Say what your heart is, what a wise choice, better than holding it in the heart of the comfortable, the ancients like to use "a drunk to relieve a thousand sorrows" to express their hearts of sorrow, the specific method is to ask a few good friends to come out, everyone chatting while eating, and finally get drunk, talk about everything, the old saying is good: "wine can be strong", through the courage of the wine to shake out everything in the heart, especially the upset people have to say endlessly. When I slept soundly until dawn tomorrow, I seemed to be in a much better mood. The ancients used wine to express their hearts in order to eliminate boredom.

In today's society, worries are spreading, which requires us to take care of each other, understand each other, and confide in each other.

Dr. Ross Hilferding says the best medicine to relieve anxiety is to "talk to someone you trust about your problems, which we call purifying." "When patients come here, they can talk about their problems as much as they can, until they get them completely out of their heads," she said. If a person is worried and does not tell others about these things, it will cause mental tension. We should all let others share our problems, and we should share the worries of others. We have to feel that there are people in the world who are willing to listen to us and who can understand us. ”

Her assistant felt a very relieved sense of relief after seeing a woman speak out her worries. She had a lot of family troubles, and when she first started talking about them, she was like a squeezing spring, and then she gradually calmed down as she spoke. When she was done, she smiled. Have these difficulties been resolved? No, it won't be that simple. The reason why she has changed this way is because she was able to talk to others and received a little bit of advice and comfort. What really makes the difference is language that has a powerful therapeutic function.

In a way, psychoanalysis is based on the therapeutic function of language. Since Freud's time, psychoanalysts have known that if a patient can speak, just by saying it, he can relieve his worries. Why? Maybe it's because by speaking out, we can see the problems we face more clearly and be able to find better solutions. No one knows the exact answer, but all of us know that "confiding" or "venting the sullen in our hearts" can make people feel much more refreshed at once.

So, the next time we have some emotional difficulties, why not go to someone to talk to? Of course, it is not that you should go anywhere and catch a person and tell him all the bitterness and complaints in our hearts. We need to find someone we can trust, make an appointment with him, maybe a relative, a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, or a scholar, and say to that person, "I want your advice." I have a question that I hope you can listen to and maybe give me a little guidance. Maybe you can see from an angle that I can't see myself. But if you can't do that, then you're doing me a great favor by sitting there and listening to me talk about it. ”

Speak your mind out, which is the main treatment in the curriculum planned at Boston Hospital. Here are some of the tips we learned in that course. In fact, we can do this at home.

First, prepare a "inspirational" scrapbook – you can paste your favorite inspirational psalms or famous quotes. In the future, if you feel depressed, you may be able to find a cure in the book. Many patients at Boston Hospital have kept this scrapbook for years, saying that it is a "shot in the arm" for you.

Second, don't worry too much about other people's shortcomings – yes, your husband has a lot of faults, but if he were perfect, I'm afraid he wouldn't marry you at all, right? There was a woman who found herself to be a harsh, reproachful, critical, and often elongated wife. When she was asked, "What would you do if your husband died?", she suddenly discovered her shortcomings. She was indeed taken aback, and sat down quickly to list all the good things about her husband. The list she wrote was so long. So the next time you feel like you're marrying the wrong person, why not try to do the same? Maybe after seeing all his good qualities, you will find that he is exactly the person you want to meet.

Third, be kind and friendly to your neighbors – have a friendly and healthy interest in those who live with you on the same street. There was a very lonely woman who felt very "isolated". She didn't have any friends. She was asked to try to make up a story about the next person she met as the main character, so she started making up stories for the people she saw on the bus. She imagined the person's background and life situation, and tried to imagine what his life was like. Later, she chatted with others when she met them, and today she is very happy, becoming a very likable person, and curing her "pain".

Before going to bed tonight, plan your work for tomorrow. They found that many housewives were tired from the chores they couldn't finish. They seem to have a job that they can never finish, and they are always rushed by time. In order to get rid of this feeling of rush and anxiety, they advised the housewives to arrange the work of the next day on the first day. They can do a lot of work without getting tired. At the same time, I am very proud of the results, and even have time to sleep a little more and "dress up". Every woman should take time out of her day to dress up and look beautiful.

Some people believe that when a woman knows that she is beautiful in appearance, she will not be "nervous".

There will be a solution to every problem, relieve anxiety and loneliness, maintain physical and mental health, and the important thing is not to be preoccupied all the time. Try to get the words out and you'll feel how simple things are.