Chapter 42: Listening to the Lectures

Later, the boy sat down, and the classroom was restless for a while, almost laughing and applauding, lamenting Professor Jiang's sharp eyes and a little sympathy for the poor buddy who was kept in the dark.

When the atmosphere quieted down, Jiang Rong smiled again and said, "In order to prevent our classmates from getting confused, I will distinguish with you the reasons for the occurrence of avoidant personality." ”

She clicked on the slides and turned her head to write on the blackboard: "The avoidant type is mostly from the original family control and suppression type of education, parents may set too strict requirements for them, less praise, and most negative evaluations, so they can't find their self-worth positioning, and tend to avoid anyone's closeness, because they are not confident in their bones, and they are afraid that they will be hurt by others." ”

Ning Sui held the ballpoint pen and blinked his eyelashes slowly.

She curled her fingers up and silently clenched them in her palms. While bowing her head, she couldn't help but recall Xia Fanghui's various requirements for her in the past.

When she was in elementary school, she urged her to get a full score as much as possible, and if she didn't get in, she would have to be beaten by the palm of her hand, and then she grew older, and Xia Fanghui didn't do it again, but she still couldn't help but scold her when she made mistakes - why didn't you work hard? Why can't you even do such a simple thing?!

At that time, although Ning Sui understood that her mother's personality was a little paranoid, she couldn't help but question herself, yes, why can't she do it well? It really shouldn't be wrong.

Then, you will repeatedly fall into a negative cycle from self-blame to mistakes.

With the passage of time, her emotional control ability is much stronger than before, and she is no longer so aggrieved that she wants to cry because of a little reprimand. But all along, Ning Sui found that he didn't seem to have seriously thought about the causes of this personality tendency, and only now did he understand that this was the case.

Thinking of this, she suddenly recalled the conversation she had with that pen pal.

At that time, because it was on the Internet, and the time of knowing each other was not short, Ning Sui's defensive heart became more and more reduced, and he shared some experiences in his life with the other party, or interesting or sad things, and sometimes even used the other party as an emotional trash can to pour out his inner unhappiness.

Ning Sui remembered that he said to the other party: [Because you are someone I don't know, so I dare to tell you this. If people in reality knew, I would have stayed away. 】

Nathan asks: "Why?" 】

1212 Coconut: [Because I'm going to be upset.] I have a bit of a tendency to avoidant attachment. 】

1212 Coconut: [Don't you tell others, okay?] 】

Ning Sui also secretly told Ning Deyan before that she felt that something was not quite right in her intimate relationship, as if whenever someone tried to get close to her, she had a panic and insecurity that came out of nowhere, and wanted to cower and hide.

After checking the information on the Internet, it was the so-called "avoidant type", Ning Sui didn't know what to do, and it happened to be the second semester of the second year of high school, so he proposed to see a psychiatrist.

But Ning Deyan's reaction was very repulsive, and he immediately said solemnly - what nonsense, don't moan without illness, it's normal to be under pressure in high school, to the point of going to see a psychiatrist, the words on the Internet are all fake, don't say anything, you can believe it. People must not be too glassy.

Ning Sui understood that her father was also overwhelmed by work at that time, rejecting all useless weakness, but that was indeed the moment when she carefully revealed her heart.

I won't talk about it later.

- But Nathan is different.

After she finished talking, he didn't ask what avoidant attachment was, but only replied: "Okay. 】

After a pause, Nathan patiently replied, "Don't tell anyone, it's a secret between us. 】

The student sitting at the window closed the window, and only a slit was leaking, which was slightly breathable. The sound of the wind stopped whistling, and became softer. The shadows of the trees in the window are clear and shallow, lightly covering the outside of the school building.

In the classroom, there is the occasional rustle of the tip of a pen falling on a piece of paper to take notes, or the crisp sound of tapping on a keyboard. Ning Sui couldn't help but raise his eyes, and his gaze swept towards a corner in front of him.

Although there was a short distance and a human head in the middle obstructing the line of sight, in the overlapping gap, Ning Sui still clearly saw the angular outline of Xie Yichen's side face.

He stared at the screen with his elbows resting on the table, his slender knuckles against his jaw, unable to see his expression.

The one sitting outside eating chicken nuggets should be his roommate Liu Chang, Ning Sui met with him last time he played basketball and chatted briefly.

Unconsciously distracted, Ning Sui lowered his eyelashes, his gaze fixed slightly, and fell on the computer keyboard in front of him.

He always seemed to be conspicuous in the crowd, I thought.

Every time you look at him, you can see him all at once.

- So, what kind of attachment type will Xie Yichen have?

Ning Sui is actually not sure.

Judging from the relationship alone, she feels that he is mature, reliable, and emotionally stable. It seems that nothing is in front of him, any problem can be solved, as long as Xie Yichen is there, he can give her this fearless and indomitable confidence.

However, he also said that his parents didn't care much about him, and they didn't even remember his birthday. So he sometimes stayed with his aunt and uncle, and even moved out alone in junior high school.

Also, how did the scar on his arm come about?

When you get scratched, it must hurt.

Ning Sui suddenly realized at this time that there were still many things she didn't know about Xie Yichen.

She thought to herself, her lips straightening.

At this time, a girl in the front row of Ning Sui raised her hand: "Professor Jiang, how should this avoidant psychology be cured and improved?" ”

In the large classroom of hundreds of people, everyone was listening attentively, and the room was silent, her question happened to be what Ning Sui wanted to know but didn't dare to ask, Jiang Rong replied: "The first way is to save yourself, find your own strengths, and find your inner emotional appeal." ”

"Attention dear dear, when I say self-help here, it does not mean that this is a bad personality, on the contrary, you must realize that each personality is unique and precious."

"For example, the avoidant personality is very delicate and sensitive, and is good at detecting changes in other people's emotions. So please don't be presumptuous. ”

"The other way is to get power from the outside. If there is someone you trust who can give you a lot of encouragement, you will slowly build your own value system and enter a positive cycle of self-affirmation. ”

Speaking of this, Jiang Rong blinked, and the person who was almost fifty years old looked a little playful: "Of course, the fastest way is to find a partner with a secure attachment." ”

Finally, the bell rang for the second recess, and the students got up one after another to go out to the toilet.

Cui Xian and her senior chatted warmly for a while, and then introduced Ning Sui to each other, the two greeted Cui Xian amicably, Cui Xian asked with a smile, "How about I clear this lesson?" Not bad, right? ”

Ning Sui nodded, and curled his lips slightly: "It's good." ”

While the senior went out to fetch water, she also teased Cui Xian: "How do I feel that you are about to get off the list?" ”

Cui Xian's face finally showed a little shame, but her eyes were still very bright: "Right, right?" I also think, I wish me success! ”

Ning Sui felt that she was like a little sunflower, very good at getting close to people, and when we were eating together just now, she was thinking that being liked by a girl like Cui Xian would definitely feel very bright.

Cui Xian chased the senior out, Ning Sui was stunned for a while, closed the computer in front of him, and finally decided to send a message to Xie Yichen and return the clothes to him.

But he didn't want him to know that he was secretly in class here, so Ning Sui simply pretended that he came from outside the classroom to find him, and patted him first: [[Cat Mao probe brain .jpg]]

Years and Years: [Are you in class?] Can I come and return your clothes tonight? 】

She saw from a distance that Liu Chang was gagging with another roommate, Qu Handong, with a very vivid expression, and Xie Yichen was sandwiched between them, looking at his phone all the time.

After a while.

Xie Yichen replied: [Good]

Years and Years: [Where are you?] 】

originally wanted to go through this superficial process, but he unexpectedly asked: [Where are you? 】

Ning Sui's eyelashes flashed, and he made up a wording: [I'm walking around the school road [Cat Cat Pinball .jpg]]

She tentatively asked, "Can I go and look for you now?" 】

Ning Sui saw that Xie Yichen was still with his head down, and the door in front of the professor that was very close to him was open, and people were coming and going, so he leaned back in his chair and sat casually, focusing on the things in his hands, not caring at all how many people were quietly watching him.

In a few moments, a girl came up to him and spoke to him across the table.

Because Xie Yichen was sitting and the girl was standing, she cleverly bent down slightly in order to get closer to him.

Liu Chang and Qu Handong stopped chatting, pretending to look at their own computers, but actually eating melons with their eyes and nose and heart.

Ning Sui felt that the girl looked a little familiar, and it wasn't until the other party took out two boxes of mango fruits and handed them to Xie Yichen that she suddenly reacted.

“……”

Isn't this the girl who delivered water on the basketball court that day? Listen to Liu Chang talk about the cost of the management department.

Ning Sui pursed his lips, saw Xie Yichen casually raise his eyelashes and glance at it, seemed to say a few words, and lowered his eyes again. But because of the distance, I couldn't tell what was being said.

Just when she started to be in a daze again, the phone suddenly vibrate.

The other end replied leisurely: "Okay, I'm the 12th seat to the left in the 6 rows in front of you. 】

Ning Sui: "......"

Her gaze froze, and her expression froze suddenly.

No, how would he know she was in the classroom?! Did he turn back!

Ning Sui felt that this person's eyesight was really too good, and he could pull her out of the black head, and he didn't want to look over there anymore, so he buried his head slightly with his fingertips.

She stared at the screen and typed word by word: [Oh, is that mango fruit sweet? 】

After waiting for a while, there was no reply.

subconsciously raised his eyes to look for him, but found that the person was no longer in his place.

Ning Sui was stunned, and when he wanted to stand up, a familiar breath suddenly came from his side, the taste was clean and slow, but his voice was bright and smiling: "I don't know, I didn't eat." ”

The tip of his heart was itched like being swept by something, and Ning Sui put down his phone: "...... Oh. ”

The classmate next to her went out as soon as class, and Xie Yichen leaned straight on the back of the chair standing beside her.

He lowered his eyes, his dark eyes were faintly depressed, and he was a little playful, and he dragged out his tone unhurriedly: "Isn't it on the school road?" How did you get here so quickly? ”

How the hell could he find her while dealing with people?

Ning Sui was silent for a moment, hid his warm ears in his hair, and simply told the lie to the end, and said slowly: "Well, yes, I rode a bicycle." ”

“……”

Xie Yichen raised his eyebrows and glanced at her, but he didn't hold on to the topic, and sat down next to him.

His body leaned towards her, and his tone was lazy and relaxed: "How did you think of coming to listen to a psychology class?" ”

Ning Sui glanced at him: "Cui Xian asked me to come with me." You know her, right? ”

Xie Yichen recalled: "Well, I should have met in the summer school. ”

Ning Sui sighed: "I have a good relationship with her." ”

Xie Yichen looked at her directly, and responded leisurely, but his gaze did not move for half a minute.

Ning Sui's heart tightened, and he wanted to say something, but he took out a cup of avocado-flavored yogurt out of nowhere, pushed it in front of her, lowered his eyelashes and hooked his lips and asked, "Do you want to drink it?" ”

Xie Yichen is wearing dark gray lock-neck cargo pants today, with slender legs, and a rare light khaki hooded sweatshirt on the upper body, and two threads on the collar to adjust the tightness, hanging idly.

"Hmm." Ning Sui remembered that the vending machines outside were selling this yogurt. She felt that as soon as he moved, the line dangled in her field of vision, and she couldn't help but reach out and pull it.

As a result, she didn't expect this thing to be stuck loosely, so she pulled it out.

“？”