"People have no ability, you can know it at a glance", most people who have no ability have three characteristics, one word hits.

Many people show a certain emotional loss of control in their lives to a greater or lesser extent. Xiao Zhang is one such person.

After graduating from university, Xiao Zhang worked in a state-owned enterprise. Probably due to the influence of the family environment, Xiao Zhang's personality is more introverted, he is not very good at communicating with others, and he is not good at controlling his emotions.

At work, he often overreacts to some small things, often bursts like thunder, and shouts loudly at every turn, which seriously affects the working atmosphere of the department.

At one point, the department asked an employee to fill out some forms. Xiao Zhang didn't pay attention to the leader's explanation, so he filled in the wrong content without authorization. When the leader criticized him, he actually yelled on the spot, saying that the leader's explanation was not clear and that it was the leader's problem. This out-of-control behavior left everyone bewildered and horrified.

Later, the company specially invited a psychologist to counsel Xiao Zhang. The psychiatrist judged that Xiao Zhang had obvious emotional management problems and needed to receive relevant psychological counseling and training to learn to control his emotions.

In order to help Xiao Zhang, the psychiatrist first communicated with him, made him aware of his problems, and made him realize that the biggest difference between humans and animals is that people have the ability to control their emotions.

At the same time, the psychologist also introduced some methods to control emotions, such as taking deep breaths to calm down, etc., so that Xiao Zhang can practice more in his life to help him control his emotions.

In addition, the company also adjusted Xiao Zhang's work to reduce his work pressure and let him work in a more relaxed department. The leaders and colleagues of the new department are also very patient with Xiao Zhang, constantly communicating with him and helping him improve his ability to work under pressure. With everyone's help, Xiao Zhang's emotional control ability has gradually improved, and he no longer has a lot of uncontrollable situations.

Xiao Zhang's example reflects that everyone has times when their emotions are out of control, and it is important to be aware of the problem and learn to manage it. Both family education and self-stress management have an important impact on an individual's ability to control their emotions.

Compared with Xiao Zhang, Xiao Wang is a different type of person. Xiao Wang attaches great importance to personal interests, never considers the overall situation, as long as it is a small matter that is beneficial to himself, he will calculate it very clearly, and will not let go of any opportunity to take advantage.

For example, when the company gathers for dinner, Xiao Wang always orders some very expensive dishes, but he actually eats very little, and when paying, Xiao Wang always tries to shirk it. Over time, everyone saw Xiao Wang's small belly and chicken intestines, and they were unwilling to associate with him anymore.

Xiao Wang is also often nitpicky, and he has to be very clear about every detail of his work, and he will make a fuss if he is slightly dissatisfied. He can't understand the big picture of the company and only thinks about his own personal gains and losses. Once you think you have been wronged, you will make a big noise.

Because Xiao Wang only cares about himself, never thinks about the overall situation of the company, and cannot establish a good relationship with his colleagues, his future in the company is very worrying. The company's leaders have repeatedly reminded Xiao Wang to establish an overall awareness, but Xiao Wang has never corrected it.

Later, in a project, Xiao Wang insisted on his own opinions and refused to cooperate for his own selfish interests, which led to the failure of the project. The company had no choice but to transfer Xiao Wang out of the project department. Xiao Wang's self-righteous behavior not only failed him, but also caused losses to the company.

Xiao Wang's example shows that only by letting go of one's own self-interest can one achieve a greater cause. If a person only cares about immediate interests and lacks overall awareness, he will only end up with bad things. Everyone should learn to let go of the ego and strive for a higher goal.

Unlike Xiao Zhang and Xiao Wang, Xiao Liang is an idealistic and hardworking young man.

Since graduating from university, Xiao Liang has chosen to work in his own professional field. At first, his income was not high, and his life was very poor. But Xiao Liang was not discouraged, but consciously worked overtime and worked hard. He uses his after-hours to continue learning new knowledge in order to advance professionally.

Five years later, with his own efforts, Xiao Liang has become a core backbone in the company. The significant increase in his income has also made his life easier.

Xiao Liu, who joined the company at the same time as Xiao Liang, chose a completely different path. After graduating, Xiao Liu just wanted to work comfortably and was unwilling to make too much effort. He chose an easy job and commuted to and from work on time every day. Since he did not study as hard as Xiaoliang, the improvement of his work ability was very limited, and his income barely improved after 5 years.

Through comparison, it can be seen that the different choices of Xiao Liang and Xiao Liu eventually led to completely different life results. Xiao Liang continued to learn and progress, blossoming and bearing fruit, while Xiao Liu was lazy and inactive and gained little.

From their examples, it can be seen that a person's achievements and gains completely depend on their own choices and efforts. Each of us has the potential to create a better life, and the key is to keep pushing ourselves and really strive for it, rather than coveting the comfort of the moment.

If you want to achieve success, you must have a clear purpose in life. Purpose is the source of motivation that drives our struggle. With a goal, we will move towards it every step of the way, even if the process is very difficult, we will persevere.

In order to achieve our goals, reading books is also very beneficial to us. A wide range of knowledge can broaden our horizons, so that we can grasp the big picture without getting lost in the minutiae. Abundant knowledge will also make us more able to think about and solve problems. Therefore, you should use your spare time to read more books and supplement your knowledge.

At the same time, we need to maintain an optimistic and positive attitude. In our studies and work, we will inevitably encounter setbacks. But as long as you have hope and believe that you can overcome difficulties, you will definitely be able to overcome them and realize your dreams.

If a person loses the motivation to struggle, his life will stagnate and eventually achieve nothing. We must always motivate ourselves, face life with a positive attitude, and tap our potential, so that we can achieve a sense of accomplishment and happiness.

Controlling emotions, establishing a sense of wholeness, and perseverance are all necessary conditions for everyone's success and happiness. Only by constantly improving ourselves can we live a meaningful life.

Wang Zhiwen once said: "When a person reaches a certain age, he does not have a stable job, he has no savings, and you can't take out the money when his relatives encounter difficulties, you will understand, what kind of face, love, love, are all floating clouds!" ”

This sentence can tell the dilemma of countless middle-aged people. Money is very important for a person and a family.

When I was young, I was "full of love and water", and I always felt that the money was enough, and I squandered it for love.

It was only in middle age that after some hardships in life, I realized that "it is difficult to move an inch without money".

You never know who will come first in the unexpected and tomorrow, and when faced with sudden difficulties and the need for a lot of money, you will feel that decency and scenery are simply insignificant.

Money is your confidence.

With money, you can no longer live in a damp rental house; If you have money, you won't miss the girl you like because of the high bride price.

With money, you can create the best learning environment for your children; If you have money, you won't talk about "dislike" because of your money......

So it's okay to be less hypocritical, and to make more money when you have time.

The delivery staff endured the severe cold, heat, sun and rain, and could run up to the 6th floor in one breath for the 3 yuan takeaway fee.

Cleaners are not afraid of dirty or tired, and they can clean toilets more than 300 days a year for a salary of three or two thousand.

They are all working hard to live, working hard to earn money, and trying hard to change their fate.

Some people will dislike the dirty street sweeping, and some people will dislike the work of the funeral home...... In fact, it is not the job that is shameful, but the lack of money.

When I was young, I felt that talking about money was "too vulgar", and ridiculed "I'd rather cry on a BMW than laugh on a bicycle" and worship money.

Later, I found out that only with money can you go all over the world, and only with money can you talk about family and love.

"Poor and lowly couples mourn everything", "Poor in the downtown no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives", "Money can make ghosts grind"......

These long-standing sayings also exhort people to earn and save money well.

If you don't have money, you have to hesitate if your child likes a toy, shop around, and finally tell your child "It's too expensive, don't buy it".

I don't have any money, and when I want to go out to celebrate the festival, I have to look at various group buying software, compare the price, and finally find that it is more affordable to do it at home.

The life of an adult is not easy, and the money begins to flow away from the moment you wake up in the morning.

It's really annoying to talk about money all day long, but life is really inseparable from money.

Especially in today's society, money is even more important.

Education and medical care in rural areas cannot keep up, and in order to send their children to school in the city, many families have spent everything they have and taken millions of loans.

Under the double reduction policy, how many families take private lessons for a few hundred yuan a class in order to train their children? How many parents are discouraged by expensive interest classes?

After becoming a parent, I found out that money is the "root of all evil", and all unhappiness comes from "no money".

Although money is not everything, it can handle more than 90% of the things in the world.

I remember that there is a ridiculous saying on the Internet: Talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about feelings hurts money.

Do you want to hurt feelings or money? It turns out that there are no feelings without talking about money.

If you don't have money, don't talk about outsiders, your parents, wife and children will look down on you, although the words are not good, but they are very realistic.

So from now on, earn money within your ability, save money as much as you can, don't look at the masters, and only from a small age can you become big.

Earning money is the most important thing at the moment, and it would be nice if you felt hesitant, anxious, and at a loss in the process of struggling, and thought about your goals.