Dear book friends, everyone should have a small hair, right?

After years of screening by various factors or environments, the hair around me has been screened from more than 20 to only three.

It's these three who are worthy of me to get along for a long time in the future, and I have found a lot of problems, among these three people, there is one who is suitable for making an appointment to have fun, and there is also one who is suitable for doing big business together, and the last one is just suitable for sitting together in a daze.

But today's talk is not about them, but about those who have been screened out by me.

By sifting them out of my world, I really felt that I must completely stay away from these people who have low energy in themselves, people who mix poorly, and even people who are not as good as themselves.

It took me a lot of time and a lot of effort to get out of the world they were in, because they often doubt you, and basically they all live in a space without any imagination, including in a world with very low cognition.

When you make some big moves, they are afraid that you will drive a Land Rover, and they are afraid that you will mix too well. So I can often hear things like this from their mouths, "Really", "You're going to do such a risky thing", "If you want to do this, I don't have the money to help you", "It's up to you, can you do it".

Then, when you do it, he will be jealous of you, so these people, he is not encouraging you, but doubting you, denying you, and jealous of you. When you find yourself finding people who are at the same level as yourself, you will know that the two suddenly have a common language, a common idea, a common imagination, a common ambition, and a common desire, so this word is called the same frequency.

When you come into contact with people who are on the same frequency as you, you will find that the two people are equal, what is equal? It's that in different ways, you and the other person are a little bit better than each other, and in essence, both sides are about the same level. Therefore, two people will be very comfortable, very happy and very happy even if they fight. But at this time, I have to hit you, so that people with the same frequency can't urge you to grow, but only urge you to keep moving forward.

Therefore, if you want to grow, you really have to go to someone who is much better than you, and you will find that he will fulfill you.

In what way did he accomplish it? He will push you, he will motivate you, and even he will use some extreme methods to stimulate you. For example, whether it is sports or arts, these teachers are very ruthless and strict with their students before the competition. Why is it not that the grandmaster produces a high apprentice but a strict master produces a high apprentice, it is because someone who is much more powerful than you, he uses a certain method to stimulate you, and you will achieve very excellent results in a certain competition. Such a teacher gives you the greatest tolerance, which is to motivate you seriously in the back, because you are much worse than him, and he is willing to listen to you patiently, what else can this be without tolerance?

Therefore, you must stay away from those who have low energy, are very poor, or even inferior to yourself.

Their presence will only drain your energy and keep you from focusing on your own growth and development. At the same time, it is also important to cherish those who are on the same frequency as you, who can bring positive competition and mutual promotion, but also be wary not to be held back by them. Because, real growth also needs to find those who are much better than you.