As the saying goes, ginger is still old and spicy.

At this time, the old man appropriately played the role of a peacemaker.

Although he lowered his figure, he still maintained the "sanctimonious" tone and demeanor of the elders in his words. Sitting on the side of the kang, he said kindly: "Daughter-in-law, it was my son's fault just now, he spoke a little unreasonably, and his tone was a little excited, no matter how you say it, you have married into our family today, for the sake of my father-in-law's face, don't be like him." ”

Seeing that his daughter-in-law was still bowing her head, the old man continued: "No matter what, today is also a big day for the two of you, although my family's conditions are average, but no matter how we say it, we can be regarded as the right person, don't hurt everyone's harmony because of this little thing." ”

may feel that it is a little inconvenient to speak in this position, so the old man changed his position to face his daughter-in-law, and continued to go down the steps: "Daughter-in-law, you see if this will work, it's too late today, you make do with it first, just put on your shoes and get down, let's have a glass of wine together as a family, and wait until tomorrow after dawn, you see what else you want, the two of you are discussing." What's going on?"

In three simple sentences, the old man expressed three meanings. But the superficial meaning is completely different from the actual meaning.

The first sentence is ostensibly intended to apologize. In fact, I told my mother that I am always the daughter-in-law of my family, and I am your father-in-law and your elder. So you must listen to me.

The second sentence of a "right door" expresses the true intention of this sentence, which is to tell the mother that both of us are very poor, both of them are half a catty and eight taels, you don't dislike my son for being poor, and my son certainly won't dislike you for being poor.

The third sentence is to tell the mother, whether you are happy or not today, no matter what. Tomorrow's matter, you will discuss it with my son tomorrow, and you will have the final say on whether you agree with my son or not.

In fact, a month after returning to his home, the old man wrote a handwritten letter of more than 20 pages to his mother, sent it to his father's factory, explained it word by word, and let his son personally "fall" on his daughter-in-law.

The first sentence of the original text of the letter is: The daughter-in-law (the original text is called by her name, I will not explain it here), let the elders apologize to you, you are not a thing!

Then, he recounted the events of the wedding night again, and explained his "commitment" to apologize word by word, if he did not know the truth, he would definitely be able to see that he was "in tears" and suffered a great grievance.

What is also excessive is that the old man also put forward the only family rule in the letter: it stipulates that all affairs in the family are decided by him, and must be approved by him.

For example, to buy a basin and a pair of chopsticks, you must write a letter asking for instructions, and you can only purchase it after his consent. What's more, it is stipulated that the daily standard of living and meals cannot exceed the living standard of the eldest (father's own brother) family. All the big and small things in the family must be taken care of by the old man himself.

Afraid that my son's life will be good? What kind of rule is this!

The hero is naturally obedient. If the mother violates it, she will inevitably enjoy the "old three" treatment of the hero. The first is to greet our ancestors and relatives; the second is to stir up nonsense, to play right and wrong, and to make something out of nothing; and the third is to "suppress by force."

After receiving the old man's letter, the mother cried for three days and three nights, and only a little good impression of the elders was gone, and the despicable character of the hero's family was measured at the expense of her lifelong happiness.

The ancient precept of Liyuan said: Learn art first and learn morality, and be a person before acting. The cart before the horse is nothing more than that.

The authorities are obsessed. My mother was very young at that time, and on the night of the wedding, she only relied on a few words from her father-in-law, and felt that her father-in-law's character was not bad. And considering that it is indeed his own happy day, it is natural to respect the wishes of the elderly. So, he forced a smile to complete the first order given to him by the groom.

On the second day of marriage, my mother learned that the newlywed house was rented. In addition to the bed, table, and a few chopsticks, even the pots were borrowed.

Perhaps this is one of the real reasons why on the day of the wedding, the wedding waits until the evening.

But when I realized it, I already had the fact that it was already a boat. Coupled with the feudal ideology and grandfather's words and deeds, influenced by the ideas of "the daughter who marries out of the water" and "the children of the family are not allowed to divorce", even if the life is hard and difficult, no matter how much grievance is suffered, he can only swallow his anger and show his glamorous side to others.

After marrying Daxia, because it was too far away from home, the road was very inconvenient for more than 40 miles, the only means of transportation were bicycles, and the school had no place to stay, so my mother quit her job as a rural teacher.

At that time, a mica deposit was discovered in a nearby village, which was relatively abundant. Therefore, in order to promote the development of the local economy and industry, the government opened mines and built factories there. My mother got a job in the mines.

Of course, it is not a clerical job, but a hard job that can only be applied for as a man. In this way, my mother, with her own hard bones, did the work of manual transportation and the most primitive manual mining that even men could not insist on for a long time.

Relying on the relationship that the old man is a people's teacher, the hero works as a worker in the state-owned factory-hardware machinery factory. At that time, the state-owned factories were happy to enjoy the harvest during droughts and floods, and this was giving some opportunistic people some opportunities to take advantage of.

For example, the hero never goes to work, and asks for leave every day to stay at home. Claiming to be in poor health and always sick. Later, because it was too troublesome to take sick leave every day, I simply asked someone to help issue a diagnosis certificate in the hospital. In this way, you can "cultivate yourself" at home for a long time. It's really just an excuse not to want to go to work.

In the Buddhist scriptures, it is said that what you sow, what you reap, what you reap. At the beginning of the reform and opening up and the reform of the joint-stock system in state-owned factories, he was the first person in a state-owned unit to be forcibly ordered to be laid off by a "red-headed document"; after the reform of the joint-stock system, when the workers of the original factories were called on to return to work and continue to realize their own value, he was the only worker who was not rehired.

At that time, the development of the socio-economic level was limited, and the wages of ordinary families were not high. With her hard work, her mother earned 48 yuan a month, and the hero rested at home every day, and his salary was 36 yuan a month under the premise of ensuring the harvest during the initial drought and flood. Mother works hard every day, in order to be able to give more rice and noodles at the end of the year and improve the life of the family;

In addition to the work of earning money, the mother also has to take on the housework when she returns home.

may be to echo the "sick leave" announced to the outside world, the hero seems to be languishing all day long, lying at home all the time, living a life like "clothes to reach out, food to open his mouth".

As time goes by, my mother will inevitably be resentful and complain: "You are a big man, a seven-foot man, and you look sick all day long." If you're really sick and uncomfortable, you can lie down as much as you want, but don't you have a little self-knowledge?"

The more my mother spoke, the more angry she became, "Why don't you go outside while you're young and strong to make some more money?" Thinking about improving your family's living conditions? Rent someone else's house all day long, and have to wait for others to finish cooking before borrowing a pot, it's not a shame!"

"You say you're sick, okay! I believe you're sick, so can't you cook at home? Lying at home every day, eating, sleeping, sleeping, and eating, I go out every day to do a man's business, and I have to go home to serve you to cook, eat, wash dishes, and wash clothes, and you're still not a man? You can't even afford to support yourself, how can you feed this family!"

In general, how does a man react when he hears his wife say this?

Don't say you don't know, if you really don't know, you can try to live at home for 3 days, live a life of clothes and food, stretch your hands, and do nothing (smirk), and then you will understand......

Guess what the hero's first reaction was?

Greetings to ancestors are naturally not mentioned. Roared like thunder: "You dislike me, don't you? Or you have someone outside, it's great to earn a few more money than me, isn'?......t it?

The more the hero spoke, the more excited he became, and then with a "snap" and a loud slap, it fell on his mother's face, and the weak mother fell down in response, covering her hot cheek with her left hand, and cried aggrievedly.

Then only to hear the sound of the "bell", the hero stepped with a strong wind, slammed the door and walked away. Completely ignoring the life or death of the woman who was already pregnant.

Although I don't know how much the feudal ideology and social background at that time influenced the generation like my mother in the fifties of the twentieth century. But I always believe that mothers are one of the few cases.

The only difference is that it takes an author like me to write these stories.

My mother would always say to me dotingly, "If Mom leaves, how can there be your sister and you?"

Yes, I will always remember that it was my parents who gave me life......

Mother is a very self-reliant person. No matter what the state of life is, poor, hard, and difficult, I just silently have to keep struggling and working hard.

When my siblings were young, my mother rarely mentioned our sadness and distress, and often told us that we should study hard, work hard, and strive for a good life.

This coincides with the concept of "a happy life is born of struggle" put forward by a certain leader.

So when she was young, she went through all kinds of hardships and hardships, but she never stopped on the road of struggle, mine, construction site, selling shoes, washing dishes, washing dishes, cooking...

Maybe that's how my mother influenced my life.