When we were kids, we all thought we were smart and always wanted to show ourselves in front of people. But when we grow up, we find that those who are really smart are so deep, so we also learn from them to pretend to be deep. When we understand what wisdom means with mature eyes, we realize that confusion is so important to a person. It is an indispensable philosophy of life, which is worth savoring and learning all our lives.

There are people in life who are always 100% serious about things and never ambiguous, but this type of person is usually not welcomed by the people around them. Why? Because they don't understand the importance of proper confusion. In fact, as a mature person, proper confusion is an act of showing one's good cultivation.

When a person spoke on the stage and said "Xin Xin Xue" as "Xīn Xīn Xue", someone in the audience immediately stood up and pointed out, which made the people on the stage very embarrassed. At first glance, the people in the audience seem to be very upright, serious and commendable, but they are not. Pointing out the mistakes of others in full view is bound to embarrass people. The person who does this must not have thought about this beforehand, and more importantly, it shows that he is a person who does not know how to tolerate others. "No one is perfect", everyone will make mistakes, and a person who can't tolerate others must be a person with poor cultivation. A person who does not know how to tolerate others is very difficult to be respected. And to be tolerant of others, you have to learn to be appropriately confused. When you pretend to be confused and tolerate others, the people around you are not confused, and they will understand you. In this way, your cultivation will be reflected and people will respect you for it.

I remember the hit TV series "Prime Minister Liu Luoguo" a few years ago, the protagonist Liu Yong and the eighth prince of Yuezhang are very different in the play, Liu Yong is very serious in the play, but he has become the target of public criticism, has been repeatedly degraded, and has been recalled repeatedly, and his life has been full of ups and downs. The eighth prince is different from him, every time the two factions in the court and the middle of the court fight, the emperor is difficult to choose, when he is embarrassed, he wants to ask for an explanation from his eighth uncle, and the eighth prince only has one sentence: "The emperor is shengming!" "It made the emperor cry and laugh. With only these four words in his life, the eighth prince has not suffered for decades and has died well. That's the beauty of being confused.

Let's take a look at this story again: Xiao Zhang: "General manager, have you signed the document I handed over to you yesterday?" ”

The general manager squinted his eyes and thought about it, then rummaged through the boxes and cabinets again, and finally spread his hands helplessly: "I'm sorry, I've never seen the documents you handed in." ”

If it had been two years ago, if he had just graduated, he would have argued: "General manager, I obviously handed over the document to you, and I saw your secretary put it on the desk, did you throw it away as waste paper?" "But after a few losses, he became wiser, and now he would never do that. I heard him say calmly: "That's probably because I'm mistaken, I'll go back and find it again." ”

When he returned, he didn't look for any documents, but directly retrieved the original documents from his computer and reprinted them. When he put the document in front of the general manager again, the other party only glanced at it symbolically and signed it briskly. In fact, the manager knew very well where the manuscript was going. Sometimes, it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. What is the use of arguing under a low eaves? On the contrary, it may ruin your future because of this. Pretend to be confused, find a step for the other person to go down, and maybe you will get unexpected gains.

Proper muddle not only reflects your good cultivation and earns you respect, but also acts as a lubricant for your good interpersonal relationships. There are some things in life that need to be figured out, but there are some things that are too clear and can be harmful. No matter how close the relationship is, people also need to maintain a certain distance in order to maintain this intimacy, which is the so-called "distance produces beauty".

Some people are unfortunate because they are too serious, too sensitive, and too harsh on life. And this harshness is often unreasonable or incorrect.

Confused, the university of life is also asked. How to be artistically and cleverly confused, and learn deeply. Zheng Banqiao of the Qing Dynasty came to the conclusion that "it is rare to be confused" in order to dispel his temporary discouragement, and further pointed out that "it is difficult to be smart, it is difficult to be confused, and it is even more difficult to turn from being smart to being confused."

Everyone in the world is willing to be wise, not to be confused, and not to willingly turn from wisdom to foolishness. In fact, there are rich connotations and different levels of intelligence. And the confusion also has rich connotations and different levels. If we do some careful research, we will find that there is a distinction between elementary and advanced intelligence, and there is a difference between low-level confusion and high-level confusion.

The so-called top-level intelligence is the foolish intelligence, which Lao Tzu called "great wisdom and foolishness", that is, real people do not show their faces. The so-called primary cleverness is superficial cleverness, which Xunzi called "hidden in a song and dark in Dali", that is, "floating spirit".

The top-level confused Mencius called it "leading but not provoking", that is, knowing in the heart. The so-called low-level confusion is the confusion from the inside out, commonly known as "wooden head" and "not open", that is, the confusion at all.

The famous saying of Zheng Banqiao of the Qing Dynasty is "rare and confused", many people hang it in the hall, put it on the desk, press it under the glass plate, and write it on the origami fan, so as to remind and encourage themselves everywhere and everywhere, so as to be a confused person. People go to such great lengths to make this phrase palpable at all times, not only to show their love for it, but also to show that it is not easy for people to be confused. Here, it is especially important to be wary that people who have never been smart must not talk extravagantly about confusion, let alone pursue confusion. As the saying goes: "The ministers of the fallen country dare not speak wisely, and the generals of the defeated army dare not speak bravely." "People who have not reached the level of true wisdom and have not yet gotten rid of low-level foolishness, rashly imitate the "smart foolishness", then they will really be confused to the end, and they will be a mess.