Book friends, I ask you what is the difference between respecting a person and licking a dog? Or, how can you make friends with high-ranking bosses without losing self-esteem?

It's a very deep question, and the average person has a very terrible cognitive limitation, and he thinks that politeness is hypocritical, and this idea is very true.

Dear book friends, have you ever watched a lot of aristocratic movies or TV series? Have you ever found that those people have a lot of etiquette, and even sometimes think they are quite hypocritical, why do you think these people are so fake?

My eldest brother once told me that he had a great impact on me, saying that "respect is more important than compassion and love." Why? Because, he saw that most ordinary people think that they need to do public welfare, need to do charity, need to be compassionate, need to help others, and need to donate money and materials.

Of course, I didn't say that this approach was wrong, and they did do what they said, to do public welfare, to do charity, to help others with compassion, to donate money and materials to the disaster area. But they don't respect the people around them, they can't respect their parents, they can't respect the cleaning aunt, they can't respect the security guards, everyone thinks they are so loving and think they are very patterned. Therefore, respect is more important than compassion and love!

What is the highest and highest level of respect? Respect the people around you with the highest level of etiquette. So, how can you make friends with high-ranking bosses without losing self-esteem?

First of all, let's be clear, making friends with big guys doesn't mean that you want to "lick" them. Respect is mutual, you respect them and they will respect you. And this respect is based on equality, not on a relationship between superiors and subordinates.

Secondly, we must enhance our own value. Only when your value is recognized, the big guy will be willing to make friends with you. Therefore, strive to improve your abilities, knowledge, and insight to make yourself a valuable person.

Finally, be genuine. When making friends with big guys, don't disguise yourself, show your true self. If you're just disguising yourself to make friends with the big guys, then the relationship won't last long. On the contrary, if you are sincere with others, then the big guy will also be sincere with you.

Making friends with big guys is not about you "licking" them, but about building on the basis of equality and respect. It is necessary to enhance one's own value and treat others sincerely, so that you can make friends with the big guys without losing your self-esteem.

If you have a purpose in your heart, then what you have done is very fake; If your heart is pretending to be respect and love, then your every action will impress others.

Book friends, have you ever wondered why some people are always able to easily touch the hearts of others? Why do some people always manage to earn the respect and affection of others?

This is because they have respect and love in their hearts, and they do not do something to achieve a certain goal, but out of a genuine desire to help others and care for others. On the contrary, if a person's heart is filled with a purpose, then what he does will appear to be fake. Because he acts to achieve his own ends, not out of a genuine desire to help others. So, we need to learn to fill our hearts with respect and love. Only in this way can we truly touch the hearts of others and win their respect and affection. At the same time, we need to learn to discern those who have a purpose in their hearts. Because, they may do whatever it takes to achieve their own ends, and even harm the interests of others.

Respect and love are the most precious emotions between people, and only when our hearts are filled with respect and love can we become worthy people.