kept denying it, but Fang Jiaqi's eyes began to be painful, and her body gradually slumped on the seat, and she did not leave angrily, nor did she make any moves that wanted to hurt Xu Jianan.

Xu Jiannan looked at her, sat down too, and then said to her very formally: "In general, postpartum depression is manifested as loss, loneliness, and helplessness. But obviously, you didn't realize the change in your mood during that process, and maybe your husband and family didn't notice that you were unusual. I'd like to ask if you have a history of mental illness or depression in your family, and if not, can you tell me what major events happened before you got sick?"

Fang Jiaqi shook her head blankly, not knowing what she wanted to express, her expression was dull, and her eyes were empty.

Xu Jianan continued: "You have set a non-existent identity for your daughter, and this identity is your husband's lover. At the same time, you have also set up a fake brother identity for your husband. This can basically be seen that before you have children, your husband should be very doting on you, just like a family member like an older brother or father, holding you in the palm of his hand. That's why you position his false identity as an older brother. When you have your daughter, your depression symptoms have begun to become obvious, but your husband doesn't know it, maybe he feels sorry for you and is probably overworked, so he takes the initiative to take care of the child. Like you said, feed her, dress her, put her to bed, get out of bed. But these things that are shared for you create the next problem. One is that the daughter is taken care of by her husband, she will definitely be more clingy to her father, and the behavior of showing a better relationship with her father will definitely make you uncomfortable. The second is that your husband spends most of his time between work and taking care of the children, so he will definitely neglect to care for you. This is definitely a big change and gap compared to your life before you had children. You have experienced an emotional gap that you imagined for yourself, and you feel that your daughter doesn't love you, and she loves your husband. The husband doesn't love you either, she loves the newborn girl. This delusion continues to develop into an illusion, and in the end you can't tell what is real. Consciously, they recognize them as lovers and put you in pain. ”

Fang Jiaqi subconsciously covered her mouth and didn't say anything at all. But this action has already shown that what Xu Jiannan said is correct. The act of covering one's mouth reflects a state of mind that is strongly denying, but knowing the facts in one's heart, covering one's mouth and not allowing oneself to tell the facts. When something unbelievable is true, it's common for people to behave like this. This is because the "mouth" admits the facts, but the psychology resists the facts, so there is such a "counteracting" action.

Xu Jiannan felt that Fang Jiaqi had not yet reached the most serious point, and should still have a trace of impression of the truth. At least, she still has a lot of affection for her husband. In addition to genetic factors, the occurrence of depression is also closely related to stressful life events and unsound personality traits. This condition is not easy to resolve, especially if the patient has already developed delusions and hallucinations, which are often accompanied by suicidal behavior. Now Fang Jiaqi's condition has obviously repeatedly appeared suicidal behavior and suicidal thoughts, believing that "living is painful, and death is liberation". To make matters worse, she is now experiencing "extended suicidal behavior" and feels that her "brother", who is her husband, is also in pain. In the long run, in the end, when she can't control herself, she will choose to kill her daughter, the source of pain, and then kill her husband to help him get free, and finally commit suicide. Such tragedies have not happened before. Especially in the fields of psychology and psychiatry, cases are not uncommon.

Therefore, Xu Jiannan is very aware of the seriousness of Fang Jiaqi's condition, and her family must be notified of this situation, and medication must also be started. Psychological counseling alone was no longer enough to improve her condition. The only thing Xu Jianan can do now is to let her understand and accept the fact that she is "sick". When she accepted this, at least when she collapsed, she could think that maybe it was really all an illusion. But when it comes to delusions and hallucinations, it's hard to rely on psychological guidance alone.

And Fang Jiaqi still does not accept the fact of postpartum depression, she is a little crying and laughing: "Dr. Xu, you are like them...... They all say I'm crazy...... I told the truth, but no one believed me. Even if I'm crazy, I'm driven crazy by the two of them! I'm fed up with these days...... I'm really fed up...... I'd rather die than suffer like this again......"

This is not the first time Fang Jiaqi has said this, Xu Jiannan first denied her suicidal concept, and told her seriously: "You must know that death does not actually solve the problem, and at the same time, it will also bring endless harm and pain to the living and the people you love." You don't want to hurt them, do you?"

Fang Jiaqi's expression was very painful, but she seemed to have listened to Xu Jianan's words, and was willing to calm down and continue to listen to her.

Xu Jiannan took this opportunity to let Fang Jiaqi close her eyes and relax herself, and guided her to calm down slowly before she continued: "Think about it, you have a husband who loves you and spoils you, and a lovely and beautiful daughter, you brought her into this world, she is the most beautiful existence, and she is also the crystallization of love between your husband and wife." Think back, when you first met your husband, was he the one you remember? He wasn't your brother, he was the one you spent your life with. You love him, you are touched by his tenderness and affection, and your parents have put you in his hands, hoping that he will bring you a lifetime of happiness. You give your body and soul to your lover, and you love him, so you marry him, and you are willing to have children to complete your family. You haven't forgotten the past, you remember it. When Xu Jianan spoke, she didn't forget to carefully observe Fang Jiaqi's expression, her expression was becoming more and more relaxed, although she frowned slightly, but she rarely showed a smile.

In fact, how could Xu Jiannan know about Fang Jiaqi's past? This is just a psychological technique, using most frameworks to apply to a person's state of mind, changing the direction of his conversation at any time according to the changes in her expression. The patient guides the facts, and the psychologist guides the mood. Even if it's not really that good, the effect of suggestion will work subconsciously.

Xu Jiannan wants Fang Jiaqi to know about her illness, and at the same time convince her that the child is a symbol of beauty. Otherwise, it would be a real tragedy for her daughter.

Seeing that Fang Jiaqi's expression was relaxing, and the smile on the corner of her mouth seemed to be reminiscing about the sweet past, Xu Jiannan guided her step by step and gave positive hints: "Daughter is a caring little padded jacket, think about how we feel about our parents as daughters? One day, she will slowly change from a crying baby to a babbling child, and then to a cute little princess, and finally Tingtingyu will become a beautiful girl." All her beauty is given by you and your lover. You'll watch her grow up, comb her hair, change her into beautiful clothes, watch her study, watch her get married. Her life is witnessed by you. This feeling is not felt by anyone but my mother. Your greatness is not only about being conceived in October, but also about what kind of life you give to a life. You try to recall her face, immature and lovely, innocent. Those eyes are full of love for you. You are the closest person to her in the world, and you should be the person who loves her the most in the world. ”

When Xu Jianan mentioned his daughter, Fang Jiaqi's expression suddenly changed at the beginning. That instinctive resistance and resistance can be reflected in the disgust between the brows. But gradually, listening to Xu Jianan's words, she seemed to see a girl from childhood to adulthood, which was the fruit of her marriage and the crystallization of love, and she felt that she should not miss that beautiful process......

When the mind is shaken, those illusory delusions begin to falter. Fang Jiaqi felt a lot of headaches, she couldn't help but hold her head with her hands closed, reality and delusion were colliding in her mind, half of it was reason, half it was madness. Seeing this, Xu Jianan hurriedly encouraged: "In your life, the greatest role must be a mother, don't give up this identity, think about your husband, think about your elderly parents, and think about the daughter who will eventually look like you." Fang Jiaqi, you have a family, a husband, a daughter, and never have any brothers and sisters-in-law. Those false delusions, from the moment you open your eyes, let them go! like dropping a heavy burden, to enjoy the happy and sweet life process in your family. ”

Xu Jianan's suddenly changed command tone, like hypnosis and guidance. This can be decisive at critical moments when the patient is awake and struggling on the verge of collapse. This kind of sober conversation may not have a hypnotic effect, but the suggestiveness is still very powerful. The reason why Xu Jianan did not go to hypnosis was because he was afraid that Fang Jiaqi would lose a lot of emotions and memories during the hypnosis. She wants to preserve all the memories of Fang Jiaqi's experience as much as possible, even if it is this period of illness, when she is sober enough, she will understand her condition and emotions better and avoid recurrence. Depression, regardless of its type, is a condition that recurs. In cases other than pathological, some people have a disease that lasts only a few months, some people last for years, and some people will last for life. And with each recurrence, the chances of suicidal behavior increase by one layer. Xu Jianan hopes that Fang Jiaqi will maintain a sober and positive emotions in her mother's love, so as to control the chance of recurrence of the disease.