In Zhao Shengrui's expectant gaze, Lin Feng said indifferently:

"Shengrui's parents, according to what we said earlier, things have developed so far, and next, the child will tell you how many places he has taken the exam."

"Suppose, now that the child is telling you two that you have taken the eleventh place in the exam, how should you respond to the child at this time?"

As Lin Feng's question fell, this time, the couple did not rush to answer the question, but began to sum it up seriously.

"Shengrui's usual results are between fifteen and twenty, and the eleventh place in the exam is a significant improvement."

Zhang Liufang whispered to her husband:

"With such a plan, he should be encouraged at this time."

Zhao Zhixing nodded and said:

"Then you have to say to the child, 'Shengrui, you are awesome'?"

"Well, after the encouragement is over, I have to push the child forward."

The couple glanced at each other, and Zhang Liufang said the answer to Lin Feng, and his tone was full of confidence:

"The answer is—"

"Son, you're awesome! Mom and Dad are so happy and there is progress! ”

"Moreover, Dad believes in you, in the next exam, you can go one step further and get into the top ten!"

When the words fell, Lin Feng immediately gasped:

"It's over, I'm going to take a quick-acting heart-saving pill......"

He spread his hands and looked at Zhao Zhixing and his wife helplessly:

"What's the point of your child talking to you?"

Zhao Zhixing and Zhang Liufang touched their noses awkwardly and laughed embarrassedly.

This answer is not only an encouragement for the child, but also a prospect for the child's future, which is very standard, why is it wrong?

Lin Feng didn't expect them to think about it, and said directly:

"If it were me, I'd only take the first half of your answer."

"In other words, 'That's a good result,' and that's it."

Yes??

Hearing Lin Feng's answer, Zhao Zhixing was most puzzled, because he added the second half of the sentence, and he thought it was very good.

Now, Mr. Lin has directly abandoned it, so what's the problem?

Isn't it the right way to put it?

So what would be more appropriate?

However, before he could ask, Lin Feng's question came:

"Father Shengrui, what is the main purpose of the second half of what you just said?

"Set new goals for your child!"

Zhao Zhixing almost blurted out:

"Teacher Lin, isn't this going to be replaced with a more moderate statement? But what I just said was already very soft. ”

Lin Feng shook his head and said:

"It's not another way to put it, but this kind of thing should not appear in this scenario."

"The child is happy at this time, showing you the results, but what you see is the next exam."

"It's like, someone just climbed a mountain, gasped, took a picture and sent it to Moments, and then you swiped it, and immediately commented on the first floor: No, this mountain is not high enough."

Lin Feng said helplessly:

"Think about it, is it appropriate?"

"At this time, it's not the time to plan goals at all!"

When the words fell, Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing instantly understood, and they were immediately a little embarrassed.

Then, the two looked at Lin Feng and said:

"Teacher, I understand this."

"What about after all that is said and done? According to the child's temper, in this scenario, the matter is not over yet. ”

Lin Feng nodded and smiled lightly:

"That's right, when the child finishes his grades to your parents, and then gets a thumbs up from you, he will react next, and that is-"

Speaking of this, Lin Feng switched to a child's tone:

"Dad, are you happy to hear my results?"

After imitating this sentence, Lin Feng looked at Zhao Shengrui's parents in front of the camera.

Zhao Zhixing subconsciously replied:

"Dad was very happy to hear about this result."

Zhang Liufang also nodded, and said to the child at this time.

Lin Feng shook his head and sighed:

"At this time, I can't answer that."

？？？？

Zhao Shengrui's parents looked at Lin Feng with a confused expression.

At this time, Lin Feng spoke indifferently:

"Shengrui's parents, as a teacher, I have heard many parents express such feelings in the process of teaching——"

Speaking of this, he switched to the tone of a parent, and his words were full of resentment:

"The child's learning is not for his own learning, it is all for me, a parent, alas!"

When the words fell, Zhao Zhixing and Zhang Liufang nodded.

Isn't it? As parents, they are more worried about their children's learning than their children!

And as Lin Feng said, this is not their family's problem, there are families with school-going children around, everyone will say this when they get together!

After realizing the problem, the eyes of the two suddenly lit up with a trace of expectation.

Why did Mr. Lin say that? So where is the solution?

Lin Feng looked at the expressions of the two of them, paused slightly, and then said:

"This phenomenon is actually all guided by you as parents!"

When the words fell, the confusion in the eyes of Zhao Zhixing and his wife was even worse.

However, without waiting for them to ask, Lin Feng continued:

"When the child asks you, are you happy with my test score, the correct answer is this-"

At this time, he had already switched to the tone of the parent:

"Child, I'm glad to see you today, so Dad is also very happy."

When the words fell, Zhao Zhixing and his wife laughed out loud, and then gave Lin Feng a thumbs up.

They never imagined that this answer could be said like this!

Moreover, if you think about it, Mr. Lin's answer, compared to the answer they just had, the child must like Mr. Lin!

This is the art of communication!

But if you learn one and a half moves, why worry about children not communicating with themselves?

Mr. Lin is worthy of education!

And at this moment, the audience in the live broadcast room is also amazed.

"Poof~ I'm drinking water, Mr. Lin, pay me for the keyboard!"

"The CPU is burning, Mr. Lin, compensate me for my brain stem!"

"Huh? This...... Isn't the brain stem all new? ”

"Hahahaha, absolutely!"

"If this trick is put on my daughter, it will be small, and it will definitely be star-eyed!"

“……”

In the room, Zhao Shengrui watched the live broadcast and smiled knowingly.

When I say this to my parents, I just want to share my joy.

The answer given by the parents before not only did not accept their own meaning, but also served as a basin of cold water.

It has to be Mr. Lin, who understands his mood and ideas.

Just when Zhao Shengrui's heart was moved, Lin Feng's voice came again, but this time it was his own normal tone.

"Shengrui's parents, have you found the truth behind this answer?"

Zhao Shengrui's parents, as well as the audience who were still giggling in the live broadcast room just now, looked stunned for a moment and listened carefully.

Lin Feng's indifferent voice fell into everyone's ears:

"At this time, parents must not mention things about studies and grades."

"Parents are happy, not because of how many places their children have taken the exam."

"The exact positioning is that the child has a score that he is satisfied with, and he is very happy. And parents are happy because their children are happy. ”

"Do you understand? Once this positioning is not accurate, it becomes a good score in the child's exam, and parents will be happy. ”

"After a long time, the child's inner feeling will become: I study to make parents happy, then I dislike you, I won't learn!"

"Look, doesn't this lead the child crookedly?"

"Now, you know why Shengrui's kid is tired of school, right?"

"The most direct way to put it is that Shengrui doesn't hate learning, but hates your parents."

When the words fell, the audience in the live broadcast room laughed and faded in an instant, and turned serious.

"Damn, the truth behind it is actually like this!"

"I didn't think about it at all, I thought I had learned another trick."

"Now it seems that the study is useless."

"Ahh Think about Zhao Shengrui's state of appearance, and the description of parents who say he is tired of school!! ”

"Children who are tired of school, parents who don't know how to ......"

"That situation...... It's not that I'm tired of school, but I'm tired of parents?? ”

“？？ Got in touch!! ”

", Mr. Lin said so much, we all went off topic, I didn't expect it, wait here!"

“6！ Mr. Lin played a big game of chess. ”

"Take good notes, don't optical surfaces, the deep truth is the key!"

“……”

Outside the live broadcast room, Zhao Shengrui looked at everyone's barrage and his eyes widened in shock.

And then......

Surprise, shame, and all sorts of emotions came flooding over my heart.

Mr. Lin's words actually hit his secret heart!

Zhao Shengrui already knew in his heart that he was actually tired of his parents.

I hate that they are always self-righteous, I hate that they always like to praise other people's children, and I hate that they always pour cold water on themselves.

Meantime......

I hate it even more, I hate my parents' self!

As a result, he began to suffer from internal friction, which he could not resolve, and finally went to depression.

At this moment, Zhao Shengrui's eyes were filled with tears again!

And in the living room across the door, his parents froze in place, their minds full of what their son looked like now.

His eyes were blank, his face was sallow, and he was skinny......

In the past, they thought that the root cause of all this was that the child's psychology was not strong enough to suffer from depression.

Begin to be anorexic to school and anorexia......

What I didn't expect was that all the abnormalities of the child were because of disgust with parents!

They are the ones who are at the root of it all!

Thinking of this, tears brewed in Zhang Liufang's eyes, and she asked her husband uneasily:

"Lao Zhao, what should we do in this situation?"

"I just realized that the child hated us, is this relationship difficult to repair?"

"Then he can only be like this in the future?"

"I—I don't want to!"

Faced with his wife's repeated questions, Zhao Zhixing didn't know how he should answer.

Then, he looked at Lin Feng in the picture.

Lin Feng received his eyes, paused slightly, and said:

"You husband and wife don't have to worry about your children."

"Because, the child will never stop loving his parents, however, he will stop loving himself."

Hearing Lin Feng say this, Zhao Zhixing and his wife had surprise, doubt, and expectation in their eyes......

And Zhao Shengrui stopped his tears suddenly, and his hands clenched into fists nervously.

"According to my estimates, the source of Shengrui's depression lies in internal friction."

Lin Feng's words continued:

"And the reason why he is suffering from internal friction is because he finds himself bored with you, and he feels that this is not right, and there is no outlet for catharsis."

"In the face of this situation, in fact, you husband and wife do not have to worry, as long as you master the correct way to motivate your children, your family's parent-child relationship can be repaired."

"Moreover, Shengrui's situation will get better with the improvement of the parent-child relationship."

When the words fell, the eyes of Zhao Zhixing and his wife suddenly burst out with a strong and happy light!

And Zhao Shengrui's clenched fists suddenly relaxed, and he looked at Lin Feng in the picture blankly and smiled.

Lin Feng looked at the performance of Zhao Zhixing and his wife, smiled slightly, and said easily:

"Let's get down to business and go back to the scene we built earlier."

"Now, after what the parents should have said, will the child make a small request here?"

Lin Feng smiled slyly and said to Zhao Zhixing and his wife:

"What should you do if your child asks you for a reward at this time?"

The voice fell, and Zhao Zhixing replied in a second:

"Prize Win Prize! We can't pour cold water on our children anymore, we know it's wrong! ”

Zhang Liufang also nodded violently:

"I know my child, and he won't make any excessive demands."

"It's nothing more than wanting to eat something good, buy something inexpensive, but he wants toys and the like, just be satisfied!"

The couple's reaction made Lin Feng smile slightly, and then shook his head:

"If I were you, I wouldn't do that."

Yes?!

I kept saying not to pour cold water on it, but now that it's this point, it doesn't meet the child's requirements?

Or, what are the ways and means to pay attention to here?

At this time, the couple did not dare to speak.

Lin Feng looked at their sneering appearances, chuckled, and said:

"What you just did was to make an exchange with your child, and moreover, it was a transaction based on an agreement without an agreement."

"This way of doing things will spoil the child!"

After saying his conclusion, Lin Feng switched to the parent's tone and said:

"At this point, I'll say—"

"Son, I'm your father, it's normal to take you to a good meal and buy something you want."

"If you do poorly in the exam, you can also make these requirements, as long as it is within the range that Dad can afford, Dad will meet you, and these have nothing to do with grades."

"So, Daddy's reward for you is a big hug."

"What you want, Dad thought about it for a while, and felt that it could be satisfied now, so let's take some time."

After saying his answer, Lin Feng returned to his normal tone and explained:

"The real intention of this answer is to guide the child and focus his attention on whether the reward is a 'hug', a family affection, a spiritual recognition, not a material one."

"We want our children to know that as your parents, we have to meet your material requirements in life, and we will not decide your treatment in this family because you are good or bad."

"You, my child, I love you."

"Home is a place for love, not a place for trading."

Lin Feng spoke to Zhao Zhixing and his wife:

"You two touched your conscience and said, even if Shengrui, the child, is the last in the class when he returns to the exam, won't you cook for him and dress him?"

"Even if the child is not going to school at home every day, have you beaten him with a leather whip?"

Zhao Zhixing and Zhang Liufang shook their heads with tears in their eyes.

Lin Feng smiled and sighed:

"This is family affection!"

"How can a family use grades to make a trade?"

"Think about it, do you want to raise a child with a conscience, or a child with excellent grades but no love for his parents?"

The words fell, and Zhao Shengrui's parents fell silent.

It's not that it's hard to choose, but the answer is too simple!

It was so simple that in the face of Lin Feng's question, they felt unspeakable!

The silence of the two is deafening at this moment!

(End of chapter)