If a person does not want to fall into loneliness, then he must get out of his small space, learn to take the initiative to open his heart, communicate with others more, find more things to do, and let himself have some sustenance. Doing so will leave you alone, and your soul will be richer and more leisurely.

In this world, both men and women will have some loneliness to a greater or lesser extent. Loneliness is a kind of pain in life, especially the loneliness in the heart is even more terrible. Some lonely people stay away from the crowd, close their hearts to themselves, and live a life of self-pity, and some even have distorted personalities and abnormal spirits because of this. There was a woman who was devastated by the tragic death of her husband two years ago. Since then, she has been trapped in a state of loneliness and pain. "What should I do?" One day, nearly a month after her husband left her, she turned to the doctor for help, "Where am I going to stay?" Do I still have happy days? ”

"Your anxiety is due to the fact that you are in the midst of an unfortunate experience, and it is natural to be very sad to lose your partner in your 30s," the doctor said. But over time, these pains and worries will slowly fade away, and you will start a new life—to get out of the shadow of pain and build a new happiness for yourself. ”

"No!" "I don't believe I'm going to have any happy days," she said in despair. I'm not young anymore and I have a 7-year-old child by my side. Where else can I go? "She apparently suffers from severe self-pity and doesn't know how to treat it, and years have passed without her mood getting better. In fact, she does not need to elicit sympathy or pity from others. What she needs is to rebuild her new life, make new friends, and develop new interests. And dwelling in old memories can only make you sink continuously.

Many people always let the trauma remain in their hearts for a long time, so that it is difficult for their hearts to be brightened. In fact, as long as you can let go of the baggage of the past, you can also find new love and friendship. Love, friendship, or happy times are not stipulated by a contract. Let's face it, no matter what happens, you have the right to live happily ever after. However, we must understand that happiness does not depend on the charity of others, but on earning the needs and affection of others for you.

Let's look at one more story. After Sophie's husband died of a brain tumor, she became depressed and grumpy, and her face remained tense for years to come.

One day, Sophie was driving on a crowded road in the town when she noticed a new fence erected around a house. The house was more than a hundred years old, white in color, with a large porch, which used to be hidden behind the road. Now that the road has been widened and traffic lights have been erected at the entrance of the street, the town has a bit of an urban flavor, but the compound in front of this beautiful house has been encroached upon.

But the mud floor is always clean, and bright flowers bloom on it. A skinny woman in an apron would often be there, tending to flowers and mowing the lawn.

Every time Sophie passed by the house, she always looked at the fence that had been erected so quickly. An old carpenter also built a rosette and a gazebo, painted snow-white, to match the house.

One day she pulled up on the side of the road and stared at the fence for a long time. She was amazed by the carpenter's skill. She couldn't bear to leave, so she simply put out the fire, stepped forward, and stroked the fence. They also smell of paint. The woman inside was trying to start a lawn mower.

"Hey!" Sophie shouted and waved her hand.

"Hey, dear." The woman inside stood up and wiped her hands on her apron.

"I'm looking at your fence. It's so beautiful. ”

The strange woman smiled and said, "Come and sit on the porch for a while, and I'll tell you the story of the fence." ”

They walked up the back door. When the fence gate opened, Sophie was overjoyed. She finally reached the porch of this beautiful house, drinking iced tea, surrounded by an unusual and pleasing fence. "This fence wasn't actually for me." The woman said bluntly, "I live alone, but there are many people who come here, and they like to see really beautiful things, and some people wave at me when they see this fence, and a few people like you even come in and sit on the porch and talk to me. ”

"But after the road in front of you was widened, so many changes have taken place here, don't you mind?"

"Change is a part of life and what forges personality, dear. When something happens that you don't like, you are faced with two choices: either you are bitter and angry, or you can move forward. When Sophie got up to leave, the woman said, "You are welcome at all times, please don't close the fence gate, it looks friendly." ”

Sophie ajar the door and started the car. She had a new feeling in her heart, but she couldn't put it into words, except that around her angry heart, a solid wall had collapsed and replaced it with a neat white fence. She also intends to leave her fence gate open, to show kindness and welcome to anyone who is going to approach her. No one will set limits for you, and the real rival in life is actually yourself. Others will not block the bridge of communication with you, but if you close yourself, how can you get the love and care of others? Get out of your own small space, open your heart, face everyone around you with sincerity, and harvest friendship at the same time, the world in your eyes will be better.

Therefore, if a lonely person wants to overcome loneliness, he must stay away from the shadow of self-pity and bravely walk into the crowd full of light. We're going to get to know people, we're going to make new friends. Wherever you go, be cheerful and share your joy with others as much as possible.