In the company, an employee in my department talked to me about a salary increase two years ago. I said, "Come and talk." Before he could open his mouth and tell me about the company, I told him, "Tell me, what are the people you know doing?" "He said, I know somebody who is how, and now he just bought his second Ferrari. I said, "So what's your relationship?" He said, "I've started a business with him, and I've been crazy with him." I said, "What about the result?" "As a result, we lost money. I said, "How's your relationship now?" He said, "It's a good relationship, I haven't seen each other for more than a year." I said, "So how do you know he's buying a Ferrari?" "He called and invited me to the pick-up ceremony." I said, "Have you gone?" "The company is too busy, working overtime." ”

Stupid or not, this guy? Later, I asked him, "Why don't you go?" He said, "Actually, I'm embarrassed, we all started a business together, everyone bought Ferraris, I'm still working overtime in the company, and I'm still talking to you about promotions and salary increases, do you think I'm embarrassed to go?" I said, "Don't talk to me about whether to raise your salary now, you can do one thing now, just find your buddy." He said, "What are you looking for him?" I said, "Come over buddy." He said, "What if I have nothing to say?" I said, "You can go if you don't have anything to say," he said, "I don't feel like I'm in the same circle with him anymore." What to do? I said, "It's because you two aren't in the same circle that you should go." ”

I tell you that the logical thinking of ordinary people is completely different from that of cattle people, he thinks that others are better than him, and others are a hundred times stronger than him, so he does not approach others, he thinks this is right. And I think that people are better than me, a hundred times stronger than me, then I should approach them, can you understand this logical thinking?

Later, I said to the employee, "You take a month off at the company, and then you go and play with that buddy for a month, you two have a mutual love, okay?" He said, "Yes, play games." I said, "Okay, then you can play a game with him." Later, I was directing him behind the scenes, and he even had to send me a message when he got to his buddy's house.

When you arrive, then go in, go into someone else's house and talk for a while, if you don't have anything to say, then find something to say, what to say? Things from the past. After chatting, I went to find a place to eat, I really didn't know where to go to order a takeout, so I went back and forth, and then I taught this buddy how to order takeout, how to bring cigarettes, how to bring fire, and from now on I will drive him. When I was almost three weeks old, I was sent a message saying, "Brother Qu, my buddy asked me to be the CEO of his company, and I don't know if I can do it." "It's all come to this, what will you do, book friends? It must be next, to be the CEO of his buddy, but this employee still doesn't know if he can do it?

I'm just his leader, not his father, I can't help him guide him in everything, and I'm close to a successful choice, he just needs to take this step. So, after this employee went to his buddy's company for half a year, he did a very interesting thing, and bought the most expensive Tesla when Tesla was the most expensive. He worked with his buddies for half a year and bought a car worth more than one million, and later he looked back and said, "Brother Qu, I thank you very much, if you didn't tell me at the beginning, with my friend, I might still stay up late and work overtime in our company." ”

First of all, I'm not saying that our company's welfare is not good, whether to work overtime or not depends on the employee's voluntariness, anyway, overtime is indeed more earning than not working overtime. Rather, when you have a bull around you, after you have such a powerful person, do you want to borrow strength? Should you borrow power? And I tell you that most people are embarrassed to borrow, so I hope that the book friends who read this chapter today will understand a truth, all the ways to behave in the world, all the things to deal with people, you want to get more, better, and more powerful people to help.

Okay, then since we want to get help from others, you should have the mentality of letting others help you, you should be low-key, you should be humble, you should be polite.

In the future, in your mouth, never appear - when the ox teaches you, you have your own thoughts.

Never appear to say what you think, if you can change this habit, the evil of people is good teachers.

What is the evil of people in being a good teacher? I just can't help but always think about teaching others, and I will tell you again that he teaches you not for you, but he himself has the desire to teach others.

Just like me, I have a desire to talk and write, and if you don't let me write, I feel uncomfortable. When you finish what I want to write today, I feel comfortable. Whether or not that person manifests his desires is the point.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs, what is at the bottom? Physiologically, further up is safety, then up is social, then up is respected, and then up is self-realization.

People are pursuing self-realization, and I will pursue self-realization as well. If you want to make a cow man your own nobleman, do you need to get his guidance? Do you want him to guide you? The more things he guides you, the fewer detours you take. Then you have to remember at this time, even if the cow man is wrong, do you want to refute him? Are you going to break him? Are you going to be serious?

It may be that I straddle two industries, and one of the things I often do is to test whether the person on the other side is worth my help.

Will you do this? How did you test it? When you help him, do you see if he has a hard neck with you? When you corrected him, did he contradict you? Let me tell you book lovers, there are many people who have had their own opportunities closed in this life. In just such a sentence, if you say it wrong, then you will be powerless.

Why? Because you're too hard, you're too strong.

You know that if a cow comes to guide you, and you say, "I don't think so, I think I'm right", such a simple sentence comes out of your mouth, and the cattle around you will be stripped out by you, and one by one they will be farther and farther away from you. To answer your sentence, just two words are enough - "Fuck off!" ”

What do you say when someone gives you advice? You should say, "Why didn't I meet you sooner?" "If I had understood this a year ago, I would never be so embarrassed today." "On behalf of the whole family, I thank you for these heartfelt words."

Can? Then I would like to ask all book friends, if you say something like this, are others willing to tell you more? Are others willing to tell you more? When people speak in their own consciousness, it is also a kind of investment, do you believe it?

I wrote a lot of words in this book, doesn't that generation mean that I have invested a lot in your book friends? So I've invested a lot in my book friends, do I want to get a return? And what I want in return, it's not how much money I make, it's that I see you change.

You know what I mean? When I see the changes in the door of my book friends, am I not happy? That's happier than I make money, so what are you going to do at this time?

When you're done accepting other people's help, when you're done accepting other people's advice, when you're done accepting it, go back and find that person, or make a special phone call to him, or send him a message to say "thank you".

Why? Because of the advice given to you by others, it is possible to avoid you from making a big mistake today. Does it motivate others to be further good to you? Does it motivate others to further say more to you? Then I will ask all book friends, will there be more and more nobles around you? Therefore, all book lovers remember that earnestness is your biggest shortcoming, don't think that seriousness is a good thing.

If you are serious about yourself, that's no problem; If you are serious in interpersonal relationships, then you will ascend to heaven on the spot, and you must not be serious.

In this competitive society, we often encounter a variety of problems and challenges. Sometimes, we need help from others to solve these problems. However, there are times when we encounter difficulties that may be beyond our ability and we need to seek professional help.

For example, I once had a problem where I had a difficult time writing an article. I tried to figure this out on my own, but after some effort, I found that the problem was beyond my reach. So, I enlisted a professional editor to help me solve this problem. This editor not only helped me solve the problem, but also gave me some good advice to make my article better.

There are many similar situations, such as we have encountered some technical difficulties at work, or encountered some health problems in life, etc. That's when we can seek help from a professional. However, we should also note that not all problems require professional help. There are some problems that we can solve through our own efforts and learning. At the same time, we need to learn how to effectively seek professional help. First, we need to be clear about what our problem is and what kind of help we need. Then, it's up to us to choose the right professional to help us solve the problem. In the process of seeking help, we should also maintain a positive attitude and polite attitude, so that we can better get help from professionals.

Seeking professional help is a very useful way to solve the problems and challenges we are experiencing. However, we should also note that not all problems need to seek professional help, and some problems can be solved through our own efforts and study. At the same time, we also need to learn how to effectively seek professional help so that we can better access professional help.