Wang Kuan claims to have friends all over the world, however, in fact, his popularity is not good. Wang Kuan loves to make friends, and everyone who knows him is willing to associate with him. However, after a few exchanges, the friends left him one by one. Everyone said that Wang Kuan was not making friends, but doing business, and he was too "shrewd". Eating with him, when checking out, he either went to the bathroom or pretended to be drunk. Ten times when he paid for it, he had to nag for a long time. When a friend asks him to do something, he has to think about it for a long time to see if doing it will do him any good and whether it will cause him trouble. And when he turned to his friends for help, he didn't care about anything, just a sweet talk, and he didn't care if it would embarrass his friends. Not only that, Wang Kuan also likes to climb high when making friends, and he is indifferent to friends with high status, and cold to friends with low status. The most infuriating thing is that Wang Kuan still has the ability to turn his face and not recognize people. He has a friend named Zhao Lian, this person is generous and generous, Wang Kuan has become good friends with Zhao Lian every day. Once, Zhao Lian and the new director quarreled over work, and Zhao Lian scolded the new director at the wine table. Who knew that the director knew about it the next day, and criticized Zhao Lian with a black face. How could the Commissioner know what he was saying while drunk? Zhao Lian pondered, the only possibility was that Wang Kuan had told the secret, because Wang Kuan was the only colleague in the unit at the wine table. After this incident spread, everyone became even more alienated from Wang Kuan, such a selfish person, who knows when he will bite himself?

A selfish person who only cares about his own interests will not have good popularity, Wang Kuan simply regards making friends as a business, there is only profit and no righteousness between friends, no one will like to make such friends, such people will betray their relatives sooner or later. Friends should help each other and take care of each other, so that when you are in trouble, they will help you.

It's not a bad thing to pursue your own interests, but if you are too self-interested, you will definitely fail in interpersonal situations.

Originally, this kind of self-interest can be experienced by everyone, but if we can change our minds a little and don't just think about our own interests, our relationships will improve. You help others to get benefits, and in the end, this benefit will still be obtained by you. This concept of "righteousness before profit" is indispensable for people who want to seek good popularity. Think about the interests of others before you do something. It is necessary to have the concept of serving others, and wait for others to obtain benefits before seeking their own interests.

The most important thing between friends is righteousness, if you can be righteous in everything, you can make the other party feel your sincere friendship with him, and the other party will treat you sincerely.

In social interactions, if you think too much about gains and losses, this friendship will not last long. Whether it is beneficial or harmful to associate with a person, before dating the other person, if you are too careful, you must not be able to get a sincere friend, and it is difficult to have a good relationship.

We should treat each other as a person, we are interacting with "people", not "things", only for the sake of interests and interacting with each other, just like doing business, the relationship between each other is not a friend relationship but a business relationship, in this way, how can you get real friends?

Here are some examples of the types of people who are not welcome in communication, and I hope you will take them as a warning:

(1) Stingy people go out to eat with friends, always pay for their companions, and travel and watch movies are also funded by friends, and they hide far away.

He never lent his things to others, lest they would not pay him back. could have helped others, but he didn't help others, and he was careful about what he said and did. This kind of person, friends will slowly leave him.

(2) A person who is a traitor is not punctual when he meets people, and he is not virtuous when he interacts with others, and he will call you a brother and brother today, and he will turn his face ruthlessly tomorrow; If you tell the truth to him, he will take the opportunity to beat him up and put people to death. This kind of person will never be popular with everyone.

(3) Clever people don't speak really, treat others insincerely, and always like to take advantage of a little advantage. I want to play basketball, but I say I'm going to meet friends; I don't agree with it, and I say that others have opinions. Whenever there is something to do, I always push back, find reasons to escape, pick the light and fear the heavy, grab if there is a benefit, and retreat when it is difficult.

(4) Unruly people dig their ears in public, take off their shoes, break into other people's houses without knocking on the door, spit on the floor with a mouthful of phlegm after entering the door, and take away the books and periodicals that the owner is reading before going out. casually, with a big grin, just trying to be happy for a while, regardless of the convenience and inconvenience of others. Arrogant and self-righteous, this kind of unruly behavior is actually a sign of disrespect for others, and the most unlikable.

(5) The person who has to make inches will not be forgiving, will not give face, will not leave steps, will not force you to a dead end, bow down and never give up. If you don't fight with him, he thinks you're weak and deceiving, and if you fight with him, he says you're unforgiving. Such a person may be victorious on the surface, but he will eventually be abandoned because of his lack of tolerance and grace.

(6) The only person I respect is self-righteous and self-righteous, and he thinks he is a teacher everywhere he goes. Boasting about oneself, belittling others, not taking others seriously, liking to impose one's own opinions on others, and always wanting people to act according to their own will, regardless of whether others are willing to listen or not, happy to accept it or not. In fact, no one wants to be seen as ignorant and stupid.

(7) The biggest specialty of this kind of person is only accusations and comments, and this is not and that is not all the time, and it seems that all people in the world have no merit, but he is true and pure, and he is perfect and perfect. Not only that, but he also likes to teach others and make people feel uneasy for a moment. However, "when the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no friends". People who like to pick fat and thin will never make real friends.

(8) The unfathomable person should be happy or unhappy, sad and sad, no joy, anger and sorrow, no opinions, and the city is very deep, so that others can not figure out what he is thinking. When you get along with him, you always have to be scared, no one knows what chess he will move next, this kind of person makes people dare not approach.

(9) Hypocritical people are people who do one thing in front of them and one thing behind their backs, are hypocritical, and like to be polite. I apologized again and again, but not sincerely; Expressing gratitude, saying and saying, but not from the bottom of my heart; Leave people to eat, warm and prepared, the guests left, and said that people don't know etiquette. Sooner or later, people will see through this kind of person.

In fact, the common denominator of these nine types of people is to put themselves first, not to think about others, no one likes such friends in life, if you are unfortunate enough to be infected with similar problems, then you must quit as soon as possible.

If you don't want to think more about your friends, how can people be willing to be friends with you? Therefore, if you want to have a good popularity, think more about your friends, and don't just take care of yourself.