Alas.

How could someone have such a good temper and give away the stars and the moon after being murdered.

Ning Sui remembered those boys in the junior high school class before, as long as the other party expressed a little favor, she would immediately retreat, and she couldn't even make friends if she said a wrong word. Some people may have strong self-esteem, and they still hold it in their minds, so much so that they keep mentioning it as if they were joking at every class reunion.

However, this symptom now seems to improve over time.

There seemed to be a particularly gentle wave rising and falling in my heart, and those very noisy and uneasy thoughts slowly dissipated. Ning Sui clicked on the webpage, paused in the search bar with his fingertips, and typed in "how to cure avoidant attachment personality".

There is a doctor's Q&A on the Internet that shows - "You must know yourself correctly, gain confidence in your interactions, and overcome anxiety and tension." Anti-anxiety medications such as alprelumen may be taken if necessary. ”

“……”

It's a certain degree.

Isn't this nonsense?

How do you know yourself? How do you gain confidence? How to overcome anxiety?

Do you take medicine if you don't agree with each other?

Ning Sui buried his head in his knees, and sighed silently in his heart, thinking that this matter still had to be considered in the long run, and then see if there were any other solutions, it would not always work like this.

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Because of his physical condition, Ning Sui was unable to participate in the school run with Hu Keer the next day, so Hu Keer said: [It's so sad~ That handsome guy can only be enjoyed by me alone~~~]

“……”

Ning Sui asked quietly: [Have you finished reading all the literature? My sister memorized a few more words today? 】

Bubble Blossom: [......]

Bubble Blossom: [Ahhhhh 】

Hu Keer also found out that he was ignorant of the world before entering the university, how could he think that the English major was easy to read?

On the first day of reporting, when I saw the banner left by the seniors posted at the door of their dormitory, I vaguely felt that something was wrong.

【We f**k languages！ :)】

As the name suggests, we are engaged in language.

Hu Keer learned from the pain, and after finishing his run, he decided to go directly to the library to study.

After the sports meeting, Ning Sui still worked three shifts in clubs, academics and cultural and sports life as usual. Although she has studied mathematics, she still retains the habit of college entrance examination candidates, she works very hard in class, takes notes and studies wrong questions, and does not dare to slack off.

Liang Xinyue has a mine at home, so her attitude is obviously not so serious, in her words, it is just so-so until graduation.

This woman has been in love recently, and she has begun to be more and more unbridled in the dormitory, and her nicknames for her boyfriend are changed every day, "piggy", "baby", "dear", and the whole person is so sweet that it seems to be able to burst out of pink bubbles.

Compared with her, Yu Qin is more unlucky, after in-depth understanding, I found that the ambiguous object of the physics department is a Puxin man with a particularly macho tendency, and he cares about this and that before they are together, it makes people bow down.

After Yu Qin treated him coldly, this guy didn't seem to give up, kept sending messages to harass her, and sent her greasy selfies: [Show you the handsome guy~]

"No, no, didn't he, did he think I'd change my mind like this?? Vomit! ”

This man can almost be included in the Wonderful Men's Awards, and after posting a selfie doesn't work, he will transfer money to her, trying to impress her with his generous handwriting, and saying that all women eat this set.

Yu Qin couldn't say anything: "I have been blocked on WeChat before, and today I transferred 9.9 yuan three times on Alipay, and asked me if I was sincere enough, what kind of goods did I provoke......

Liang Xinyue, the love military advisor, was not there, so Yu Qin came over to find Ning Sui: "Sui, why do you say I will go back?" ”

Ning Sui took her mobile phone and said: [Sincerity is there, then vme 99 to see the strength. 】

Yu Qin wondered: "Will it be too little?" ”

"Let's see." Ning Sui said cautiously, "At first, it should be less, lest he take screenshots and spread rumors everywhere." ”

As the two were talking, the other party immediately replied: [Hehe, I can give you money, how can you ask me? , I really didn't see it before, you're such a material person! Lower !! 】

Send another message to the past, and block it at the speed of light.

Yu Qin: "......? ”

Amazed.

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On Thursday afternoon, Ning Sui went to teach "artificial intelligence technology" at Qing University again.

I really despised this course before, but after only a few classes, the difficulty has risen sharply. The old man is very stunning.,The class is still about showing all kinds of works such as AI poetry and painting.,The homework after class is to reproduce similar programs.。

Ning Sui heard the girl and her companion next to her whispering: "Isn't this the kind of class that teaches you the 1+1=2 exam to be a ghost?" Who the can do that? ”

The companion next to him comforted: "Don't be angry, I heard that Yao Ban's homework is to imitate the small program of 'Rain Classroom' and write a 'Thunder Classroom' by yourself." ”

Girl: "? ”

Rain Classroom is the software that Qingda usually uses to sign in to class, and teachers will upload courseware on it for roll call or something.

The girl looked helpless: "Good guy, I want to find a boyfriend from the computer department now, who will help me write programs." ”

Ning Sui's thoughts drifted a little when he listened, packed up his things after class, and walked aimlessly around the campus of Qing University.

She found that she was a little bit in Cao Ying's heart in Han, how did she feel that there were several places in this garden in Qingda, and the scenery was really good.

When passing by the basketball court next to the Bauhinia playground, Ning Sui deliberately stood next to him and took a look, several hot-blooded teenagers in the field were grabbing rebounds, sweating profusely, and their clothes were flying, but they didn't see anyone.

I haven't heard from him for the last few days, and I don't know what he's up to.

Ning Sui couldn't help but tighten his fingertips, looking at the basketball court slightly distracted.

She had Xie Yichen's coat in her backpack, but before she could think about whether to contact him, she happened to bump into a high school classmate who was quite familiar, saying that she hadn't seen her for a long time, so she might want to have a meal together.

Let's eat, the female classmate's name is Cui Xian, she is very enthusiastic, a small mouth is especially good at gossip, and she had a good relationship with Hu Keer before.

They had a meal in the Taoli Garden nearby, and after a few bites of rice, Cui Xian said, "Baby, we have to hurry up, I have to go to a psychology class in a while." ”

"Psychology lessons?"

Cui Xian hummed: "A compulsory general education course for freshmen and sophomores." It's quite watery, and I tell some interesting cases every day, which is very relaxing. ”

Ning Sui was a little interested: "Is there a course outline?" ”

Cui Xian used her mobile phone for a while: "I sent you WeChat." After a pause, he warmly invited, "If you're okay at night, why don't you go listen with me?" ”

Ning Sui glanced at it, what I want to introduce today is the personality test of MBTI, and he didn't hesitate: "Okay, then I'll go with you to take a look." ”

The class was held in a large classroom with hundreds of people, and it was already full when the two of them arrived, Cui Xian was not in a hurry, took her mobile phone and made a call, and turned around and threw a wink at her: "It's done, my friend helped us occupy a place in the middle." ”

Ning Sui blinked: "Boys and girls?" ”

Cui Xian didn't hide it at all, and said proudly: "My Crush." ”

Cui Xian's Crush is a senior in the same department as her, one year older than her, and she looks a little like the Korean idol drama Opana, with single eyelids, very tall, and she also waved enthusiastically after seeing them: "Here and here!" ”

Because it was in the center of the middle rows, a few students outside were holding their schoolbags and moving out with great difficulty, Ning Sui and Cui Xian thanked them while going in, and when they finally sat down to put their things, the class bell rang.

There are two doors in the front and back of the classroom, the door in front is close to the big screen, and there are two positions in the top corner where there is no one. ”

Cui Xian glanced over there and said with a smile: "It's too close to the front, it's inconvenient to look at the screen." ”

Then he said uncertainly: "I see that Xie Yichen has sat in that position a few times before, maybe someone left it for him." ”

As soon as the words fell, the door in front of him was pushed open, and the boy who was at the head rushed in with a bag of M takeaways in his hand, like a wind, and the person behind was carrying a bag diagonally on one shoulder, with an ear-covering headset around his neck, and followed unhurriedly.

The two almost pressed the last bell and sat in the two seats, Xie Yichen sat in the middle, and the buddy beat the shoulder of the boy next to him, and the other party quickly accepted the notebook and pen used to occupy the place, turned his head and said a few words to them with a smile.

There were also some students near that corner who noticed the movement and looked over, including many girls, who looked up several times.

Cui Xian said in a tone that I said: "Hey, sure enough." ”

Homeopathy sighed, "He really likes pressure points." ”

After speaking, he didn't hear an answer, and his side eyes found that Ning Sui was looking there with his eyelashes raised, and his eyes didn't blink.

Cui Xian thought she didn't know each other: "Hey, haven't you seen Xie Yichen?" He is the champion of our province, Huai'an. ”

Ning Sui responded softly, lowered his head and turned on the computer: "Are you familiar with him?" ”

"It's okay, my friend from Qingda Summer School." The teacher on the stage has already begun to speak, and Cui Xian also bit the pen to read the content of today's class, "Later, I had a few exchanges after the score, and I felt that he was so powerful, but he was very easy-going, and there was no shelf at all." ”

Ning Sui nodded, didn't say anything, and began to listen to the class.

"Before talking about MBTI personality, I would like to talk about intimacy, you are both children, you have also established friendships, you will meet your sweetheart in the future, enter the palace of marriage, and pass on the intimacy. How you behave in an intimate relationship is a big reflection of the personality you have. ”

The female teacher on the stage has exquisite makeup and gentle temperament, and she looks about thirty or forty years old, Cui Xian whispered to Ning Sui that she is actually almost fifty: "Hehe, how is it well maintained?" The attendance rate of this class is very high, because everyone loves to listen to Professor Jiang, and they are not impatient, which can soothe the hearts of the students who are broken by involution to a certain extent. ”

Professor Jiang said: "When it comes to intimate relationships, we have to mention four attachment personalities, security, avoidance, obsession, and fear. ”

These four personalities can be divided into two dimensions. First, whether there is a fear of being abandoned; Second, whether to avoid intimacy. ”

Professor Jiang drew two horizontal and vertical lines on the blackboard, divided into four quadrants, and formed different attachment patterns in pairs.

"The safe type is the most ideal and secure, frank, optimistic, never worried, never shy away from intimacy, and is a trustworthy partner."

"Obsessive people are afraid of being abandoned by their parents, and they often get into a relationship very quickly, but they are worried about their gains and losses. For example, if your lover doesn't respond to your messages in a timely manner, they may frantically call each other in the hope of being intimately involved in each other's lives. But children with this type of personality should pay attention, as the results are often not as expected, and the partner may leave because of too much pressure. ”

"When it comes to avoidant types, they are not used to relying on anyone and are always very independent. This kind of personality is often formed because they did not get the response of their parents to the expression of their own demands in childhood, so they are accustomed to suppressing their emotional needs deeply in their hearts, and over time, they no longer try to express them to anyone. ”

"When dealing with avoidants, you may think that they are hot and cold, capricious, but please note that the avoidant personality is not a lack of desire to be loved, but a deep down disbelief in the form of love that they want, so they behave in a way that rejects others."

Speaking of this, a boy in the front row raised his hand enthusiastically: "Teacher, teacher! I have a question! ”

Professor Jiang smiled and asked him to ask questions, and the boy stood up very tigerly, coughed dryly, and came up and said, "That, I recently fell in love with a girl......

There was a burst of coaxing below: "Wow! ”

The most interesting thing about this class is here, there are always Sheniu students sharing their stories, and the classroom is very excited, noisy, and talking to each other, which makes the boys a little embarrassed.

Professor Jiang raised his eyebrows and made a gesture of please: "And then?" ”

The boy paused, and simply blushed and puffed up: "It's that she should be avoidant, I have been very close to her recently, and I feel that she seems to have a good impression of me, and she also brought me water when she played basketball." ”

"But it's always a burst, and it can't be said that it's hot and cold, she hasn't been cold, and she hasn't resisted me getting close to her, and she has taken the initiative to hold hands with me."

"But we see each other about once a week, and the rest of the time she's either busy or has other things to do, and I can't make an appointment, but every time I want to give up, she comes to me again, and she's quite enthusiastic."

The boy said, "I don't know how to deal with this situation, but I think it's very good anyway." ”

The students in the classroom are still noisy, and in Beijing in late October, the wind is still blowing outside, but the atmosphere inside is getting hotter and hotter.

Professor Jiang pushed down the glasses on the bridge of his nose and said meaningfully, "Baby, you can have some eyes." This is not an avoidant type, this is a scumbag. ”

“……”