastic, and the person who is too lazy to go downstairs to eat at noon also asks her to help order takeout.

Just after paying the phone bill, Xiao Li from the finance department came to receive the glue, and Xiao Qi said unhappily: "Didn't you just come yesterday?" Why do you have so many things, this today, tomorrow that? The drawer crackled, and a glue stick was pulled out and thrown on the table: "I will get things together in the future!" Xiao Li was a little embarrassed, and he couldn't say anything, so he hurriedly smiled and said: "Look at you, every time you ask someone for reimbursement, you call it dear, and when you ask for something, your face will grow immediately." ”

Everyone was laughing, and Wang Na from the sales department rushed in, and it turned out that the photocopier was jammed. Xiao Qi's face immediately turned cloudy, and he waved his hand impatiently: "I know, I'm annoyed!" I've told you a hundred times, fill out the warranty form first. The list was shaken: "Fill it in, I'll take a look." Xiaoqi muttered as she walked out: "The people in the comprehensive department are all dead, and they will look for me for everything!" Xiao Zhang at the table was angry: "What is this called?" Did I provoke you? ”

Although the attitude is not good, the normal operation of the whole company is really inseparable from Xiaoqi. Although sometimes she was robbed of nothing and couldn't get off the stage, no one said anything. How so? Isn't she doing her best what should be done? However, those "annoying", "annoying", "didn't you say it"...... It's really uncomfortable. Especially the people in the same office, when Xiao Qi screamed, their heads were all big. "Please, don't you know what emotional pollution is?" This is the unanimous reflection of everyone.

At the end of the year, the company elected advanced workers, and although everyone thought that this kind of activity was old-fashioned and ridiculous, they secretly hoped that they could be on the list. Bonuses are a small thing, and who doesn't want to be recognized for their work? The leaders believe that Xiaoqi is the most advanced, but when you look at the voting results, out of more than 50 votes, Xiaoqi only got 12.

Someone said privately: "Xiaoqi is good, but her mouth is too powerful." ”

Xiaoqi was very aggrieved: "I am tired and tired, but no one understands me...... "What is thankless?" Like Xiaoqi, she has done her job for others, but she complains for the sake of being quick for a while, and her previous efforts are wasted. In today's society, the competition is becoming more and more fierce, we can not always be in an absolute advantage in the competition, let alone hold an iron rice bowl, "existence" is not necessarily "reasonable", but complaining can only make us do nothing. Hiding your dissatisfaction in your heart, correcting your mentality, and actively dealing with people and things that make you resentful is what a smart person should do.

The so-called "cold language hurts people", the speaker is unintentional, and the listener is intentional. We should remember that there are many things that we have done, so we should be willing, and complaining will always be useless, on the contrary, it will bury your credit.

Therefore, it is better for people to complain less, after all, complaining really does not solve any problems. When you feel unfair, you might as well think about the lyrics in Leslie Cheung's "Silence is Golden" - "There is justice in right and wrong, be cautious and don't offend others, don't take it too seriously when you encounter cold wind and rain, be confident in your heart, and don't pay attention to sarcasm and questioning...... It's wrong, it's never right, it's true, whatever you say, keep my duty, and always believe that silence is golden. Laugh and scold by people, be a man freely, be a young man, be a man freely, continue to be a man, and be a man freely. ”

Nine times out of ten, there is no harm in nagging a couple of sentences once in a while, but remember to have a degree.