The so-called playing to your strengths is to seize the opportunity to express yourself, of course, to show your best aspects to everyone. Just as sensibility is a beautiful garment, so reason is an individual's behavior. The two work together to become a person with lasting charm.

Rationality is an important factor in increasing the thickness of life, compared to sensibility, the strength of rationality is not easy to detect, so it is more internal, generally speaking, for middle-aged people, rationality is easy to adhere to, sensibility is not easy to cultivate, and full of rationality is intimidating, and this awe-inspiring temperament is indispensable for us to achieve a perfect life. Therefore, how to give full play to their own advantages to find their own way in the struggle between emotion and rationality is a problem that everyone should seriously think about.

People live in the world, they all have their own ability to settle down, some are good at communicating, some are good at thinking, some are good at slamming and rushing, attacking quickly, and seeing immediate results, and some are good at steady and steady, step by step, step by step, and move forward steadily...... How to give full play to one's own strengths and avoid one's own shortcomings and deficiencies is an important condition for defeating the enemy and achieving victory.

If you want to play to your strengths, you first need to discover and maintain your strengths. There is an ancient Greek adage: "Know thyself." Although everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, there are strengths and weaknesses, but not everyone has a clear understanding of their strengths and weaknesses. And those who have a higher degree of self-awareness and know the pros and cons of their own strengths and weaknesses are often able to consciously maintain their advantages, give full play to their strengths, seize the opportunity to express themselves, and gain the initiative in life.

Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty had a noble concubine, Mrs. Li, was seriously ill and bedridden, and the emperor personally visited her bedside, and Mrs. Li was apologized: "The concubine has been sick in bed for a long time, and she looks ugly, and she can't see the emperor. I would like to entrust my son and brother to you, please take care of me. The emperor said, "Madame is seriously ill and bedridden, I will do what you ask, please rest assured!" But you're so sick, let me take a look! Mrs. Li said: "If a woman does not put on her appearance and makeup, she cannot see the king and her father, and the concubine does not dare to break this rule." The emperor said, "As long as Madame sees me, I will give you a thousand gold, and make your brother a great official." Mrs. Li said: "Whether you are an official or not, that's your business with the emperor, not because you can't see me." The emperor asked Madame Li to let him meet, but Madame Li simply turned inward and stopped talking. There was no way, the emperor stood up and left unhappily. After the emperor left, the sisters all blamed Mrs. Li, and they said, "Since you entrusted your brother to the emperor, why don't you see the emperor?"

Do you blame the emperor? Mrs. Li said: "We use our looks to serve people, our strength is to look good, once the face is old, it will not be liked, the emperor does not like you, naturally ruthless and unjust." The reason why the emperor is still attached to me is because I used to be beautiful, but now, I have been sick for a long time, and once I am seen by the emperor, I will inevitably be disgusted and abandoned by the emperor, how can he still miss me and treat my brother well? Considering this, I thought that it was better not to see the emperor, and solemnly entrusted my brother to him. Soon, Mrs. Li died of illness, and the emperor missed her a lot, so he also took care of Mrs. Li's brother.

Mrs. Li has a very clear understanding of her own strengths and strengths, her own beauty. Although her beauty no longer exists after a long illness, her impression of staying in the emperor has not changed, in order to maintain this advantage, she adopted the way of covering the quilt to speak, not letting the emperor see her face, and finally achieved the desired goal.

During the Warring States Period, there was a Qi person who had a profound insight into this.

Tian Ying, the prime minister of Qi State, wanted to build a city in his fiefdom Xue Di and develop private power in case of contingency. People dissuaded one after another, and Tian Ying ordered that no one should speak. At this time, there was a man who asked to say only three words, one more word, and would rather kill his head. Tian Ying thought it was very interesting and invited him in. The man walked forward quickly and said, "The sea is a big fish." Then, turn around and run. Tian Ying said: "You have something to say. The man said, "I dare not take death as a child's play, and I dare not speak again." Tian Ying said, "It's okay, just say it." The man said, "Don't you know the big fish of the sea?" Fishing nets can't stop it, and hooks can't catch it, but once it is swept out of the water, it becomes food for ants. Qi is to you, like water is to fish, you are in Qi country, like a fish in water, there is the whole Qi country to protect you, why do you want to go to Xue Di to build a city? If you lose the Qi Kingdom, it is useless to build Xue City to the sky. Tian Ying listened to it, thought it was true, and said, "That's too good." ”

As a result, the practice of building a city in Xue Di was stopped.

Tian Ying was originally the prime minister of King Qi Wei, and after King Xuan succeeded to the throne, he didn't like Tian Ying very much. Tian Ying built Xue City to build a place to retreat. On the surface, this is also a good strategy, but the strategists of the Qi State believe that the biggest drawback of Tian Ying's trip is that he has lost his advantages. Tian Ying's strength is to run the entire Qi country, take the Qi country into his own hands, and rely on the Qi country, just like the big fish in the sea that can't do anything about the fish net and turtle hook, he can be free, even the king of Qi Xuan can't do anything to him. On the contrary, when you arrive at Xue Di, there are few people in the land and you can't spread your hands and feet, so you will be in a situation where you can be slaughtered by others, not only can you not defend yourself, but it will be counterproductive. As the saying goes: "The tiger fell into Pingchuan and was bullied by dogs, and the phoenix that fell on the frame was not as good as a chicken." "That's the truth.

What can we learn from these two stories? That is:

Emotionally ask yourself: What are the strengths?

Tell yourself rationally: how to play to your strengths?