Chapter 11: Difficult Growth
In fact, I know better than anyone what that house means to Wu Kai, and it is almost the only fruit of victory for their two generations and their fate. He would sell the house, both reasonably and unexpectedly. That house meant a lot to their family, but there were more things to do in life, more responsibilities to bear, and more growth to experience. And Wu Kai, who has always been born to the sun, has not been defeated by the wind and rain of fate after all, and once again fell at the feet of fate.
After buying that house for my parents, I thought Wu Kai would be more relaxed. So I often ask him out, but he seems to be busier than before, often so busy that he can't get a message back for three or five days. I finally caught him once, but I disappeared without a trace after drinking in a hurry, and I don't know how long it was after we met.
He continued to be busy for another year, and one day I saw him posting a picture in the circle of friends asking if there was anyone in the circle of friends who knew how to drive, and wanted to buy a car suitable for his family. I seem to understand something, Wu's father's car was also taken away by creditors after bankruptcy, and after more than 20 years of car life, they suddenly had no car, and the public transportation in their hometown was underdeveloped, so it was very inconvenient to travel. It turns out that this kid is so desperate because of this, and I feel a lot relieved.
I quickly called him, and when the phone was picked up, I said unhurriedly: "Son, you can take care of yourself, I don't need a car." Wu Kaileng scolded for two seconds: "Get out, it's okay if there's something, hang up quickly if it's okay, what about iron, I'll look for you tomorrow." Before I could reply, a blind beep came from the phone, and I felt a chill.
Wu Kai took a three-hour bus ride from Pingshan to my house, and I got up early as usual to prepare a large table of dishes and two cases of beer waiting for him. There was inevitably cup and cup change and bragging on the table, and he also talked about the past year. When he returned to his hometown for the Spring Festival, in order to pay New Year's greetings to his relatives, Wu's father brought a bunch of gifts early and asked his neighbors to borrow a car. Although the neighbor readily agreed, there were some twists and turns in the middle, and the car could not be borrowed. The family stopped their car on the side of the road for two hours, and finally paid five times the usual price to get a driver to drop them off at a relative's house.
By the time they arrived at their relatives' house, it was already sunset, and dozens of people in the entire family were waiting for them. And the children were already hungry and screaming, constantly shouting for the meal. Although everyone kept saying that it was okay, the scene where the parents kept apologizing to everyone still stung Wu Kai. That's why he had to continue to sacrifice his desperate posture, work frantically, and save money desperately.
For a whole year, this guy actually only took five days off, and all of it was dedicated to our date. When I was relieved from the shock, Wu Kai stared at me with a disdainful expression and said, "Don't look at me with this look like eating Xiang, you didn't see the expressions of my parents at that time, if you have experienced this kind of thing, you will know." I only hated myself for having only twenty-four hours in a day, and if I had two more hours, I could have worked two more hours. His tone was relaxed, but my heart felt like it was being held tightly by a big hand.
It's really hard for me to imagine that kind of scene, and I don't think I would have felt the same way as him. Our family's expression of feelings has always been wooden, even bland. So even if I go through this kind of scene, I probably won't be able to have the same feelings as Wu Kai, but I can really understand what the meaning of him doing all this is.
Wu Kai is the only seedling in the family, especially born in such an intellectual family, the whole family gets along harmoniously, and Wu Kai is even more favored by thousands of people by virtue of his youngest age and appearance. Wu's father and Wu's mother have always felt quite remorseful because they were not by his side, and the care given to Wu Kai is even more meticulous and comprehensive. Therefore, it is natural that Wu Kai will only take five days off a year for his parents. I thought to myself, if it were me, would I do this? I didn't dare to wait for the answer in my heart, and hastily withdrew my thoughts.
In the end, Wu Kai listened to my suggestion and handed over the right to choose a car to Wu's father, and asked him to pick a car he liked. As a result, the two of them almost didn't fight because of this car, and Wu's father saw that his son worked so hard for them, so he naturally liked it very much, and happily accepted Wu Kai's suggestion.
But there is a huge difference between the two of you in the choice of car, and Wu's father insisted on buying the god car Wuling, saying: "Wen can allow the family to prosper, and Wu can pretend to be a thousand great things." Wu Kai insisted: "Although Wuling can tolerate it, it can't tolerate his strong love." "I insisted on buying a joint venture car with a higher comfort level for Wu's father.
For a while, the two masters held their own opinions, couldn't hold each other, and even fought with each other. In the end, Wu's mother made the final decision, neutralized the opinions of the two masters, made a compromise plan, and bought a domestic car. Although it is not the result that Wu Kai expected, it is better than bread. The two were powerless to refute, so they could only take a step back and choose to obey, thus resolving a turmoil.
Listening to Wu Kai's eloquent introduction on the phone, how he moved with emotion and reason, and how Wu's father was stubborn. How did Wu Ma mediate, and finally strategized to turn the two sides into a war before the situation deteriorated further. I can't help but feel that the atmosphere of their family has always been so harmonious and full of laughter.
I had no intention of interrupting his joy and allowing him to unleash his joy. I know that the boulder that has been pressing on him for a long time is being moved away by him little by little, although in a slightly stupid way, but isn't this what love should be? Although we all try to think about each other and want to give each other the best. But when we actually present it, it is always insincere, even a little sharp and heavy.
Seeing Wu Kai, who was full of red light, drinking cold beer with peanuts in one sip, his face was always full of happy smiles. I couldn't help but be infected by his happiness and smile knowingly. After that, our dating finally became normal, but Wu Kai, who had experienced so much, never returned to the nervous and grinning way he used to be.
There seemed to be a furrow between his eyebrows, and I often read things in his eyes that I couldn't understand. Although we still drink from time to time, although we still have nothing to do, we will talk about some things on WeChat whimsically. However, I always feel that Wu Kai is no longer the same Wu Kai, and we are no longer us.
As Heraclitus said, we can't step into the same river twice. Naturally, we can't always be the same as we are. Ten years in Shenzhen, we have experienced countless ups and downs, when we stood on the edge of National Highway 107, determined to stand on the bridge, now we have been worn off the edges and corners of life. Shedding his immature coat, his expression began to become resolute, and although there were many more scars in his heart, the same heart became tough.
We begin to try to take some responsibility, we begin to learn to protect and love, and we begin to learn to face setbacks calmly. Although life has imposed on us, after going through so many hardships, we have finally reaped our own growth. It's just that the price is too heavy. Sometimes think about life isn't that the way it is? It always gives us something in silence, and for better or for worse, we have to take it all. It never sympathizes with the weak, and only exacerbates its violence against you.
I remember Wu Kai once told me a particularly philosophical example, he said: "When running, you often encounter particularly powerful opponents, and people will already throw you far away when they step together." There's nothing you can do but chase after you, and the only thing you can do is grit your teeth and keep running, moving your legs around without stopping. In order to catch up with others, you can no longer think of yourself as a weakling, you can't have any feelings and thoughts, you can only stare at him with both eyes, and then keep chasing after him. Because only in this way will it be possible for you to get closer to him; Only then will you be able to catch up and overtake him when he is slacking off. ”
I don't know how Wu Kai has such a feeling, the only thing I know is that what he said seems to be the truth. In the face of life, we have no respite, and when we start too late, there is no other way but to catch up. It's just that I occasionally wonder if we really have to pursue this goal that seems to have no end in sight.
It's just that I didn't dare to say such a big contrarian point of view, because in the education we received from childhood, getting ahead has always been a lifelong cause that we must strive for. And Wu Kai, who understood this truth before me, ran wildly towards the front of his fate with an indomitable attitude. Indeed, as he himself said, he did not feel, let alone think, but just buried his head in the past. When he looked up at the distance of his destiny, there was no turning back.
For a long time after settling down with Wu's father and Wu's mother, Wu Kai has been in a particularly excited state. In his own words, he has finally done a big thing, and he finally believes that he can do big things too. As a result, he began to have more ambitious goals and ideals, and he wanted to get back the things that Wu's father and mother once owned through his own efforts.
Almost every time he would report to me at countless drinking parties that he felt might allow him to achieve great revenge. Then let me help him analyze whether he saw an opportunity that no one else saw, and whether it was possible to restore the glory of his parents.
I often feel in a trance, is this still the Wu Kai I once knew? The one who told me in the starry night: "He doesn't have as many ideals and revenge as I do, he just wants to learn some crafts in a down-to-earth manner, be a mold master in peace, and have a stable income for Wu Kai." ”
Whenever we make eye contact, I subconsciously avoid his gaze. I couldn't face the eagerness and enthusiasm in his eyes, I could feel the powerful belief that erupted from his heart, the almost crazy pursuit of success, of proving himself. That kind of burning thirst seems to be able to melt everything, overcome any predicament, and give birth to infinite vitality.
I couldn't face his expectations, and because the opportunities he called them, the things that he saw as having great potential, didn't stand up to any scrutiny. He longs for affirmation, empathy, a reason to start and a glimpse of what he wants to do.
I want to protect the self-confidence he has built up so hard, but I can't make him really believe these assumptions, and then rely on his assumptions to guide his actions. This ambivalence made me very tormented, and I avoided meeting him for a while, hoping that time could cool his enthusiasm.
But obviously, I underestimated the self-confidence that this success brought to Wu Kai, and I also underestimated his dedication and pursuit of success. Maybe he sensed my unhappiness, or maybe his inner self-confidence had given him enough support to act. Wu Kai directly skipped this long period of psychological construction and began to act.