Zhang Baotong, the woman behind the man, 2018.1.26

It is a man's blessing to be good for a woman, and a bad woman is a shame and a disaster for a man. The wife of the famous Greek philosopher Socrates was a shrew, and she often scolded her husband, and once she even took a basin of water and threw it at her husband. Mrs. Lincoln's Mary Todd, nicknamed the "White House Vixen," often inexplicably threatened Lincoln, once pouring a cup of hot coffee in Lincoln's face in front of staff and attendants. Worse women such as Pan Jinlian not only were unfaithful to their husbands, but also killed them. There is also the Greek beauty Helen, who eloped with other men, triggering the Trojan War, which wiped out tens of thousands of Trojans.

However, most men always like to judge people by their appearance, because beautiful women can not only attract their eyes, but also their hearts, making men's vision and mood feel pleasant. However, a beautiful woman will think of herself as tall because she is beautiful, her eyes will be empty, and she will be willful and coquettish in front of men. And men will also easily tolerate a woman's mistakes and habits because she is beautiful. This can aggravate the selfishness and willfulness of beautiful women. Some psychologists in the West have even pointed out that beautiful women have some special features that can make men crazy and lose their minds. For example, Bigan repeatedly told the king to stay away from Daji, and Daji was very angry when he learned about it, so he wanted to kill Bigan. So she pretended to be sick, saying that only eating a heart that is better than dry will it be better. Because he favored Daji, despite the opposition of the other ministers, the king killed Bigan and dug out Bigan's heart.

The emperor is like this for his favorite concubines, and ordinary men often have such feelings for beautiful women. For example, a beautiful woman is amorous by nature, and after being discovered by her husband when she was cheating on her outside, her husband beat her up. As a result, people condemned men and sympathized with women.

There are also some actresses who use divorce and cheating to hype themselves, and the more they are hyped, the more prosperous they are, and the more they are hyped, the higher their value. Isn't this a bit anomalous, and what would happen if the same thing happened to an ugly woman?

In our daily life, we can also see some beautiful women who are domineering and domineering, and do not treat their husbands as lovers. I used to have a neighbor in my family, and after his retirement, he worked in a factory, earning two salaries, and he had to pick up the scraps after work. Such a man is already very hard. However, the woman also asked him to cook, wash the pot, and do a lot of housework. And the woman herself sits in front of the computer all day playing games. The reason for this situation is that the woman may have been more beautiful in the past, and she married him subserviently, so the woman felt that he should serve her in this life. There is also a female teacher in my past unit, who looks pretty good, but she thinks that her husband has no job and looks good, and she is very aggrieved to follow him, so she messes around with the leaders of the school in order to join the party and the selection, and finally messes up the principal and her reputation.

The selfishness and willfulness of a beautiful woman not only fail to help a man's career, but often drag down or ruin his future. This is true of Yang Yuhuan, Cleopatra is like this, and so are many beautiful women, famous and unknown. Therefore, the reason why many men are not successful is because he has a beautiful and domineering woman behind him. Of course, ugly women can also be selfish and willful, but they have a much smaller impact on a man's success. If a man marries an ugly woman and does not succeed, then most of this unsuccess is to blame himself.

When a man is looking for a woman, he should look for a well-bred woman, not by his appearance, and should look for a beautiful woman. A well-educated woman is as quiet as an orchid, fragrant, and beautiful in the soul. This kind of woman is not only beautiful in herself, but also makes a man shine. A good woman will not be mediocre, she will make herself smarter and greater, and more and more liked by men. For example, Song Zhenzong, the smart and beautiful Empress Liu, was born poor, her father died early, and she had to wander around, and married a silversmith in her teens. The silversmith's business was not good, so he sold her to the then King Xiang, who was very happy after getting the Liu family, and the two were inseparable, like glue. So much so that King Xiang's father, Song Taizong, was furious and expelled her. Later, Taizong died, and King Xiang ascended the throne as Song Zhenzong. Empress Liu did not have children, but raised the child born to Zhenzong and the maid, and raised it carefully, and this child was canonized as the crown prince at the age of eight. Four years later, Zhenzong died, the crown prince ascended the throne, and Song Renzong was only twelve years old when he ascended the throne, and Empress Liu listened to the government until his death twelve years later. A poor and poor girl, suffering and hardships, not only became the queen, but also assisted her son in ruling for more than ten years. Without superhuman virtue and wisdom, it would be unthinkable.

A good woman is a good teacher for a man. In today's society, there is a lot of competition pressure, and if you want to live a good life, you can't rely on the efforts of one person alone, you need to work hard together as a husband and wife. For men to succeed, they need women's support, attention, appreciation, and edification. For men, there is no end to success, and when the position is high, they will pursue a higher position, and they want to earn more money when they earn more money. However, the higher the position, the more money, the man's taste and pursuit will be higher, so the woman must also continue to improve in terms of soul, taste, temperament, cultivation and appearance, so that the man feels that you always have the magnetism to attract him.

Success is not easy for every man, choosing a good woman is a good start, and a good start is half the success. You have to take something and give something, what you want is her virtuous gentleness, understanding, willing to be a ladder, and silently dedicated. And, of course, her intelligence, sensibilities and full confidence. Such a woman will not only become a man's bosom friend and lover, but also a man's staff assistant. She will guide and persuade you to be angry and enterprising, and willingly pave the way for you. Even if you don't succeed, she won't push you hard, and she won't push you into the crocodile pool when it's profitable.

Success is hard, and there is no set standard for defining success. It can even be said that most men do not consider themselves successful. But whether you succeed or not, everyone has to live this life, and there will be a woman behind them. In fact, if you find a woman you like and live a decent life, that is success in itself.