In fact, speaking of which, Xu Jiannan has already roughly figured out her condition. It's just that this situation is far more complicated than she imagined before, and what Xu Jianan has to think about now is how to let her understand her condition, obviously, Fang Jiaqi doesn't feel that she has a very serious mental illness now.

Fang Jiaqi seemed to have endless complaints, she gushed about her pain, sometimes angry, sometimes sad, sometimes helpless and desperate. Only when it comes to her brother can she be a little calmer.

Xu Jiannan asked, "You came here, do your family know?"

Fang Jiaqi turned her face and replied coldly: "No, I rarely talk to them now, no one can understand me, I don't think I can communicate with them at all." It's like...... They don't understand what I'm saying, I can't hear what they say, the whole world seems to be a mess, and I don't understand why that's happening. ”

Xu Jiannan didn't want to tell her the truth at once, for fear that she wouldn't be able to accept it, and she wouldn't accept it. So Xu Jiannan was not in a hurry to talk about his condition, but asked step by step: "Do you have a boyfriend?"

"What ......?" Fang Jiaqi didn't seem to expect Xu Jiannan to suddenly ask such an irrelevant question, and she didn't answer at the first time by instinct like a normal person, she just looked at Xu Jiannan like that, a little stunned.

Xu Jiannan was not in a hurry, and repeated it carefully: "I want to ask, do you have a boyfriend? Because according to what you said, the current life with your brother and sister-in-law is so painful, why don't you just move out and leave that home? In the end, he is just your brother, he has his family, and you will have your life in the future." Why would you hesitate between murder and suicide rather than leave?"

"I ......" Fang Jiaqi's expression was even more confused, she couldn't even say why.

Xu Jiannan continued to guide and said: "According to your story, I think this kind of life is unbearable for you at all. So since you can't stand it, you can choose to part ways. Also, your parents didn't react to your brother's finding such a difficult and abnormal girlfriend? Did you try to communicate with your family about these personal experiences, and what did they think of your brother's girlfriend?"

Fang Jiaqi's expression was a little dazed, she seemed to be trying her best to think, and she didn't seem to understand what Xu Jianan was saying, and she struggled for a long time before saying: "We don't live with our parents, but my parents know about her existence." But it didn't work...... That woman was too scheming, always putting on an innocent and harmless appearance, confusing everyone around me. No one believed me, and my brother doted on her in front of his family, so this matter was ...... The family couldn't help. ”

"In other words, your family is not disgusted and rejected by your brother's girlfriend, right? Xu Jiannan asked the question from a very neutral angle, to ensure that Fang Jiaqi's heart would not suddenly resist her.

Fang Jiaqi didn't answer immediately, just sighed, and said desperately: "Maybe, no one can save me, life is inherently painful, I really can't hold on." ”

Xu Jiannan explained professionally and rationally: "You are so negative, you often have suicidal thoughts, and you have serious doubts about life and the future. Alienated from the relatives and family around me, I feel powerless about myself, and even occasionally feel disgusted. How much you hate your girlfriends, maybe as much as you hate yourself. The more painful the experience in life, the more you feel like you've broken down and the whole world is dark. You know what, you're depressed. ”

Fang Jiaqi was not surprised at all and said: "After such a long time, anyone will be depressed." By now, I haven't gone crazy yet, and I already feel like I'm strong. Depression or something, I'm not surprised at all, I've been mentally prepared for it. ”

Xu Jiannan smiled slightly and said, "The depression I am talking about is not the depression you understand. Although depression sounds very common now, not the majority of people actually suffer from depression. Depression is not the kind of bad mood that ordinary people understand, feeling down, feeling down, not being happy, and so on. Unhappy, and depressed, are two different things entirely. Depression is not only a psychological disorder that cannot control itself, but also a physical pathology. For example, pituitary gland secretion and the like. But your condition is not the same as ordinary depression. ”

"Oh......? What's wrong with me?Doctor Xu, do you think I have a problem too?" Fang Jiaqi's expression was a little nervous, as if she was worried about this last straw and didn't trust her.

Xu Jiannan didn't answer the question directly, but changed the topic and asked directly: "You always call your brother 'my brother', can I ask his name?"

"Name ......" Fang Jiaqi frowned and began to be dazed again.

Xu Jianan said: "Yes, if it is a brother and sister, he should have the same surname as you, right?"

"......" Fang Jiaqi was very anxious, pursed her mouth tightly, and didn't say a word.

"Is that a difficult question to answer?"

"It's not hard to ......"

Xu Jiannan said again: "Okay, let's let go of your brother first, and then talk about your brother's girlfriend, that is, your best friend." You never mentioned her name all the time, always calling her 'she' or 'that woman' or something like that. Can you tell me why? We chat, and under normal circumstances, isn't it more convenient to say by name?"

"......" Fang Jiaqi's anxiety became more obvious, and she was even a little impatient and couldn't sit still. But her irritability is not aimed at Xu Jianan, but more like the question itself, or why she can't answer it.

Xu Jianan gave her two minutes to relieve, and then said casually: "Actually, you are far stronger than you think." In terms of scientific and psychological explanations, it has been shown that women are far more tolerant of pain than men. Especially physical pain, such as morning sickness, labor pains, labor, uterine opening and equality during childbirth...... Well, these pains are not only incomprehensible to men, but also to you. Xu Jiannan was always smiling.

But when Fang Jiaqi heard this, she retorted: "Of course I can know that the pain of the entire pelvis being torn apart will definitely never be imagined by their men." Dr. Xu, I agree with what you said, women are indeed more tolerant. Both physical and mental...... No matter how much pain I have, I want to grit my teeth and endure it. ”

Xu Jiannan nodded in understanding, and smiled again: "Actually, what I just said is just a misleading, and the pain is all expressed by the bearer himself." In other words, no one can better understand what kind of pain it is except the person who is suffering from it. Regardless of gender, everyone is born with a different sensitivity to pain and tolerance levels. For example, if you stick a needle, some people will feel like a mosquito bite, while others will feel that it is painful to cut the skin. So there is no real definition of pain, and there is no solid indication of whether a man or a woman is more able to bear the pain. What I just said just now was actually just to remind you of the pain. You say you know, but it's a woman who has given birth that understands pain. You can't understand it just by me describing it to you. ”

“...... I...... I may ......" Fang Jiaqi panicked for a while, and was a little incoherent.

Xu Jianan continued: "During pregnancy and childbirth, there will be great changes in the endocrine, especially within 20 hours after giving birth, the hormones in the body will change dramatically, which is enough to produce a huge personality change in another person from a biological point of view. That's why most people say that someone has a different personality after giving birth to a child. If, on such a physiological basis, the pregnant woman has a history of genetic disease, family depression or mental illness, then the mental state of the pregnant woman is very dangerous. From the hardships of pregnancy, to the pain of childbirth, the tension of the family, the process of surgery, and the passage of labor, pregnant women will feel nervous and afraid. The mental state at this time varies from person to person, but it is also the period when mental illness occurs at its peak. Once something unfortunately goes wrong, after giving birth, the pregnant woman will be depressed, lonely, sensitive and suspicious, crying, and her temperament will change greatly, rejecting her husband, children, and herself. This particular mental illness, in medicine, is called postpartum depression. ”

Listening to Xu Jianan's eloquent introduction to this professional medical introduction, Fang Jiaqi stared at Xu Jianan nervously and asked, "Doctor Xu...... I, I'm here for counseling, and I don't want to know about those strange diseases...... You...... Why are you saying this to me?"

....................................

Xu Jianan looked at Fang Jiaqi sympathetically, and slowly replied: "Because, you probably didn't realize that the best friend you said brought you endless pain and torture is actually your daughter." ”

"What are you talking about!" Fang Jiaqi suddenly stood up emotionally, her eyes gradually lost her mind, and she glared at Xu Jiannan like a madman.

However, Xu Jiannan was not worried, she also stood up and comforted: "You don't have to be so excited, in fact, understanding your condition is good for you and your family." Remember what I said at the beginning: Now that you're here, you're proof that your sanity can overcome mental barriers. Your subconscious mind is telling you that it's dangerous, you're asking a psychiatrist for help, and you don't want a bigger tragedy, right?"

Fang Jiaqi kept shaking her head and vigorously denied: "No, no, no...... I don't know what you're talking about...... I have no idea what you're talking about......"