About 120 years ago, I did a show called Communication, that is, parents here and children here.

Then I asked a question, who has been beaten a lot of people have resisted, at that time the child may still be this, and then I said how many people are nervous.

There is almost no one and no one because he has family affection, in fact, I am talking about the formation of something in the process of people's growth.

Where does this stillness come from, I think it has to come from the stomach first, you have to be afraid of him before you enter, if he is not afraid that he won't come in, there are these two words pinched together called awe, right?

Only when I reach adulthood, for example, I especially admire scholars, I worship this Ma Ye's culture, and then I respect him very much.

But in fact, when he was young, he was a little afraid of eating for the elders, for example, when you see a teacher, he is afraid, because he is afraid, so how can this fear be formed.

Now I think a lot of our families haven't studied this issue, but why did you do it in the past, that is, you said that foreign countries don't let it, but he foreign countries he has some other ways to solve me.

I don't think I'm going to study foreign families, but I personally think we have people talking about a kind of protection if a child breaks the law to let him know to be afraid, but we can do that.

The thunder is heavy and the rain is small, which means that this ceremony made him look terrible, but when it came to the final punishment, he really regretted it in the past, and he would never dare again, and he really didn't dare to protect him.

Instead of saying it's okay, you see that some of us also say that the stain is canceled, but in fact, after the stain is canceled, then we say what is the cancellation of the stain in our crime, that is, after you committed the crime, he did not record it at that time.

That is, before the age of 18.

Or how old it is that it is not recorded.

I don't advocate that children are small and big, but it must be necessary to let him know that this thing is not up to this step.

For example, I once met this in Wuxi, one of my peers was the office director, and he told me that his grandmother watched him when he was a child.

He said that what he was most afraid of was the rattan behind his grandmother's door, and it was really what he said, once he closed the door, he immediately knelt as soon as the tang car was taken out.

Then he said, I don't dare anymore, I don't dare anymore, so some of you don't have a fat, you said that the thunder is big and the rain is small.

I found out that my dad had this art when I was a kid.

What should I do, then you can't help but criticize him, or whether his teacher will tremble or not now.

That is to say, this guy is scary, he jumped, and now the problem is like this, all our social education has become a kind of indulgent education, and in this case, everyone is hiding.

In fact, what Teacher Mei Jing said at the beginning was very accurate, that is, we should develop a habit from an early age, so carbon monoxide, from this education.

We are the whole country, we have a point in our life that we don't do this kind of physical frustration education, you look at the child, then the child wears shorts and runs in the snow, none of our parents do it.

Parents went to school to make trouble, so how do you get our child to catch a cold?

I also think it's understandable because my mom also has this problem, but I think Chinese parents have a problem or a lot of parents.

It's that they're the saviors, and they're a kind of moody hit, and my parents beat me when I was a kid, but they'll first make a rule, what kind of things you did.

Then I might answer questions, so you'll be very clear about this reference, the conditions and not you at every turn.

Alas, if you want you to rule the country according to the law, I think of myself, when I was a child, my parents beat me, my mother beat me, my mother beat me.

I have the impression that it is bigger than my store, and I am still Ye Jingbei's father beat me very painfully, he is not good at beating you, he directly takes a feather duster and puts you down, you don't dare to sit on a chair for a week.

Alas, I don't hate it at all, my parents don't hate it at all, why?

It's such a culture, no one has ever been, because the parents didn't leave their children to commute to work like this before, and then this and the second one means that when I grow up, my parents indulge me, then I understand.

My little parents didn't care what I did when I fell in love and got married, and I didn't care about anything, and then after it was over, for example, you were going to get married.

As soon as you tell your parents that your parents think it's good, everything is good, and I won't interfere without me, and if you haven't interfered with me, haven't you interfered with me?

Ah, so I think because Mr. Uh-Mekin didn't say it, I didn't think about it because you think I was a child.

Hitting my mom in the face is what I'm looking for.,I'm just one reason now.,I can't remember that he was the one he was.,I was crying with that aunt hugging me.,

So I was impressed, the aunt cried, and told the aunt that she had a daughter, she had a very good relationship with my mother, she had a daughter, she didn't have a son, so she especially liked the boy fruit.

When she slapped me, he hugged me and cried, and I don't remember if he hadn't hugged me.

He hugged me and cried, and I was under the impression that I was thinking that my mother was beating me, and I remembered that such an incident was probably traumatic, and now I remember that it was wrong for me.

Then why didn't he beat me for no reason, because my parents are educated, but Ye Jingbei's father belongs to him and has a horizontal striped lock on his hand, so Ye Jingbei has a rule, that is, he doesn't let my father touch my will.

But as soon as I did something wrong, my mom would definitely do it, and I remember one time when I was rehabilitated and ran out of my thigh, my mom chased after me, chased half of the playground, and then a lot of neighbors rushed out to say.

Why do you think that after he got home, he didn't play every day, and then whether this is related to a certain consensus and tradition of a certain society, for example, if you say that, you think it's especially like your generation.

But if you look at it like you're in a foreign country, then you think this kid has called the police.

Then, countless people have been telling my shadow as an adult, because I was abused by my parents when I was a child, and even beaten and scolded, alas, caused all kinds of abnormalities in me today.

In that society, this is a very big, simply intolerable thing, that is, whoever dares to do something with a child is not allowed by the state, so he just said.

Culture is the thickest and most powerful curtain because we have cultural reasons.

Because sometimes it is the stock that forces the adult to jump off the building, and you owe millions, for the child, in his world, this is equivalent to that event.

Because he didn't have stocks, this more reasonable two points less to be humiliated in front of his classmates that he felt was bigger than the sky.

I think there is another one, because I also had the experience of being forced to jump off the building by my parents when I was a child, but one of the reasons why I didn't jump at that time was because I felt that my mother was towards me.

I'm not absolutely desperate in that environment, but if you're in a car, for example, it's a secret space.

I'm just living with someone who keeps rebuking me, I don't have any hope, I don't have any help.

I think I'm also very uncomfortable with the conflict all of a sudden, you can't get past this hurdle, you said this, you used to tell us that there is a kind of passion killing, that is, people will be like this all at once.

Isn't it easier for the child, he is indeed the main time of his occurrence, you see all this a lot of conflicts are in adolescence, what is adolescence?

It is the sexual development of human beings, and the average girl is 12-year-old boy, and it will be messed up all at once, because there was no such gonadal chalk before.

Then, what will happen to the person after it is secreted, is that he is emotionally unstable, he is happy when he is happy, but he is generally very rapid change.

For example, if you say you're not happy, you're not happy right away, and if you're happy, you'll be happy right away, and he's not like us when we're adults, and I'll tell you that I've recently discovered this process.

Of course, Ye Jingbei is superficial, my Ye Jingbei sees them talking about that life is really a circle, I think it, it seems that this menopause is a bit similar to the symptoms of puberty, they are-

Especially this one, sometimes they say women, sometimes this face suddenly flushes, and then suddenly gets excited, and suddenly the eyes are very tired, alas, it is a physiological hidden danger and a follow-up problem.

Then, where is the most important thing for us? It is the most stressful period in your life before you catch up with the official college entrance examination of adolescence.

So at this stage, that is to say, the Chinese family I just talked about is like this, you are very happy, because so many old people spoil you, adults spoil you, and then you are very happy, you can go until you are 12 years old in primary school.

But as soon as you get to middle school, you will sleep until the high school entrance examination is gone, and from the middle school entrance examination to the college entrance examination, it is the 6 years of life, that is, you have to carry your whole life in these 6 years, so there are many children at this time.

If he studies well, there is no problem, but when he does not study well, he has no second path, no second path, and his parents force him to say that you must work hard, how can you score now.

Then there will be a conflict at this time, of course, in this case, I don't think it's just a matter of studying, he has a conflict with his classmates, and then my mother means that maybe I didn't talk to him.

This is also a problem, sometimes I think here, maybe he is that, is he fighting with classmates outside, parents should still say to their own children, in fact, how to say this.

I remember when I first learned to drive, every time I hit the road.

Sometimes it's just that I'm angry at the beginning, and then I feel that the front is working overtime and the front is not fast, and then I'm chattering there.

What about my daughter, I said this at the time, I got you a microphone and you said it, and every time, when I was very angry, he had to talk about me.

He said look at Ye Jingbei why did you start talking about you again, you just couldn't hold your breath, I said at that time, I said, why don't you always talk to me, you always talk to others, it's normal.

Because he thinks you're not worth it from that angle, but you're watching, and you're angry.

So Ye Jingbei thinks that this is the problem of social roles we are talking about, that is, everyone is in a different position, and he does have a problem for parents now, that is, for example, watching his news.

He was afraid, and I was going to discipline this boy, because he was unpredictable.

When the child is a child, he can't love you, and then wait until when he is more serious, that is, the pressure of learning is high, and you have to go to junior high school if you don't study at this time.

He thinks that you can't go to college and can't find a good job, and at this time he is very anxious, and you don't think you are in a hurry before and you are in a hurry now.

And there is no desensitization, it is a good time to miss the best result, as soon as it passes, I also see an example, that is, a few years ago, this parent quarreled with this daughter, uh.

This daughter was probably 13 years old when she was rebellious, because most of our parents were in the rebellious stage, helpless, and often opened a room on the teenth floor of that girl so beautiful.

Of course, there is something wrong with her family, and that is because when we were children, we were often beaten when we were children, so I don't know who jumped, I transferred this kid to beat the child, I thought that at the time.

When we were young, we exchanged experiences, and we loved to fight, and then I taught them an experience, that is, your parents beat you the most, at least they still talk about the rules, and basically hit the arm first.

When you hit your arm, you must pout your arm, and then retract it with the rhythm when he falls, so that it will hit him lightly, and it doesn't hurt so much, right?

Then he shouted for help, and the ugly child shouted for this parent, and someone knocked on the door, and as soon as he knocked on the door, he said that the child should hit the neighbor, and the beat was painful to death.

But I think it's what children should do from an adult's point of view.

Actually, I think it's a little problematic that I now gradually understand that the proportion of the adult world is different from the proportion of the child's world.

What is the meaning?

For example, when I was in elementary school, I was a studio captain, and my job was to check whether my classmates were wearing red scarves at the school gate, which was a very small thing.

If you say that there is no vixen, you will be deducted two points, this is a trivial matter, and then you will always see that child without a red scarf and start to make trouble, and the parents will start to say what if you buy me a red scarf.

And then the adults think it's a big deal, but you can see that the child is crying there, because deducting two points is a big deal for him, but in the proportion of this adult world.

It's a small thing.

So I think you actually have a cognitive dissonance, just adults think that you are messing with me because of this, but for children this is the whole world, I will be gone without this thing, isn't that also true?

That's why I think it's very true, that is, Ye Jingbei, I mean, you can't say that children are squeamish or can't withstand blows.

Let's just say that we, parents, what should you do to criticize the child and not give him self-esteem.

Then I think the big problem is that this child is too sensitive, and he must have a sense of movement, and everyone now has this problem, but he can't stand being said.

I feel more and more dull now, I used to be the one who slandered me on the Internet, I was very angry, and now who is Ye Jingbei I think this is laughing, right, this is what you have to practice and practice, do you know that?

A girl's sophomore in high school is his homeroom teacher, but he may see his early love, and then the head teacher will say a few cruel words, of course, whether he said this is also controversial now.

But this girl has been squatting on the floor, and it will be like this after a while, so you say that we can rush to this life, which means that you are too tender, and you can't withstand the blow, isn't this unkind?

Actually, I think it's just that you just talked about these issues, from my point of view, from my professional point of view.

I think that the psychological development of human beings is a process of salvation, and this process is actually in this process.

You want to prevent something from happening to him later.

You have to do something before, so here for example, we have a concept called desensitization, what is desensitization?

Slowly adapt to a certain type of things that are bad, rather than being exposed to them all at once, and general desensitization is only for bad things.

So, it is to be a smart parent, in fact, his child hurt him a few words in his early years, and often joked with each other at home,

Even yelled at him directly when he was in a hurry, he was used to it and it would be no problem when he got to that time, what is the key now?

Just now I was as fat as a pig, alas, I did hear that some Chinese parents like villains to entertain their children, so you say that parents love their children, but what does his words and deeds express?

Ye Jingbei thinks that this is a problem of a possible generation, that is, I had a lot of this kind of thing when I was a child.

But I don't think it's bad, it's my generation, for example, when we just started working, many leaders are very ruthless and speak very hard, and then I am not counting my father's third generation.

It's like my child, my father also spoke very hard to him, once when I was at home, he suddenly yelled at me and said that he was so young, you put him on the shelf.

My father said at the time that no one would be able to scare him when he went through this and this and this kind of thing in the future, but this kind of exchange of thoughts is a strong education.

That's right, so it's just that when you hurt something, you know it's a joke, and it's also a kind of maturity, and if you can't stand it at all.

Ye Jingbei said: If you want to go to society in the future, then there is nothing right, but I think, but I think there are two kinds of derogation, like when I was a child, I couldn't stand this kind of derogation, it was the derogation of my parents in front of outsiders.

Leng Shuiyue said: Because I think you are at home, you say whatever you say by yourself, it seems that we can all say it, but, of course, a childhood shadow after a child is about 12 years old when it first starts to develop.

Ye Jingbei said: Then, my mother came to the house as a guest, and he showed others that you see what he has developed.

This actually seems to me to be a very, very shameful thing, but coming out, and then I feel as if I am talking about him in front of outsiders, it is another kind of bigger psychology.

Ye Jingbei said: What shadow has the above caused to you, I just don't dare to say that my development is two problems, the first is your privacy problem, it is being exposed.

There is another kind in traditional Chinese culture, which believes that teaching children in person is a culture, and teaching children in person is the logic behind teaching children.

Leng Shuiyue said: Alas, anyway, you are like this, I must say that it is useless when you are at home with the door closed.