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It is said that the world is very big, so big that we can meet tens of millions of people in our lifetime;

But this world is very small, so small that it is among tens of millions of people, but it only knows one person.

In fact, all the encounters and partings in this world can't escape the word "fate".

If there is no cause, how can we meet?

As the saying goes:

"There is a fate to meet thousands of miles away, but there is no chance to meet on the other side. ”

The fate between people is a very wonderful thing.

If there is no fate, even if they stand side by side, they are destined to separate and eventually become a passerby.

If there is fate, even if the sky is different, they will cross thousands of mountains and rivers and come to meet.

The scholar was unacceptable, fell into deep grief, could not let go, often saw things and thought about people, and lived like a walking corpse.

Until one night, the girl told him to live well, and said to him:

"The reason why you and I can see each other is only because you were kind to me in your previous life, so I came to repay the favor in this life, and now that the kindness is over, I have to leave. ”

can't help but sigh that in this world, the fate is deep and shallow, and the fate comes and goes, it turns out that it is all destined.

Gathering and dispersing, in the dark, fate has already been arranged, and no one can change it.

The people you want to meet will always meet, and the people who should leave will not be retained.

In that case, why bother?

Some people say that thanks to those people and things that hurt me, thank you for the pain, these are the wealth on the way of my growth, they make me stronger, in fact, pain is pain, it is better not to encounter it. But I have to admit that on the way to growth, it is always accompanied by bruises all over the body, blue nose and swollen face.

If you have fallen once, you must remember where you fell this time, how you fell, how to avoid it next time, and what is the best way to deal with it...

Only when you think in this way will it make sense to fall on your head, and it will be the easiest to grow. When you encounter difficulties, don't rush to find someone to complain.

Most of the time, your heart-to-heart talk won't solve anything.

Spitting may be able to alleviate temporary anxiety, but after complaining, the problem is still there, and you still have to choose to face reality after all.

Instead of spending time chattering and complaining, it is the right choice to calm down and think about what you can do, try to find all the ways and means that can solve the problem, and take the initiative to get out of the predicament.

O. Henry tells a story in his "The Last Leaf":

In the ward, a dying patient looked out the window at a tree whose leaves were falling in the autumn wind.

The patient looked at the falling leaves in front of him, and his body deteriorated day by day.

"When all the leaves are gone, I'm going to die," she said. ”

When an old painter learned about it, he drew a leaf with verdant veins and hung it on a branch.

The last leaf never fell. It is only because of this green in life that the patient miraculously survives.

There can be many things in life, but there is no hope. Hope is an important value of human life. Where there is hope, life will be endless! Although Wang Yangming has never been a prime minister, he is more pot-bellied than ordinary prime ministers.

He said: When mortals are happy, they can endure and be silent, when their spirit is carried forward, they can be collected, and when their anger and lust are boiling over, they can be digested.

After quelling King Ning's rebellion, there were more and more people in the court who slandered and talked about Wang Yangming. Wang Yangming didn't care. During the Zhengde period, Wang Yangming was ostracized in the court, and his father happened to die of illness at this time.

For a while, Wang Yangming was overwhelmed by diplomatic difficulties, but he still gritted his teeth and carried it.

Wang Yangming said: The hearts of ordinary people are like a mirror of dirt and dirt. It must be scraped and polished painfully to remove its cracks, and then the dust will be whisked away when it is seen, and it will not consume any effort. At this point, I have learned the benevolence.

The heart of a saint is as bright as a mirror, and it is not stained with dust. The hearts of ordinary people are full of dirt and impurities. It takes a lot of hard work to see the original luster.

Someone asked: What is a cultivated person like?

The most praised answer is: the word "respect" is engraved on the face and heart.

From the elders, relatives and friends, to the younger children, he gets along with them with respect, never exalts himself, never belittles others.

People will always know and meet too many people in their lives, and there is no need to divide the existence between each other.

On the other hand, a person who gets along with others and has a sense of superiority can be called ignorant.

Being a human being is such a principle. Many people care about whether they are decent or not, so that they can hold their heads up in front of others, or they want to show their sense of identity.

Therefore, when such people interact with others, they are accustomed to comparing themselves by status.

Those with high status are servile, and those with low status are seen by dogs.

In the Xingtai earthquake in 1966, the prime minister rushed to the earthquake area.

The eldest lady of a peasant family poured a bowl of water for the prime minister to drink, but the bowl was covered with cornmeal and looked very unclean.

The accompanying doctor was about to stop it, but was dismissed by the prime minister.

Then Premier Zhou took the bowl and drank it all. This move touched everyone present.

The value of a person lies not in how high his status is, but in his ability to be consistently humble.

Those who think they are noble are not worthy of respect.

Zhuge Liang once said: "Don't be a slut because of your wealth." "People who live casually are often better able to live the life they want.

On the contrary, those who sharpen their heads and want to squeeze into the high-level life will not be satisfied with the perfect days.

A cup of tea, crystal clear will not cover the lines at the bottom of the cup, and the tea drinker's heart will not hide his true emotions. The attitude of doing things, you will feel that the tea people are casual but well-behaved.

"Sincerity, gold and stone are open", if you don't show your sincerity in being a person and doing things, you can't impress others.

Pride and pride do not dare to say that tea people have it, but temperament is the characteristic of tea people.

It is said that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and drinking tea for a long time has a good effect on awakening and calming the mind, so the "window" of the tea people's soul is transparent and clean.

If you want to know how deep the relationship between two people is, make an appointment for a drink, and when the alcohol is slightly drunk, many deep emotions can easily surge out.

And if you want to know how true the relationship between two people is, you should invite him to a cup of tea.

Do not fight, do not compromise, do not give up, do not demand. It's single and complex. The first sip is the taste of the first sip, and after a long time, the tea flavor is transformed in the mouth, and enters the throat along the tip of the tongue, and the taste at this time is the most obvious and stimulating.