I don't know if book friends will have a feeling when they have not been with old friends for a long time, and they will have a feeling when they socialize with old friends after many years.

When we want to talk to each other about something, it's not easy to talk.

Why is that?

No matter how close the relationship is, it will be distant after not seeing each other for a long time. Because, people are afraid of meeting, and trees are afraid of peeling their skins.

The two will be estranged if they don't communicate for a long time, which is why most married girls feel that the relationship between them and their husbands is weak, in fact, it is not weak, but because girls can't feel love from boys.

The child and the mother have not seen each other for a long time, and the child and the father have not seen each other for a long time, don't think that it is a kiss, but a continuous estrangement process. Even now, we will see a lot of big cities, where children can be separated from their parents for a long time. Some children spend no more than an hour with their parents all year round.

What is the reason? It's not because my parents are busy with work, but because everyone is used to it.

Some parents themselves went to school when they were young, and they took it for granted that this was a correct way to educate their children, and they immediately rushed back to their own company or unit to continue working after going back to the Spring Festival every year and eating dumplings.

I've been like that myself, and since I've been in boarding school for a year, I've realized how good it feels to be free. After entering the society and having a job, I don't like to go home, and I don't even like to take care of my parents, so I just want to earn my wife back, and then marry a beautiful daughter-in-law, and then go back to my free work life. Later, I found out that this was not very good, alienated my family, and even hated my parents' nagging, and they also pointed at me, this one was not allowed to drink, that one was not allowed to eat, and over time they spoiled things.

So, do you say it's better to be estranged or not to be distant? Everyone's opinion on this issue is different, but as the author of this book, of course, I still want to persuade you to do good. Since it is a habit not to meet, it must also be a habit to meet, so it is necessary to maintain the frequency of meeting, and meet at least once a month, and this time it must be an in-depth exchange, there must be food, there must be wine, and there must be words.

Remember, as long as you meet, you will be counted by every second, and you must release your attitude every second, and let your relatives, friends, big brothers, and objects see your attitude and service every second. Moreover, the meeting cannot be empty-handed.

Of course, it is not necessary to bring a gift every time you meet, but to have at least one gift of respect for each other when you meet. For example, a good big brother or good big sister who will help us a lot in the future should give him a heavy gift at least once a year. And this gift is not the kind of gift that can make us bankrupt, but a gift that we feel is valuable. For example: a scarf you knit yourself, a personalized gift you make, a letter you write yourself, or a stuffed animal you catch a doll. (Plush toys don't have to be good big brothers or good big sisters for their own use, he has children, right?) You said to give it to his child, is there a problem? Of course, you said that a good big brother or a good big sister will be of great help to you in the future, and you want to give him a gift of tens of thousands, which is your own heart, and a good big brother or good big sister will receive a little of your heart.

When you meet, you must send a signal of respect, expectation, admiration, and even "reminiscence". And, be sure to remember that you are not afraid to repeat and that you can talk every time you meet.

"Big brother (eldest sister), since we met in the same year, I still remember the first time I met you, you were wearing a (what color) dress. I remember very clearly what watch you wore and what necklace you brought with you. ”

The eldest brother or eldest sister will think that you are very attentive, in fact, in the process of describing the memory scene, what signal can the other party receive? Be valued.

If you remember the events of so many years ago, it proves that you are not confused, so you have to talk about the past, talk about the last time, talk about the speech of the eldest brother or eldest sister.

"Big brother (big sister), once you said something to me." The purpose of saying these things is to let your own good big brother or good big sister know that you are respected.

Therefore, make a toast when you meet. And when toasting, you have to express your attitude.

You have to say, "Big brother (big sister), you are my role model, I have always respected you very much, and I have always regarded you as my life coach. Your help and support for me, I always remember in my heart. I hope to continue to receive your guidance and attention in the years to come. This glass of wine, I salute you. ”

During the toast, you also have to say, "Big brother (big sister), I have always remembered your help and support for me. I am very grateful for your trust and support in me. I hope to continue to have your trust and support in the days to come. This glass of wine, I salute you. ”

Finally, you have to express your expectations, you have to say, "Big brother (big sister), I have always admired you very much, and I have always wanted to be like you. I hope to continue to receive your teachings and guidance in the years to come. ”

Through such exchanges and toasts, you will not only be able to get closer to your big brother or big sister, but you will also be able to make the other person feel your respect and gratitude. At the same time, you can learn more from the other person and improve your own abilities and insights. This kind of meeting is meaningful, so that you and the other party can benefit a lot.