Zhang Yu and his iron buddy Lu Wen fell out! The reason was that Lu Wen complained that the two were always spending money when they were together. Zhang Yu and Lu Wen were good friends from junior high school to college. When they first graduated, the two shared a house, and after paying their salaries, they put it in the cabinet in the living room, and whoever wanted to use it took it, never distinguishing between you and me, and the two jokingly called this situation "little communism". Later, due to job changes, the two rented their own houses, but their feelings did not change, whoever was short of money just said it, and they would receive money from each other, and they never kept accounts.

At the beginning of the year, Lu Wen had a girlfriend, and he spent a lot of money, and often took money from Zhang Yu, and Zhang Yu gradually became resentful.

Once, Lu Wen wanted to borrow 800 yuan again, Zhang Yu refused him, Lu Wen was very angry, he said to others: "After so many years, this kid doesn't know how much money he took from me, and I paid the bill for eating and drinking together, but I didn't expect him to turn his face and not recognize people!" Zhang Yu was also very angry: "How much did he spend, the last time his father was hospitalized, didn't I send three thousand?" When I first graduated, my salary was almost twice as much as his, who spent all that money? So the two had a big fight, and since then they have been cut off.

As the saying goes: "If you don't pay money, you won't pay money; If you want to be good friends, don't bother with money. "Building a friendship on money is as unreliable as building a building on the beach, and it is not strictly a true friendship. If friends are like Zhang Yu and Lu Wen, there is no distinction between you and me financially for a long time, then it will inevitably lead to bad consequences.

First of all, it will degenerate friendships, and make pure friendships dusty with money fetishism and materialism. Over time, the relationship of equality between each other will become a relationship of economic dependence.

Secondly, due to the influence of materialism, the equal relationship between friends will be replaced by a money exchange relationship. At this time, the "friendship" corrupted by money may become a "protective umbrella" to cover up mistakes or even cover up illegal and criminal acts; If there is no distinction between you and me in the economy, it will evolve into a lack of principles and a lack of distinction between right and wrong.

In the end, because of the corruption of money, "make friends with money, and make friends when you use money", which will eventually make friendships cease to exist. For example, Lu Wen broke up with Zhang Yu because Zhang Yu no longer lent him money.

But between friends, there are inevitably economic issues involved.

For example, a dinner treat. This is a matter of courtesy, and it is normal for friends to eat and eat together and entertain each other in order to enhance friendship and deepen understanding. Even go out to travel together, especially young people like to travel together. In this case, you must be generous, because no one wants to associate with stingy friends, and a friendship that calculates each other will not last. Of course, the AA system is very fashionable now, and the posture of a brother who settles accounts is the most recognized by everyone, but it should be noted that some people do not like the AA system and feel that it alienates the feelings, so it is necessary to communicate well in advance, and the form of the AA system must be put forward in advance, and then it can be implemented.

Another example is weddings and funerals, which are human gifts with Chinese characteristics. Some media once reported that the monthly gift money in Chinese families is higher than the average income, which is inconceivable in the eyes of foreigners, perhaps this represents the characteristics of the "country of etiquette". When encountering happy events, as friends, relatives, and colleagues, you must express your heart, especially friends, which will be different with the distance of the relationship. Therefore, since this "vulgarity" is inevitable between friends, we must grasp this degree. The first is not to exceed your own financial tolerance level and live within your means; Secondly, we must take into account the economic conditions of the other party, because Chinese know that these gifts are to be "returned", and giving too heavy gifts is equivalent to adding a burden to friends, which is also very inappropriate.

Then there is borrowing money. This issue has always been very sensitive. Between friends, one party is often embarrassed to speak, and the other party is embarrassed to refuse. To deal with this problem, as a borrower, you should think about whether you can come up with another way, such as borrowing money from a bank or something; what is the strength of the other party, and whether it is difficult to lend money to yourself;

How about your ability to repay, how long can you promise the other party that you will pay it off (if you promise it, you must fulfill it, otherwise there will be no chance for the next time). And the friend who lends money out, once the friend opens his mouth, it is difficult to refuse for the sake of face, and unless it is really a large amount of money, it is really difficult to lend money to others within the scope of his ability, then, you should think about it: first of all, whether this friend has credit, no matter how good a friend is, there should be moral constraints, and people with bad quality themselves are not worth your worries about whether to lend him money; Then there is your own strength, whether you really have such a spare money, or you still have to save it from your own expenses, if you want to lend the saved money to others, you have to ask yourself if you are willing, but also consider the feelings of your family; Also, it is understandable to consider the other party's ability to repay the money, of course, the money you have worked hard to earn must be spent on the blade, and it is absolutely unbearable to borrow money without return. If a friend has already made such a mistake once, never give him a second chance to lie to you, the person who borrows money and does not pay it back is a friend who has no credit and is not worth making.

It should be affirmed that it is appropriate to give financial help to a friend, and it is also selfless, and it does not want the other party to recompense. But this is only one aspect of the matter, the other aspect, it should be understood that help is always mutual, even if the party being helped is not able to give the friend the corresponding help reciprocally, but also have a clear mind, remember the ancient adage of "come and not be rude", when there is an opportunity to repay the help of a friend, you must repay it in time, so that this material exchange is generally balanced. When there is or is a relatively large relationship of economic interests between friends, we should not forget that "good friends must settle accounts", adopt appropriate methods, respect each other's rights and interests, properly handle the relationship of mutual economic interests, and clarify the relationship between rights and obligations. In doing so, it seems ruthless, but in fact it is righteous, "buy is to buy, give is to give", can avoid many unhelpful and harmful disputes, and make friendship stronger.

Everyone wants to have good popularity, everyone wants to have many friends, but good popularity is not earned by eating, drinking, and throwing money, and economic mutual assistance is just a derivative of friendship. If someone thinks that friendship is a financial exchange, then he will never make real friends.