Each of us will have a turning point in our life, some people turn when they are proud, and some people turn when they are disappointed. These two points appear at completely different times, but they are strikingly similar in the process of whether or not each person can turn things around.

When you are most frustrated, you will want to talk to someone, then what you want to talk about is what is in your heart, including when you are proud, you also want to show off, right? Don't say you're a humble person, don't be so polite.

I would like to tell you that when people are proud and disappointed, they will have a psychology at work, that is, I want others to know and want others to understand themselves. At this time, there will be a person around you, this person around you is very important, he will give you some advice, maybe his achievements are not as good as yours, or his identity is not as good as you, but you know that this person is the person you trust the most. Then, you will talk about the real reason behind an incident, and some of the consequences that he is hiding.

Because, outsiders may not know, then you will find that this closer person will bring you some future advice, he may congratulate you, or he may pour cold water on you, or he may also come to persuade you, or he may also come to encourage and encourage you.

So you know what? At this time, it will actually have some influence on you, so you have to distinguish between positive and negative for this person who is very close to you? Including, his social experience, his social status, his social achievements, and the value he has created.

If a close person is a very bad person, or a person who has no social experience, has not been beaten by society, or has not been trained in society, then he will give you advice in the process of your frustration or pride, and if you make a choice to adopt, then you may succeed or fail. If you succeed, then I congratulate you; Failure, that can make you more frustrated and frustrated, or it can make you go from being proud to being frustrated.

Because, what do you think about next, behind the happiness, behind the joy, behind the carnival, how to go down next? This person who is close to you, he has more information about you, so that he can speak objectively enough from his own point of view, and he will speak closer to the facts you are facing. You talk to him enough, not that he's smart or wise. It's that you trust him enough, that's why you talk enough. Therefore, the advice he gives you will influence the correct decision you make later.

There is an old Chinese saying that a thousand dollars buy a house, and ten thousand dollars buy a neighbor. Because, at the critical moment, he will have a certain impact on you, and this influence is enough to affect many of your future trends.

Therefore, choosing a friend is a path to success and failure. So, how do we tell if the advice of this person close to us is positive or negative?

First of all, we need to see whether his advice is based on reality, whether it is logical, and whether it helps us solve the problem. If he gives unrealistic advice just to comfort us or make us feel better, then such advice is likely to be negative.

Second, we'll see if his advice helps us grow and develop. If his advice is just a temporary escape from the problem or makes us feel more frustrated, then such advice is also negative. On the contrary, if his advice allows us to see the essence of the problem and make us more aware of ourselves and the world, then such advice is positive. Then we want to see if his advice aligns with our values and goals. If his advice is contrary to our values and goals, then such advice is likely to be negative. On the contrary, if his advice is in line with our values and goals and can help us better achieve our dreams, then such advice is positive.

Therefore, when we choose someone close to us, we must seriously consider whether their advice is positive and useful. Only in this way can we make the right decisions at critical moments and move on the road to success.