"Brother, I'm crossing!!"

Yuan Hui rushed into Yuan Jia's room, dancing and depicting the fact that she had crossed over.

"I didn't sleep in your room last night, but I woke up and went to my room!

Yuan Jia plugged his phone into the line to charge, and walked over and played his stupid sister with a brain meltdown.

"Yes, yes, you fell asleep last night and rolled back to your room, don't brush your teeth yet. ”

"Liar, I'm just crossing!"

Yuan Hui ran to the kitchen again to show off to Yang Hemei, and then was scolded, and obediently went to the bathroom with her brother to brush her teeth.

The little girl was still a little depressed, and thought that she was like in the TV series, and she woke up and crossed over.

Yuan Jia squeezed some toothpaste for her, and Yuan Hui hurriedly said: "Enough is enough, much better, I have no teeth, super spicy." ”

"I'll look at your teeth. ”

Yuan Jia held Huihui's chin, and she bared her teeth to show her brother, and after a closer look, the front teeth were about a millimeter longer than the previous few days.

"I didn't lick it, did it look crooked?"

"No, it's beautiful. ”

Yuan Hui was relieved, holding the toothbrush stick in her mouth, and said with bubbles in her mouth: "Qiao Shanshan also changed her front teeth, and her front teeth fell out during class yesterday." ”

Then Yuan Hui began to describe that after Qiao Shanshan's front teeth fell out, she was afraid that she would become as ugly as Yuan Hui, so she stuffed the fallen front teeth into the tooth hole, but she couldn't stop it.

Yuanjia: "......"

After a while, Yuan Jia held back a smile, washed the towel with hot water, and wiped Huihui's face.

"Why doesn't Ika have to change her teeth?"

"It's changed, too. ”

"Well, why didn't I find ......?"

"It may have been eaten. ”

Ika, who was pooping on the toilet, listened to the conversation between the brother and sister, and her face was full of question marks.

Today, Saturday, Yuan Hui didn't have to go to school, and she wanted to go to work with her brother, but she was pressed by her mother to do homework at home.

"When you're done with today's homework, I'll take you to the zoo when I'm free in the afternoon. Yuan Jia put on his shoes and was ready to go out.

As soon as she heard that she was going to the zoo, Yuan Hui became energetic, and obediently took out the exercise book from her schoolbag and began to do her homework.

It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, let's talk about it when you're done.

……

When I came to the consultation room, it was past eight o'clock, Yuan Jia cleaned up, made a pot of tea, and waited for the appointment guests who came later.

It's a boy in the fourth year of high school who made an appointment yesterday to consult about exam syndrome.

At half past nine, the boy and his parents arrived at the counseling room on time.

"Hello Mr. Yuan. ”

"Hello Mr. Chen, this is classmate Chen Yuan. ”

Unlike Liu Yuan, Chen Yuan really suffered from exam syndrome, wearing an old school uniform, about seven or eight meters tall, as thin as a bamboo pole, and carrying a black schoolbag on his shoulder, which was full of study materials, pressing his already thin body to look a little rickety.

He is a repeat student in the third year of high school, which is often referred to as a senior in high school.

Since he failed last year's college entrance examination, he has suffered from exam syndrome, and every time he encounters an exam, he can't help but be nervous, because of the pressure, he has lost as much as 20 pounds in this year.

Chen Yuan had a watch in his hand, and when Yuan Jia was talking to his father, he looked at it frequently, and every minute was very close.

After only five minutes in the break room, he took out a set of mock questions from his school bag and started working on them.

"Mr. Chen should have known about exam syndrome, right?

"It's not that big...... There is pressure to be motivated, his mother and I both hope that he can be admitted to Zhejiang University, we are all from the past, reading can change fate, those of us who are parents have not read, naturally hope that Chen Yuan can be admitted to a better school, and it will be easy to find a job in the future. ”

Chen's father didn't seem to realize how stressful it was for a student to be admitted to Zhejiang University, even if he was the first in the perennial class, he didn't dare to guarantee that he would be able to pass the exam.

"What is Chen Yuan's results, it is when he plays normally. ”

"I can barely have a chance, so I set him the goal of Zhejiang University. ”

"What university does he want to go to?"

"Uh...... He hasn't told us about this, but he is very sensible, and we hope that he will be admitted to Zhejiang University, and he has always taken this as his goal. ”

Yuan Jia already basically understood the reasons for Chen Yuan's exam phobia, firstly, because of his own lack of assertiveness, and secondly, because his parents lacked communication with him, which gave him too much goal, so that there was huge pressure.

The college entrance examination is the most important test in life, and Chen Yuan, who lacks assertiveness, is imperceptibly influenced by his parents to equate the college entrance examination results with his future life.

Under this kind of pressure, how can he play his usual level normally, and after a loss, his confidence is undoubtedly a huge blow.

"Mr. Chen, Chen Yuan's exam syndrome, you have to bear 80% responsibility, the college entrance examination is not equal to the future, as a parent, excessive expectations are the biggest pressure on Chen Yuan. ”

Hearing Yuan Jia's direct words, Father Chen opened his mouth and wanted to say something.

As if he could know what he wanted to say, Yuan Jia continued, "Do you think this is for his good, then have you asked him what he likes, or what kind of life he wants?"

Father Chen was stunned and stopped talking.

He really didn't ask Chen Yuan what kind of future he wanted, his son has always been very sensible, and it also made their parents' faces very bright, and they usually showed off to their relatives and neighbors when they said, 'My son is very obedient', 'his grades are very good', and 'sensible'

"It seems to you that Chen Yuan understands his own pursuits, but in fact, what he pursues is just what you expect him to pursue. ”

Yuan Jia looked at Father Chen's eyes and said, "He is the continuation of your life, but he is not a tool for you to make up for your regrets, he should have his own soul, his own pursuit, and the future he wants." ”

Chen's father was speechless, although Yuan Jia didn't listen to what he said, but it really hit his heart, because he didn't read a good book back then, after his son was born, he pinned his hopes on Chen Yuan, and all topics about his son are inseparable from the word 'achievement'.

He really never asked his son what he wanted, and subconsciously thought that what he arranged for him was what he wanted, and it was the most suitable for him.

Chen Yuan is also very sensible, every time he gets good grades in the exam and sees his parents happy, he also thinks that this is his own happiness, and he doesn't dare to say anything he wants, for fear of seeing his parents' displeased eyes, this kind of sensibility is actually wronged himself.

"Teacher Yuan, what should I do then?" Father Chen asked.

Yuan Jia got up and took a copy of the materials from the bookshelf, printed one and handed it to Chen's father.

"This is my summary of 'how to be a good parent's 20 things to pay attention to', and you and your wife will take a detailed look at the contents. ”

Father Chen was flipping through the manual, and Yuan Jia also made some explanations from time to time according to his questions.

1. Learn to listen instead of rushing to evaluate

2. He is an independent individual with his own future

3. You can lose your temper, but if your son loses his temper one day, please tremble and don't speak, because he was like that at the time

4. Communicate more, not preach

5. Don't bring emotions home

6. You don't have to tell him what to do, you just lead by example

7. Raising children is not about preventing old age

8. Sometimes you need to apologize sincerely, too

9. Happiness is more important than excellence

10. He also has his own privacy

11. The home is a warm harbor, not your power field

12. Respect his hobbies, preferably with whom he shares at least one hobby

13. Please don't have bad habits

14. Don't complain in front of him

15. Don't say 'I'm here for your good'

16. He must be imperfect, but he must also have his own merits

17. How long has it been since you praised him?

18. Keep your word, even if he is only three years old

19. Don't quarrel with your wife (husband) in front of him

20. Poverty is your own reason, not poverty for the sake of supporting him and providing him with education

If you don't count punctuation, there are 312 words in total, but it's just about 300 words, and most parents can't even do half of it.

"Many times, we always say 'neighbor's child' but forget 'neighbor's parent', and when something goes wrong, we first reflect on ourselves and what we haven't done well. ”

"At present, try not to put too much pressure on Chen Yuan, you can accompany him to relax, travel, fish, go climbing, there is a lot of time, and there are many things you can do. ”

"But don't be overly concerned, just let it be, the last college entrance examination, I guess you must have been waiting outside the exam room, right? Or simply rent a house to accompany him? In fact, it is not necessary, it makes him more nervous during the exam, and it will make him feel like his parents' eyes are looking at him when he is doing the questions. ”

"As a sensible parent, there are many things, although he doesn't say it, but you have to understand. ”

Seeing Father Chen flipping through the manual with a surprised face, Yuan Jia also sighed secretly.

If every parent had such a handbook of '20 Things to Pay Attention to on How to Be a Good Parent', it would probably reduce psychological problems by 70%.

Do you want one for your parents?

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