In real life, not all friends can treat each other with all sincerity, and some people make friends just to harm them. For example, some people will do whatever it takes to find a target to seduce in order to achieve an ulterior motive or to commit an illegal act. Once he was chosen, he did everything possible to drag him into the water, using coercion, inducement, deception, instigation, and other means to lead the original person of good character to the wrong path and destroy himself. It should be said that this kind of friend is the most terrible and the most vicious, and making friends with such people is tantamount to self-destruction.

"Sun Hua was taken away by the police!" This news caused a lot of discussion among colleagues. Sun Hua was originally a good young man, how could he commit a crime? It turned out that this was all caused by Sun Hua's carelessness in making friends. Sun Hua is a very cheerful person, a year ago, he met a group of "good friends" in the discotheque, they took Sun Hua to eat, drink, dance and have fun, and within a few days Sun Hua regarded them as his confidants and friends. This group of friends instilled a lot of "buddy righteousness" and "sticking a knife in the ribs for friends" to Sun Hua, and also took him to fights and cars...... Gradually, Sun Hua changed, and he could still maintain a polite image in the company, but as soon as he left the company, he was full of swear words and rudeness. He cut off contact with his old classmates and friends, and only mingled with new friends......

In September 2004, the Public Security Bureau cracked down on illegal and criminal gangs, and they found more than 20 packs of *** and K powder in Sun Hua's home, as well as a large number of iron rods and daggers, and Sun Hua was imprisoned.

There is an idiom called "close to Zhu is red, close to ink is black", friends have a very great impact on a person, a good friend, will pull you to make progress together; A bad friend may push you into the abyss, so you must be careful to make friends, and don't make mistakes like Sun Hua.

When making friends, you must ask yourself more: Why do you want to make friends? What kind of friends do you need to make? How do I choose my friends? What are some of the issues that must be paid attention to in the process of making friends? Only in this way can you be sure that the friends you make will be helpful to you and will not cause trouble and disaster due to careless choice.

First of all, when we choose friends, we must be clear about our own criteria, that is, to make friends with people of good character, kind-hearted, helpful, and hard-working. Such a friend is a good friend and will be of great help to you throughout your life. Some people take like-mindedness as the only criterion, regardless of the other party's thoughts and conduct, and only talk about the righteousness of friends, as long as you are good to me, I am also good to you. You respect me a foot, I respect you a foot. If you are willing to go to the soup for me, I will also stick a knife in your ribs. As for whether it is beneficial to oneself, others and society, it is not considered at all. Among his friends, there are not only those who talk about eating and drinking, but also those who talk about making trouble, and even those who do evil, hooligans and ruffians. "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black". In this way, it will inevitably affect yourself. Therefore, we must choose our friends carefully, we must not be promiscuous, and we must avoid associating with people who are morally misbeneficial, so as not to be tainted with bad habits.

Moreover, making friends is not about making many friends, but about quality, and more friends must be indiscriminate, which is the summary of people's experience in making friends in ancient China. People often say: "Friends all over the world, how many people do you know?" Indeed, it is difficult to find a bosom friend, besides, a person's energy is limited, if you do not choose, blindly take pride in making more friends, you will be busy with socializing all day long, and most of your energy will be put on dealing with friends, which will inevitably affect your normal work, study and life. In addition, if there are many people you make friends, it will inevitably affect the observation and identification of friends, and if there are people with bad conduct or bad intentions, it is also likely to bring you harm.

Third, we should take making friends as a very serious thing. When you're making friends, take them seriously and never take them lightly. In the process of interacting with the other person, pay attention to the thoughts, interests, hobbies, qualities and behaviors of the other person, and weigh whether it is worth befriending. Of course, it is not mandatory here that friends are better than themselves in every way.

"Those who are not friends are not as good as themselves". Confucius said not to make friends with people who are not as good as yourself, although this view is very one-sided, but it also shows the truth that you should not make friends lightly. Because friends have each other's strengths and weaknesses, you have advantages in this regard, and he has strengths in other aspects, and friends get along with each other, and their strengths and weaknesses complement each other, which is also one of the benefits of making friends.

Confucius meant to befriend people with pure thoughts and noble morals, and to be on par with such people. Also note that to see if friends are worth making, it is not that friends are not allowed to have shortcomings, no one is perfect, and the same is true for friends. As long as the friends you make are of good character and can genuinely help you and not harm you, that's fine.

In real life, we always have to associate with all kinds of people, as the so-called "hundreds of people, all kinds of people", there are both humble gentlemen and villains who misbehave. We can't ignore "quality" for the sake of "quantity", although the more friends, the better, but we still have to be cautious, lest the "good friends" run away at the end of the day, and some even turn around to "bite" you.