Gathering and dispersing the general situation Zhang Baotong 2017.5.11

There are many wishes in life: promotion, wealth, and change wives. There is also a desire www.biquge.info to return to the era that we are nostalgic for. However, for most people, promotions, fortunes, and wives are out of reach. And turning back the good times is even more fantastical. Therefore, people sometimes use parties and encounters to relive the good old days.

Where there is a wish, there is regret, and where there is aggregation, there is dispersion. Life is always inseparable from a love word. This love word is like the daily weather and temperature, there are spring, summer, autumn and winter, and there are severe cold and heat. In the cold night, we long for the spring breeze, and in the spring breeze we crave the bonus. However, the spring breeze did not last long, and the flowers bloomed red for a few days. Our wishes seem to be blown by a gust of wind, like a strange dream. Many things are long-awaited and fade away quickly. It's just that after the wind passes, will our mood really be full of greenery? After waking up from a dream, will our wishes really be as clear as spring?

We like to gather and disperse because it breaks the peace and makes some waves in our lives. Just like a life story, the more twists and turns, the more exciting and fascinating it is. I really like to watch the kind of Hollywood blockbusters where the hero saves the beauty and goes through hardships and finally loves one place. It satisfies the unattainable romantic feelings in our hearts. It's just that such scenes and scenarios simply cannot occur in reality. Romantic feelings and mediocre realities often make us feel sad and helpless. Therefore, we can only look for our vague romance in our memories or dreams.

However, literary works are always far beyond reality, and the dispersion and dispersion in the works are always romantic and beautiful, and they also lay a lot of foreshadowing for the dispersion and clutch, leaving a lot of suspense. But in reality, there are all kinds of regrets that make people discouraged and unhappy.

I remember the first class reunion was when I was in junior college. On the occasion of the Chinese New Year, about a dozen of our junior high school classmates were invited to his house by a classmate. We ate melon seeds, drank tea, and chatted together. At that time, the country had just resumed the college entrance examination, because most of our classmates had not graduated from junior high school or had just been recruited from rural areas to join the railway engineering team, and two of us had been admitted to universities because they had not gone to the countryside and had been tutoring in school. It was only after I went to the countryside and joined the work that I was admitted to the junior college. During the meeting, one of my college classmates kept talking about the Goldbach Conjecture. That reportage was a sensation at the time. However, for most of our students who work hard all day in the engineering team, I am afraid that "Goldbach Conjecture" is as unfamiliar to them as a visitor from outside the world. So, throughout the meeting, he was the only one who was talking, and the others were just listening. Among them, there was also a girl who cried bitterly because she worked too early and missed the opportunity to take the college entrance examination. As a result, the classmates only stayed together for a while and then broke up. I don't have a good impression of this class reunion at all, I think it was an occasion that made a few people very proud and most people sad and frustrated. Later, I also officially participated in a few college reunions, and I felt the same.

In fact, we can think about it, not only class reunions, but also family gatherings and friend gatherings. Our family has six brothers and sisters, scattered all over the country, and it is not easy for everyone to get together. Therefore, there is always a suggestion to get together during the Spring Festival, because my mother is 87 years old. For this family reunion, everyone made a lot of preparations, bought a lot of things, and brought their wives, children or husbands to reunite at their mother's house for more than ten days. Originally, the brothers and sisters had the closest relationship with each other, and they should get along very well after not seeing each other for many years. However, this is not the case. People often quarrel because you send less money to your mother, and he worries more about her mother, these useless little things. Then there is who has more money and who has less money, whose courtesy is heavy and whose courtesy is light, whose life is good and whose life is poor, or which person does not say a good word, which will cause others to have suspicions and ideas. Even who wins and who loses when playing cards will make some people happy and some worried. After the New Year, everyone left one by one, and the mutual affection of the past suddenly disappeared. It seems that this party has added some blockages to everyone's hearts, and there are some resentments, which makes the family relationship between brothers and sisters suddenly divide, and even the phone calls to greet each other in the past have begun to be rare. Even if I called, I hung up as soon as I said three or five sentences.

Let's talk about the lover's party. A lover's party should be consensual, both sexes attract, and there should be no problems, but this is not the case. A friend of mine is from Hanzhong, Shaanxi. When he was a student, he had a long-admired lover, who was the most beautiful girl in the class, and he has always been his idol. Originally, the two had been silently in love with each other, but after my friend came to Xi'an to work, the relationship between the two was broken. He felt that the biggest regret in his life was not being able to marry this female classmate. When they were in their forties, the lover divorced her husband and was not in a good mood. When my friend found out, he asked her to come to Xi'an. Although the lover is middle-aged, he is still fresh and beautiful. My friend's wife, on the other hand, is mediocre and a little old-fashioned. It just so happened that my friend's salary was high and he had a lot of time, so he rented a house for his lover in Xi'an and lived a married life together for three days. The relationship between the two is getting closer and closer, so that neither of them can do without the other. However, after two or three months, my lover began to ask my friend to divorce his wife so that he could marry her. As soon as my friend heard this, his attitude immediately changed, because he couldn't divorce his wife, and once he got divorced, many things would change dramatically, and he felt that he couldn't cope with it. However, his lover kept urging him and forcing him, and he had no choice but to start estrangement from his lover. When the lover saw that my friend no longer paid attention to her, she said that my friend had cheated on her, and she cried and quarreled with him, so she went back to Hanzhong. The two lovers who have been in love for many years parted ways like this.

For this kind of thing, everyone will experience and experience something. When people come into the world and walk in a hurry, they will meet many companions who are on the same road or accompany each other. These people have gone through a good life with us, which makes us grateful and nostalgic, which is a kind of beautiful memory and treasure, and sometimes we also have a good wish for them, and want to relive the good old days by seeing each other again. However, time passes, things are people, time cannot be turned back, and youth will not come again. Our good wishes may turn into our regrets.

The Romance of the Three Kingdoms begins with a clear meaning: Speaking of the general trend of the world, it will be together for a long time, and it will be divided for a long time. This is almost the law of the operation of a person's feelings. Relatives, friends, family members, and lovers who have been separated for a long time want to meet each other, so that they can share and have fun together, but after meeting and staying together for a while, they will have some resentment and unhappiness for various reasons, and then they will be separated. After being separated for a long time, the resentment slowly dissipated, and the family, friendship and love slowly sprouted in the bottom of my heart, and gradually grew into a big tree. So, I started thinking about meeting together again. Convergence is due to affection and attachment, and separation is due to avoidance of harm. So, aggregation is a desire, and discretization is also a desire. And our lives are connected by one desire after another. The more we wish, the richer our life will be, and the more our wishes will be fulfilled, the stronger our sense of satisfaction in life will be.

Yes, what else can we do besides gathering and dispersing? Even if the general trend of the world is not also gathering and dispersing? Whether we are at home or outside, whether we get along with our family members or with others, we will inevitably provoke a right and wrong, grievances and grievances, because thousands of people have different habits. What others think and do is not just for you. And your mannerisms and expressions are not appropriate for others. People are emotional creatures, afraid of loneliness and loneliness, and like to live in groups. However, when people are together, conflicts and disputes arise. Therefore, as long as there is gathering and dispersion, there will be right and wrong, grievances and grievances. We will not stop pursuing the beautiful family friendships and romances in our lives because of those rights and wrongs and grievances.

Gathering and dispersing is a vivid and unforgettable emotion in our lives. Without this kind of convergence and dispersion, our life will have much less meaning. It's just that we should understand the purpose and significance of gathering and dispersing, and learn how to make poly and dispersion synthesized into an additive and lubricant for our friendship, family and love.