"Caigen Tan" said: "Where the path is narrow, leave one step and walk with people; When the taste is strong, subtract three points to eat. "This is a way to deal with the world. Leaving one step and giving three points is a prudent way to deal with the world, and proper tolerance not only does not invite danger, but is an effective way to seek peace. In personal interactions, in addition to matters of principle, it is necessary to adhere to the principle that tolerance will bring physical and mental happiness and harmonious interpersonal relations to small things and personal interests. Sometimes, this kind of "retreat" is "advance", and "giving" is "gaining".

In the world, it is wise to have the attitude of taking a step back when encountering problems, and giving a step is equivalent to laying the foundation for further development in the future. Giving convenience to friends is actually leaving convenience for yourself in the future. Tolerance is the representative of a good mind and one of the virtues that need to be strengthened the most. Optimism, self-motivation and tolerance are inseparable. Put the word "wide" between the eyebrows, not only you are relaxed, but others are also comfortable and natural. Tolerance is a form of strength, not weakness. Tolerance should be based on retreat and active defense. The concessions embodied in tolerance are purposeful and planned, and the initiative is in one's own hands.

Helplessness and compulsion cannot be regarded as tolerance, and it is not worth spending time in unreasonable trouble.

There is a story about a family that was very hospitable, and whenever a friend came to visit, the host always prepared good food and wine and was enthusiastic about entertaining guests. It was not until the guest and host were drunk that they gave up.

One day, an old friend who had not seen each other for a long time came to visit, and the owner was overjoyed and enthusiastically cooked the dishes, at this time, the owner suddenly found that the soy sauce was gone, and hurriedly called the child to buy it.

"Dad, don't worry! It's all on me! The youngest son patted his chest and left. The owner turned back to the kitchen with peace of mind, and twenty minutes passed, and the son had not returned, and he thought, maybe the owner of the grocery store was too busy with business, and it would be better to wait patiently for a while. But an hour, or even two hours, passed, and the son was still nowhere to be seen, the guests were hungry, and the host was as anxious as an ant on a hot pot, guessing that the son might have had an accident on the way.

In the end, the master finally couldn't hold it anymore and went out to find his son. He anxiously ran to the street, looked for nothing, returned from another way, but suddenly found his son standing in the middle of a bridge, and another child with blue eyes facing white eyes, confronting each other, no one let anyone, and the son was carrying a bottle of black soy sauce in his hand. The owner was very angry, and went up to his son and shouted, "What are you doing here?" Do you know that the soy sauce is waiting for you at home!? The son didn't move, and said, "Dad, I bought soy sauce and was about to rush home, but I didn't expect to meet this person on the bridge and block my way." Say nothing and don't let me cross the bridge! Although there was grievance in the son's tone, it was more reasonable.

The owner seemed to be enraged: "Hey! Why are you so unreasonable, a little child? Get in my son's way! Our well water can't catch the river water, get out of the way! "Strange, isn't it? I don't know who is blocking whose way: you take your Yangguan Road, and I cross my single-plank bridge! It's your son who is blocking my way, what am I doing in your way? The kid didn't show any weakness.

Although this kind of story does not happen often, in real life, contradictions are everywhere, so we should learn to retreat into progress in our daily interactions with people, and learn to tolerate others, so that contradictions will not be stubborn, and tolerance is a desirable attitude towards life. It is this attitude that makes our world a better place, makes our family relationships harmonious, our relationships harmonious, and our physical and mental health is also good.