No one is perfect, and everyone will have some flaws: appearance, personality, experience...... When a person knows how to admit his imperfections, he also truly matures.

Ms. Lu is 37 years old, her husband died of illness two years ago, and her family insisted on letting her find another person she liked, and her enthusiastic friends also advised her to end her celibacy life as soon as possible. Although Ms. Lu has also seen several objects, none of them have succeeded. The reason is that after Ms. Lu meets others, she always reveals her flaws and discards first, exposing them all, which makes some people "prohibitive", and when her friends count her down, she is uplifting: "When I was young, I didn't pretend to be a partner, and I don't have to hide it when I'm old, I'm just such a flawed woman, isn't it good to let the other party see it clearly?" Later, Ms. Lu really found a like-minded person, it is said that the other party is full of fakes and people love to pretend to be fake today, that is, Ms. Lu is undisguised and has the courage to admit the advantages of defects, and thinks that this person is rare and real. Because Ms. Lu informed the other party of her defects in advance without reservation, the other party "played to his strengths and avoided his weaknesses", and the two cooperated tacitly and lived a happy life. Friends all say that real people have real lives, and Ms. Lu is happy in exchange for revealing her flaws.

It is not terrible for people to be flawed, but what is terrible is to deliberately cover up and deceive themselves.

Ms. Lu is not like this, boldly revealing her flaws in front of the other party, out of sincerity in her heart and trust in others. Her transparent sincerity naturally won the trust and love of the other party. Before exposing one's own flaws, one also dedicates one's sincerity to the other party without reservation. In daily life, there are often situations where the more you deliberately cover up your flaws, the more tired you are, and sometimes even embarrassing. This is because flaws exist objectively, and disguises are often self-defeating. The result of Ms. Lu's sincere disclosure of her flaws is to make the other party understand her flaws, accommodate her flaws, and consciously make up for her flaws, which is the basis for their later happiness and harmony.

Defects are big or small, more or less, everyone has them. However, in the face of flaws, most people try to cover them up. It may be human nature to cover up defects, after all, there are not many people who can expose their flaws in public.

So it does take courage to expose your flaws, to overcome your own cowardice, to overcome your own vanity, and to overcome worldly prejudices. All of this would never have been possible without superhuman courage.

When Liu Yong, a famous Taiwanese painter, was teaching Chinese painting, he often found that some students tried their best to hide the shortcomings of their works, and sometimes they painted poorly and simply did not take them out. In this case, Liu Yong will say to them: "There are inevitably shortcomings in learning to draw for beginners, otherwise you don't have to learn!" It's like going to the doctor because there is something unwell in the body, and each patient always tries to say their symptoms so that the doctor can diagnose them. When you learn to draw and hand in your homework to the teacher, you hope that the teacher will find your mistakes and correct them, so why should you hide your shortcomings? ”

There is also a man, who has been single for half his life, and suddenly got married at the age of 43. The bride is about the same age as him, but she used to be a singer, she was married twice, both divorced, and now she is not popular. In the eyes of friends, I think he is quite a loss, which is not a good choice, because there are too many flaws on the bride's body.

One day, he went out with a friend, and while driving, he said with a smile: "I, as a person, when I was young, I was looking forward to driving a BMW, but I had no money and couldn't afford it; Now! Can't afford it, buy a third-hand car. ”

He did drive an old BMW, and his friend looked left and right and said, "Three hands? Looks good wow! Plenty of horsepower, too! ”

"Yes!" He laughed, "What's so bad about an old car?" It's like my wife, who married a Guangzhouer and a Shanghainese, and has been in the entertainment industry for 20 years, and has seen a lot of big and small scenes. Now that I am old and attentive, I am not as squeamish and flashy as before, but I do a good job and know how to arrange housework. To be honest, now is really her most perfect time, but I met her, I am so lucky! ”

"You have a point!" The friend fell into deep thought.

He patted the steering wheel and continued: "Actually, think about myself, am I perfect? I'm not full of holes, I have had a lot of past, a lot of absurdity, just because we have gone through this, so both of us have become mature, both know how to forbear, and both cherish each other, this kind of imperfection is a kind of perfection! ”

It is precisely because this man is able to admit his imperfections that he does not demand perfection from his lover, and as a result, two flawed people can come together and form a happy family. In a sense, human beings live in the reality of right and wrong, good and evil, perfection and defects, and if we can benefit from the reality that we are very good and perfect, why can't we benefit from our own defects?

We should understand that flaws are not a bad thing, and those who think that their conditions are good enough to be impeccable and do not have to change the status quo often lack the initiative and the will to go beyond themselves to pursue success.

In the world, people are destined to be accompanied by "defects" and far from "perfection". So imperfection is also a kind of perfection, and admitting one's imperfection is a kind of open-mindedness, maturity, and wisdom!