Give up ineffective socializing,, and grow with yourself. I used to think that this principle should be very suitable for people like me, who live in my own fiction world, face this world with various brothers and sisters, and even learn some meaning or growth philosophy from my own novels. However, after a few years of working in society, I don't rely much on the world of fiction anymore.

It's still going to be a wonderful world, but when I'm the only one in this world, I realize that I'm the stupidest person in the world. I used to be a person who gave up ineffective social interactions, I lived like a scientist, I didn't see anyone much, and when I came home from work, I was dedicated to studying how to write fanfiction, how to sign contracts on major platforms of China Literature, and how to win awards in various essay competitions. Later, I found out that after so many years of grinding and chirping, I still haven't won the grand prize from these essay competitions, and I have no remuneration to support my life, and I can't survive in society at all.

At the beginning of this year, I found that I suddenly increased a lot of internal friction, why?

Because, I began to speculate about the world, and I felt that God didn't open his eyes. I've been writing so hard, writing more than 8,000 words, more than 20,000 words, or even hundreds of thousands of words a day, why do these essay contest awards still have nothing to do with me?

Who has the ability to understand the world? Whether it is Einstein or Hawking, they all leave this world with greater ignorance, everyone walks with ignorance, and neither of them leaves the world with understanding.

If you want to figure out the world, that's the most stupid person, that's the stupidest person. I tell all book lovers, don't try to understand the world, let alone look around in the world for your own answers. There is an idiom that is particularly well said, called "be at peace with what happens", which is the real wisdom. What do you mean? Because, he knows that there is no way to control the world, it is not the golden mean, but the choice of wisdom.

Dear book friends, I ask you, officials, business owners, entrepreneurial bosses, bosses of the manufacturing industry, bosses of trading companies, restaurant bosses and even athletes, do you believe that going out and constantly socializing is the path for these people to continue to get better?

There must be a bar spirit among the book lovers who retorted, "Athletes just need to produce results, and social interaction is not important at all." As long as these athletes can win the world's first place in their performance and win glory for the country, they naturally don't need to get along with others anymore. ”

This kind of logical thinking is very naïve, do you think that if an athlete has a good performance, he can get the championship? Do you know last year's Winter Olympics, Xu Mengtao, who won the championship and became famous all over the world? After she won the championship, there was a foreign female player, I don't know if you paid attention to her. After Xu Mengtao won the championship, this foreign female player came to congratulate her as soon as possible, saying "Congratulations, Taotao". Although she is not a champion, it can be seen from this detail that Xu Mengtao must be a social master, and she can make her opponent send sincere congratulations, which is happier than winning the championship!

However, Olympic athletes know that there is a saying on the field that "friendship first, competition second", if you don't get along with deep friendship, you win the world championship, who can look up to you around you? Do you know how many champions have given up gold medals in their hands? I know how many athletes have the strength to win the championship, but the coach just won't let you take it.

That's why I say that when you really know the world, you can know how you can get along with it. You really see the world and you know what the world is like. There are many things to pursue in life, but the most important thing is to expand the opportunities around you, to expand your network, and to expand the noble people around you. Only then will you become a better person.

Social networking is not about quantity, it's about quality. The value of a person is not to see how many friends he has, but to see how many friends he can be willing to lend a hand at a critical moment. We live in a complex social environment with intricate interpersonal relationships, but we need to understand that only by being sincere and making friends with our hearts can we get help and support in difficult situations. So, how do you expand your relationships?

First, we need to learn to listen and understand the needs and expectations of others. Everyone has their own story and experience, and by listening, we can better understand others and build deep friendships. Secondly, we must be good at expressing ourselves, not only to show our strengths, but also to have the courage to face our shortcomings. A genuine attitude will make people feel friendly and more likely to be trusted by others. Finally, we must know how to be grateful and cherish the people and things around us. Relationships are like a mirror, and you get back as much as you give. In this world, there are no immutable rules, and there is no absolute right or wrong. We are all constantly growing and changing, and the only constant is our pursuit of a better life. In this process, we must learn to adapt to the world and learn to live in harmony with the world. Only in this way can we find our place in this rapidly changing world and realize our own value.

Everyone is an island, but we can all work to make our island a better place. Giving up ineffective socialization does not mean being lonely, but in order to get along better with the world. Let's learn to cherish the people around us, make friends with our hearts, and make life more exciting. In this world full of challenges and opportunities, only by constantly expanding our circle can we go further and achieve our goals in life.